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AIBU?

AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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Willow2017 · 19/04/2017 22:01

Oh ffs this can't be real.
Yes op your baby will do something wonderful. It will pee and puke and explode like nuclear waste in it's nappy just the same as us lesser mortals' babies did.

Congratulations it's a baby, millions are born every day you aren't doing anything your friends haven't heard of before. They must be bored shitless by now.

I am actuallt surprised your friends can hear you up from up there on cloud cuckoo land.

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DancingHouse · 19/04/2017 22:01

2/10

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Smeaton · 19/04/2017 22:02

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CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 19/04/2017 22:03

^^
Grin Grin Grin

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 22:03

Thank you to the few of you who were kind enough to provide me with some solid advice. I would very much like to widen my social group.

I'm not an irritating, nasty or self-centred person. One of my friends has been going on and on about her kitchen extension for months on end. She's been showing us the plans and bringing over test materials and showing us furniture on Pinterest. I actually found some of them to be in quite bad taste so I did tell her. All my friends seem willing enough to be excited for some huge massive kitchen diner they can all sit and pre-drunk in, but it's too much to ask them to seem interested in what will be the biggest thing to happen in my life.

And I've been friends with these girls since we were young teenagers! I've been there through all their break ups and troubles. I just feel a bit neglected and tossed to the side.

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Xmasbaby11 · 19/04/2017 22:05

Probably best to make some mum friends at nct. Don't take it personally - many many people have no interest in babies!

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WhereYouLeftIt · 19/04/2017 22:05

WhataHexIgotinto Then you are truly blessed.
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Beeziekn33ze · 19/04/2017 22:06

Ceto. Rofl! Thanks for that 🤣!!

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MudCity · 19/04/2017 22:08

Sorry OP but you sound completely self-absorbed and very immature. You want it to be all about you....it isn't.

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GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 22:10

Oh good lord.

Has it occurred to you some of them might be infertile?

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scootinFun · 19/04/2017 22:13

Oh my god. Yes I can't imagine why your friends would be more interested in a kitchen extension that facilitates socialising rather than hearing you bang on about babies - which, let's face it - are boring as fuck if they're not yours. Deffo hunt out a mums and bumps group - good luck!

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feathermucker · 19/04/2017 22:15

If you talk in the sane style/manner as you write then it's understandable that they're not overly enthused!

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Nanna50 · 19/04/2017 22:15

You are totally unfucking believably being unreasonable

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Allthewaves · 19/04/2017 22:17

and i repeat

But before you have kids pregnancy is a boring subject, your friends have no interest in your pregnancy stuff, the whole world does not centre on you and your pregnancy. They probably were happy for you but are now sick to death of the subject. Ditch the baby talk around them and save it for people who have babies.

Everyone has kitchens - more interesting than babies if you haven't had any

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fourpawswhite · 19/04/2017 22:18

You are so unreasonable it makes my head hurt. I don't even know why I forced myself to read your posts. Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting. Ye, sit them down and tell the, how you feel. That's gonna lose you some friends real fast. Well done on being so absolutely fucking perfect.

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Smeaton · 19/04/2017 22:18

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GinAndTunic · 19/04/2017 22:20

checks date

Nope. 1st April was quite a while ago

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Patienceisvirtuous · 19/04/2017 22:20

😂

I'd drop you like a hot potato. So far up your own backside 😬

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GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 22:21

smeaton Grin

Who wants to compete for the best kitchen refurbishment story? I can't decide what kind of panels to go for in mine.

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user1466690252 · 19/04/2017 22:21

Smeaton 😂😂😂😂😂

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 22:22

Smeaton, that isn't funny - I was starting to develop a slight headache from reading that. I'm paranoid that you actually are one of my "friends".

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dontbesillyhenry · 19/04/2017 22:23

#feelingblessed HaloHalo
#makingmemories #familytime ❤😍👶🏼

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GaelicSiog · 19/04/2017 22:24

phyllis, I repeat. Has it occurred to you some of them might quite possibly be infertile or struggling with fertility, and you are being a massive prick?

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Smeaton · 19/04/2017 22:26

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Crapuccino · 19/04/2017 22:26

Four out of ten.

Pros: sets up a realistic scenario, populates it with relatively believable facts.

Cons: overdoes the hand-clapping, self-congratulatory glee and unrealistic lack of self-awareness.

You have to make your character more believable, OP.

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