AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

You haven't mentioned the extension part. I mean is it a side return> Are they knocking down a wall at the back? Will she need a party wall agreement. I thought we wouldn't but a quick call to the surveyors and it turns out we do. Have you asked her about party walls? And what about steels? Will she need steels at the back? I need two and they are so expensive.

Is the kitchen overlooking the garden? I personally love a kitchen that opens out to the garden but really worried that bi-folds are going to date. But that lovely expanse when they are open... really brings the outside in. And the inside out. And vice versa. And then back again.

And let's not forget the units. I'm really torn. Shaker, gloss, grey, cream, greige... its a minefield. I mean children leave home at about 18/19 but you might have that kitchen for the next 30 years. KITCHENS ARE ALMOST FOR LIFE PHYLL. CHILDREN ARE TOO, SORT OF, BUT THEY START HATING YOU AT 13 SO....

She shouldn't get a wood worktop though, unless she wants to seal it every year. Kitchens, and children should be low maintenance really.

Fuck I did it again.

And not just because I want to fill this before my lamo early mummy bedtime. Oh no.

For the non Irish. There you go, you're practically Irish now there's an Ed Sheehan one somewhere too.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=fDgT0a6hepg

m.youtube.com/watch?v=jUCdFJZvWt8

Ed. I want OP to sing this as she leaves fajita Friday if they aren't supportive. It's a classic.

smeaton 20 posts and I shall do it. Or shall I do it now?

Oh, come on you lot I should be emailing ex and I'm coming up with thread titles instead

Fenella 8 week old DD isn't a vegan I'm sure (unless your choice parenting has allowed DC to choose a soya milk diet) but I'm sure you can use one of their vegetarian fajita bombs to throw at their house 💩

Can I please join? Married to an Irish man? And I am a ninja but alas a box one?

But what I lose in Irish points I can make up for in-

A swish kitchen

I am vegan

We practice choice parenting

My friends organised my baby shower and a surprise hen night without me asking

I was the first to marry and have a baby

Ohhhhhh up, of course! Can you explain choice parenting? What happens if it's something they have to do? It's worth pointing out mine is very strong willed

Semi vegan here. Mostly milk we're off. We want to go the full way, but I have a major iron problem :(

Can I make it now? Pleeeeeaaase can I make it now?

I know smeaton, but I am like an excited child

I don't have PFB in there yet. I do have all the others. I'll keep tweaking

smeaton I actually love you I hope you've bought your baby shower gift ready for the party

I have to go to bed. But as dc has woken 3 times since 7 I suspect I will be awake much of the night so will continue to join in. That wine may have been a mistake but it is my birthday (birthday Friday and I'm here with you not getting smashed in town. Where did my life go so right?)

Happy birthday herbluebiro! I should go to bed too, but I'm on knife edge ready to hit 40 pages

This thread has brought back so many hilarious memories of my early parenting days, I can't bear to let it go

I have been thinking of her. Maybe someone has volunteered for the baby shower?

Our take on choice parenting is like a PP said- you empower them with the choice

Would you like an apple or banana for a snack?

Rather than no biscuit. Have a banana.

You either put your shoes on or you go to bed early tonight (or whatever)

So empowering them with the choice to do as you say and all will be dandy or don't do what you say whilst they're aware of the consequences.

It's meant to teach children that all actions have a consequence and they have the power to make that choice.

This is when I'm 100% in Super Mum Mode which isn't 100% of the time like today when we had (vegan) hot cross buns for tea because I couldn't be arsed to faff around cooking

🎶 it's the final count down 🎶

DA NA NA NAAAAAA