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AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 22:46

I can't help but read OP's posts in a Lauren Spencer voice. It's very incongruous.

KingsCross88 · 19/04/2017 22:47

If you say even a fraction of these things to your friends, I'm amazed you still have friends...

GinAndTunic · 19/04/2017 22:47

Dave, yes please. But only if it's super speshul and you are the first in your social group to have a new bathroom.

OP, please shield your eyes from Dave's post or it might cause you to start to develop another slight headache.

Crispbutty · 19/04/2017 22:48

I'm getting a £16k combi oven, state of the art dishwasher, all stainless steel work surfaces...

(It's a commercial kitchen at work but in the head chef, so it's mine!! Grin)

laurzj82 · 19/04/2017 22:48

Just in case this is real:

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP. Perhaps turn it down a notch. Endless talk about babies is really boring. I think the NCT is a good idea. You can talk about pregnancy and babies as much as you like!

Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 22:49

I wonder how OP's posts would go down on Netmums?

Arkhamasylum · 19/04/2017 22:49

I liked the bit about being a 'responsible mother' and also the bit about telling your friend her kitchen was in bad taste. I'm saying 3.5 out of 10.

GinAndTunic · 19/04/2017 22:50

I so wish the OP had started this thread yesterday as I desperately needed a good laugh then.

OP, please do carry on. I do enjoy a good wind-up.

GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 22:50

Ok. Humour me here. What are you expecting from them that you aren't getting? They won't be as excited as you because it's not their baby. It's that simple. That doesn't mean they're not excited. What do you mean by "comfortable?" Pregnancy isn't an illness and they're not psychic.

JunosRevenge · 19/04/2017 22:50

Is that you, Mary?

FeralBeryl · 19/04/2017 22:50

Ooh tell her not to waste her money on a separate wine fridge if she's going with B&Q, notorious for breaking down and as they're integral - a total bugger to fix.

GinAndTunic · 19/04/2017 22:51

I give the OP 7 out of 10 for artistry but 1 out of 10 for technical skills.

JustCallMeKate · 19/04/2017 22:51

Netmums is here. FFS. 🙄

Strokethefurrywall · 19/04/2017 22:52

This thread is just comedy gold! That wonderful opening post just has me Grin

It's all just so marvelously self-absorbed, real or not! Bravo OP, bravo!

Smeaton · 19/04/2017 22:53

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DavetheCat2001 · 19/04/2017 22:55

GinAndTunic hey what can I say..I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

(what does 'up step ahead' mean anyway...?)

dailydance · 19/04/2017 22:57

Omg! I love this thread. So well put together OP Grin. Please keep it going

scootinFun · 19/04/2017 22:57

You know, thinking about kitchens I have really gone off stainless steel appliances - it shows every little smudge from my little terrors. But a nice island with copper pots and the like hanging overhead is nice. And a decent pantry too! Flooring - I quite like stone flags to be honest - really gives you that 'oomph' moment when you drop the wine bottle :P

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 23:00

GaelicSiog, I just want some support and to feel as if my friends actually care about my upcoming pregnancy. I have girls I went to Uni with on facebook and Instagram who are expecting that have friends who are making such lovely comments about how excited they are for them. I don't seem to get that from my girls.

As for feeling comfortable, it's about not making snide comments or rude gestures. I've actually wound up with some anxiety from here tonight. I came on here to let off some steam and to get some advice. I didn't come on here for people to take the utter piss with comments about kitchens and marking my posts out of ten. I've never seen anything like it on an internet forum, not that I've been on one since I was a teenager anyway!

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TealStar · 19/04/2017 23:00

Gah, bladdy Generation Y-ers (shakes head and tuts, shuffling back to being an old gimmer)

TealStar · 19/04/2017 23:01

But OP, don't you realise that everything that's said on social media is a pile of self-promoting shit?

RedBullBlood · 19/04/2017 23:01

Tsk. It's not even twins? Or triplets?

GinAndTunic · 19/04/2017 23:02

Darned kids. Get off my lawn.

shuffles off to look for Werner's Originals

Kelsoooo · 19/04/2017 23:03

@smeaton Wren are bad! But granite tops are amazing. You can have grooves cut in for draining :-) also talking islands....You can get a massive Corian stealth island. It's AMAZING
#missespoint

shyturnip · 19/04/2017 23:03

You are MN gold OP - bravo 👏🏼