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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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Oakmaiden · 19/04/2017 21:32

Ah. For some reason I always read it as "Gina Ford" which sort of fits too...

MiddleClassProblem · 19/04/2017 21:33

Oakmaiden Grin

Chavelita · 19/04/2017 21:33

I'm surprised they only give you the 'side eye'. I'd be planning an assassination attempt. Or trying to get you sent on the Mars mission.

Trb17 · 19/04/2017 21:33

Just. Wow! Confused

Bloggybollocks · 19/04/2017 21:34

Well your post is fucking nauseating so Christ knows what you're like in real life. You're friends are being unreasonable yes, but only because they haven't cut you off yet.

Trills · 19/04/2017 21:34

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first

If you are talking like this I can understand why they don't want to talk to you.

bookworm14 · 19/04/2017 21:34

Fake

Reow · 19/04/2017 21:34

Who is Gina Ford?

flibberdy · 19/04/2017 21:35

Hahaha 2/10. Are you the first of your friends to receive a MN Biscuit ??

PeachPants · 19/04/2017 21:35

God I really wish I was you.

I call bollocks

Waffles80 · 19/04/2017 21:37

Baffling.

noodleaddict · 19/04/2017 21:38

Well if you went to college before all your friends you must be older than them? No surprises you're a step ahead then Hmm

Blueemeraldagain · 19/04/2017 21:38

R-E-V-E-R-S-E (to the tune of Respect by Aretha Franklin).

pasturesgreen · 19/04/2017 21:38

Jesus wept Confused

You're very welcome to my first MN Biscuit

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:39

I thought gf meant girlfriend as in female friend.

And it is me, and it is real. I just wish people would be happy for me. I'm naturally a very positive person. People have said that I'm competitive, but it's not that - everyone has their time to shine!

Maybe I need to go and find a local mums group or something?! I can't surround myself with people who refuse to be happy for me. The real test will be when the baby is born - then we'll see if they stick around when I'm seem as boring for staying home and being a loving and responsible mother!

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TheZeppo · 19/04/2017 21:40

Nope, still not buying it.

Fragglez · 19/04/2017 21:41

Do you actually talk like this?? Does anyone talk like this?!

Try looking at it this way - your non pregnant friends either don't want to be, and so are a shade past disinterested in the in depth details of your pregnancy, or they do want to be and aren't, so you shoving your pregnantness down their throats is down right cruel.

You 'know' your baby is going to be the most perfect human ever. It's called hormones. And love. It's normal, but no one else is feeling it and if you carry on like that they are going to think you are nuts, not just annoying.

And fwiw people that use the term 'blessed' make my teeth itch.

BlessYourCottonSocks · 19/04/2017 21:41

Fucking hell...

MiddleClassProblem · 19/04/2017 21:42

BS BS BS!

Imamouseduh · 19/04/2017 21:42

Oh, bore off.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 19/04/2017 21:42

Is this Maui Haylee under another name?

Feeling blessed. Smile

Allthewaves · 19/04/2017 21:43

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

But before you have kids pregnancy is a boring subject, your friends have no interest in your pregnancy stuff, the whole world does not centre on you and your pregnancy. They probably were happy for you but are now sick to death of the subject. Ditch the baby talk around them and save it for people who have babies. Plus your coming across as smug which isn't attractive

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/04/2017 21:43

"They've become very jealous."
No. They've become very bored.

"I can't stop talking about it."
Try harder.

"I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!! "
Righhhht - Little Miss Competitive. Gotcha.

"Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out."
Yes it would be unreasonable. And self-absorbed.

Allthewaves · 19/04/2017 21:44

And they probably won't have the slightest interest in your baby - sorry that's just how it is

MagicMojito · 19/04/2017 21:44

I can totally believe this is real. Takes all sorts Grin

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