about changing a nappy on a cafe table?

[Catsize]

So, I usually grab something quick and cheap for lunch but decided to treat myself to a nice baked spud in an art gallery cafe.

Half way through said spud, and perusing MN, I looked up to see that the people on the table nearby were changing a baby's nappy on the table where they'd just eaten.

My face must have been a bit of a picture because one of the women looked at me as if to say 'what?'. Feeling I had to justify myself, I said 'it's just that it's a bit grim changing a baby's nappy on a cafe table'.

The woman doing the changing asked if I was a mum. Instead of saying 'what difference would that make?', I said I had two children. She said she didn't realise I was watching(?). I said it was more of a hygiene thing, but yes, it had put me off my lunch somewhat.

She replied that it was 'only a bit of wee'.

So, was I being unreasonable hygiene thing and it is 'only a bit of wee', or is this utterly grim?

For clarity, this was in an area out of sight of the staff and I was the only other customer in that area.

The loos were ten paces away, full changing facilities and pristine.

[AnnieAnoniMouse]

On the table is really not on & I wouldn't do it myself, but if it's a small baby & 'just a wee' (the changing preferably being done on a changing mat) I couldn't get that vexed about it. People put bags etc on tables and they're far dirtier than a changing mat or the outside of a nappy. However, if there are good, clean, facilities available then there's just no need. As for 'seeing' a bairns 'wee' nappy being changed, what's the big deal?

[Sallygoroundthemoon]

Unacceptable and disgusting. As was the previous poster who changed the nappy at the picnic. Really gross when others are eating.

[bunnylove99]

It's disgusting. We witnessed this in a restaurant last year and couldn't believe our eyes. Left shortly afterwards (food n service were rotten too) What's with people!?

[SuperFlyHigh]

Annie so the mother couldn't walk the ten paces to the toilet?

I'll pee in a corner of a cafe on some paper napkins next when I want to go will I, I'm only small and after all it is only pee!

[bunnylove99]

Disgusting. I have seen people do this once myself and couldn't believe my eyes. Horrible.

[SuperFlyHigh]

Sally at a picnic if no toilets are near then I'd change behind a bush or out of view. Out of manners sake. Not when others are in view eating though.

[SuperFlyHigh]

Didn't some uncouth women in Victorian and earlier times sometimes hitch their skirts and pee like animals in the street? Much the same isn't it??!!

[AnnieAnoniMouse]

SuperFlyHigh

Do you generally have a problem with comprehension?

I said However, if there are good, clean, facilities available then there's just no need

[SuperFlyHigh]

Annie I do not have a problem with comprehension and I replied to your first part of your sentence which was:-

"If it's just a small baby and a wee (on a changing mat) I couldn't get worked up about that".

Well I "could" get worked up about it.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

It's grim.

But be aware that there's a cohort of (equally grim) people about to come on to defend it.

Get ready, they'll be here soon.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

That is grim wtf is wrong with people.

[WateryTart]

Grim, grim, grim.

[Serialweightwatcher]

Disgusting where people are eating ... lazy and disrespectful

[ThreeLeggedHaggis]

I have changed a wet nappy on my lap in a cafe once and at the last MN meet up i changed my baby's nappy on the pub table.

WTF?? You didn't see anything wrong with that?

[TheFairyCaravan]

It's absolutely grim.

I wouldn't have been as polite as you were OP. What the fuck is wrong with people? Take the baby to the changing room ffs.

[Catsize]

Thank you everyone. I feel a bit better now. Although not feeling better that it. Happens so often. The Aibday lunch story!!

Perhaps I should have suggested that next time they could sit in the toilets for their lunch as that's what I had just had to do. As it was, I'd felt pretty grave saying anything at all. Think I was feeling empowered after reading a bit of MN.

I was dressed in a suit and looking all businessy, so like a previous poster suggested, would have no doubt been deemed the miserable childless spinster lady who is so lacking in understanding of the pressures of modern parenting.

I mentioned it to the staff, so that they could put some proper disinfectant on the table. I'd have appreciated that, had I been the next to eat from that table.

[Catsize]

Sorry for typos.

[MrsKoala]

er no. In the cafe the baby was on my lap and i was facing a wall with no one about. Baby was about 2 weeks old and i was struggling to walk and stand so in probably less than 10 seconds i swapped nappies over.

In the pub we were in a function room and there were no facilities. There was an unused table in the corner i asked if anyone minded, they all said 'of course not, don't be daft' and laughed. i laid a mat out and again quickly swapped the wet nappy of the 5mo. Then wiped the table down. We all then joked about someone posting a thread about it. There were about 20 MNers present. They all seemed normal.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

Yuk - I don't care what is in the nappy, I don't want to see such a thing whilst enjoying a drink and others are eating.

You can just imagine someone putting food down totally unaware.

You don't eat in a lavatory...

[Floggingmolly]

You were struggling to walk and stand; yet you were in a cafe?

[MrsKoala]

Yes, it was an nct meet up and i had had a 3rd degree tear. i got a taxi there and home. i hadn't been out since having the baby.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

It would bother me if she did it on the table / chair / floor. Who is to say said child won't urinate or defecate whilst the nappy is off? Who is to say that the child hasn't had a bug of some sorts? A wet wipe isn't going to remove bacteria from previous bowel movements?

[toffeeboffin]

You have to seriously not give a shit to change a nappy in public.

YANBU.

[Imamouseduh]

Minging.

[TessTube]

GRIM.

Mrs K that scenario is a bit different though!

There is just NO NEED.