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To kick dh out

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Mrsdropdeadfred · 18/04/2017 10:39

Ok so dh went out last night at 11.30, said he was only going for a few pints and would be back soon so he could still help out with the kids in the morning (36 weeks pregnant and struggling to shift my fat arse at the moment)
To cut a long story short he's still not home. He was out two nights last week so it's not like he's desperate for freedom, he knows this sort of behaviour is a issue for me and it's something we've been arguing about recently. Apparently just because I'm pregnant, tired and insecure he should still be able to do what he wants (his words).
I also found out after some detective work on Facebook that the girl he added a few weeks ago who was 'just someone from work' turns out to be a girl he met at a nightclub.
Right now my head is up my arse, I'm sick of him promising he will change and everytime he goes out it turns into a massive bender. Right now I just want to start packing his shit up for when he eventually crawls back. He can never just have a few pints at the pub and I think what's worse is the lying about him not going out late and now who random girls are Hmm and I've just realised while typing this he's took my card and keys! So that's me and the kids stuck in the house Angry
Sorry for the rambling I'm far too embarrassed to talk to anyone irl about this

OP posts:
Willow2017 · 18/04/2017 21:35

He is a pathetic excuse for a man who is throwing a tantrum cos you sussed him out.

Keep recording and keep on letting police know if he threatens you.

You are awesome hope you have someone who can come over if you need them. Hopefully he will get sick of being a Pratt especially if police give him a word for his behaviour. Stay strong.

Cloudylemons · 18/04/2017 22:13

Well done Mrsdropdeadfred you're a superstar!
You've been through so much, and you've still got loads on, you're an inspiration. And I'm very sorry for your unimaginable loss Flowers

hellsbellsmelons · 18/04/2017 22:32

Wow. The drugs don't work so they?
Other than to show he's a violent piece of shit.
If he ever threatens SS tell him they can test his hair for drugs and it will show use from years ago.
Teenage kids around etc..!
Drugs!
Well done.
You held your resolve. Did what you had to do.
Awesome.
Keep going!!!

ohfourfoxache · 18/04/2017 22:39

Not surprised you're furious- what an utter cockworm Angry

Stay strong and stay safe, he is an absolute arse hole and you are so much better off without him

MrsChopper · 18/04/2017 22:41

Wow what a wanker! Can someone stay with you and keep you company?

I think you have been very brave today Flowers

ButwhatTho · 18/04/2017 22:41

Wow he has all the traits of an abusive narc! Typical "look what mummy is making me do" What a cunt. Well done you, you've done the right thing, breathe and remember your amazing and will do a lot better than him!

Madwoman5 · 19/04/2017 08:33

Turned up with a load of teens cos his peers think he is a dick. Grief does bad things to good people but the real giveaway is that this started before you lost your child. You did the right thing. You have small kids and another on the way so you need to focus on them, not the manchild who can't handle the pressure of family life and all that goes with it. You go girl!

penny4321boom · 22/04/2017 08:14

Wow OP well done. U have been amazingly brave Flowers

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 24/04/2017 17:23

Wow. Didn't take him long to show his true colours. Bullying the pregnant mother of his children? Lovely.

Well done OP, stick to your guns. You rock!!! Flowers

thickgit · 28/04/2017 22:35

Very well done. Stay strong

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Mrsdropdeadfred · 29/04/2017 09:09

I just wanted to thank everyone who commented! He's only been gone over a week and mine and my kids lives are so much better!
Ex moved in with his drinking buddy they spunked all of their wages and got attacked on a night out, they now have no jobs,food,gas,electric etc and their egos are wounded. I hope they are very happy together!
Me and the kids spent the anniversary of my little ones death taking a few bits and bobs up to the crem and then spent the day at a nature reserve. It was hard but they got me through it.
I'm being induced tomorrow due to baby not growing and although I'm doing it alone it's much better than having an arse sitting next to me the whole time.
Once again just wanted to thank you all for the hand hold Flowers Cake

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hellsbellsmelons · 29/04/2017 09:25

Thanks for the update OP.
Sounds like things are going well for you and DC.
That's all that matters.

tabbymog · 29/04/2017 09:27

I and a dear friend here with me will be thinking about you tomorrow, OP. Sending warmest wishes and expecting everything to go well for you.

{{{{{{{{{{OP}}}}}}}}}}

Pouncival · 29/04/2017 09:30

I hope that the labour goes well and you will soon be holding your lovely new baby Flowers

Sleepdeprivedredhead · 29/04/2017 09:34

You're amazin OP. Best wishes for tomorrow
Flowers

cluelessnchaos · 29/04/2017 09:37

Well done OP, good luck tomorrow but you've got this. You are strong

GaryGilmoresEyes · 29/04/2017 09:37

Delurking to show my admiration. You are one amazing lady. Best wishes for tomorrow.Flowers

kittybiscuits · 29/04/2017 09:40

You are brilliant. Good luck with your delivery. Flowers

Topseyt · 29/04/2017 10:07

Well done OP.

Will be thinking about you tomorrow and hoping the induction and birth go well.

thewideeyedpea · 29/04/2017 10:35

I've only just read this thread and I just wanted to say that you truly do sound an incredible woman. You children are so lucky to have such a strong and capable mum. Good luck tomorrow with your new bundle of loveliness Flowers

lifesjoys · 29/04/2017 11:04

Good luck op, only just come across this thread but wanted to say you are doing an amazing job!

You are such a strong woman! I admire you.

Xx

EZA15 · 30/04/2017 08:03

Just read the whole thread. Good luck today OP and love the way you dealt with the whole situation

Lupinhere37 · 30/04/2017 08:52

OP, you are one strong lady! Good luck today and I hope all goes well. You can absolutely do this on your own. It would have been so much more difficult with him still in your lives. X

ConfidentlyUnhinged · 30/04/2017 09:15

Good luck today op.

RandomMess · 30/04/2017 09:21

Hope the induction and birth go well Flowers

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