about changing a nappy on a cafe table?

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So, I usually grab something quick and cheap for lunch but decided to treat myself to a nice baked spud in an art gallery cafe.

Half way through said spud, and perusing MN, I looked up to see that the people on the table nearby were changing a baby's nappy on the table where they'd just eaten.

My face must have been a bit of a picture because one of the women looked at me as if to say 'what?'. Feeling I had to justify myself, I said 'it's just that it's a bit grim changing a baby's nappy on a cafe table'.

The woman doing the changing asked if I was a mum. Instead of saying 'what difference would that make?', I said I had two children. She said she didn't realise I was watching(?). I said it was more of a hygiene thing, but yes, it had put me off my lunch somewhat.

She replied that it was 'only a bit of wee'.

So, was I being unreasonable hygiene thing and it is 'only a bit of wee', or is this utterly grim?

For clarity, this was in an area out of sight of the staff and I was the only other customer in that area.

The loos were ten paces away, full changing facilities and pristine.

You need to.stop doing it then, the cafe table isnt a toilet, even if its wiped. People dont sit and eat their meal in a toilet.

Its a hassle to go to toilet when i have DD with me. I dont just piss on the floor.

Just adding my bit - agree that it is grim and gross.

If it 'was only a bit of wee' then she could have bloody waited until she got outside or gone to the ladies.

Skank.

I agree, Mrs Koala, I do understand what you mean. But it's so often true of MN that people become quite rude and extremely opinionated. That's why I don't often post my thoughts on here, though I'm doing it more now.
Being an older mum, I understand where you're coming from, about getting down on the floor to change a nappy lol! I really don't know what I'd have done in your situation, but I wouldn't have walked outside to look for a toilet, not when the other ladies there were cool with you changing the nappy where you were.
The cafe situation the op talked about was totally different in that there were perfectly good changing facilities.
All this has made me very glad that my two girls are in school now and those days are long gone!!

Mrs Koala, personally I have enjoyed having a 10ft marsupial with creaky knees on the thread, as a balance to the cries of 'slank' and 'minger'.

Not sure what a 'slank' is......possibly a koala in a slanket?

I absolutely hate the bad language on here, isn't it possible to have a debate without resorting to words like 'skank'? It's incredibly rude and childish. You're making yourselves as bad as the mum in the cafe.

hazey. That would be MrKoala then.

But is there any reason why you can't change the baby on your lap in the toilet?

Love that joke, though, hazey and Mrs Koala lol.

But MrsK, is there any reason why you can't change the baby on your lap in the toilet?

Sorry Gene, was just putting baby down. Honestly, i didn't think of it, probably because the solution had presented itself. I assessed that as it was a private area, the group didn't mind and i would leave the surface clean then it was fine. Trying to do something more difficult would be pointless to me. Trying to wrangle a squiggly baby on my lap in a tight cubicle with tiled/hard floors doesn't seem worth it compared to the more obvious option of changing on the table.

If however, it had been a poo, it had been in a public area, the toilets were bigger etc, then yes i probably would have done that.

Gene - possibly because her pouch would get in the way.

Joking aside. I have never managed to change a baby on my lap, the only time I tried the baby rolled off and i ended up with a crappy lap.

lol

No excuse whatsoever. Entitled and disgusting behaviour.

I'm pretty relaxed about germs but I find this disgusting. If I was in a cafe or restaurant where this happened and the staff failed to do anything about it I would never eat there again. There is absolutely no excuse for it.

Skank? Huh? That is nothing on Mumsnet whose users appear to think using swear words is what people do. It's not. In my opinion, it betrays your origins.

Using phrases like "betrays your origins' betrays the fact you are a massive snob.

Brilliant.

I know, I was using 'skank' as an example of the bad language, there's a lot worse on here, more's the pity.
I think that word is childish, more than anything else, belongs in the playground. But then, that probably betrays my age lol.

Origins? The upper class have filthier gobs than the rest of us put together

Haven't RTFT but you definitely aren't BU. That's gross and her follow-up question was extremely rude.

I worked in a cafe through university and have never forgotten having to pick up someone's shitty nappy they left on a table piled up with our plates/cutlery outside. We chucked everything that touched it. So disgusting. YANBU. We had all the facilities too and some people just don't care enough about the people around them to walk 10 metres. She was also in the wrong to try and belittle you but remember if anything all she's done is embarrass herself!

user rank and skank are both perfectly usable words in these scenarios albeit a little "street". But then the behaviour of such a mother exhibiting this sort of behaviour in an inappropriate place is also the latter words in my humble opinion.

Flogging I totally agree with you. Have never experienced such rudeness and entitlement but from upper classes (admittedly on their "patches") for daring to walk through a gap they had made in their queue in a cash point line in Kings Road (got roundly told off for that crime!) and by an upper class mummy in Wimbledon Park who when I was about to pay for my lunch barged in front of me with cash and was so rude the cashier just served her first exclaiming that "some people are so rude" and "sorry madam" to me, who sighed and tutted. Upper class woman stood her ground stony faced whilst she quickly paid...

Utterly gross behaviour from a lazy thoughtless parent.