Staying at in laws-AIBU?

[Snowflakes1122]

We are currently staying at in laws. Every morning without fail DH, FIL and the kids all get breakfast. DH and FIL get full on eggs, bacon the works etc and the kids whatever they want.
It's like I'm bloody invisible! I've been helping myself to some old cornflakes but they are all gone now. I don't even like them!

So this morning I've been sat watching everyone else eat lovely food and have coffees brought starving and 31 weeks pregnant. I wanted to cry!

I can't go into their kitchen and start making something as that offends MIL

AIBU to be pissed off, hormonal and upset? Why does she leave me out?

So what will happen at breakfast time tomorrow?

you quietly asked him!?,

if that was me you'd of heard 'oi where's mine you tight git hurry up I'm starving!'

you clearly don't feel comfortable being there, or with your husband?

This is odd. I can't imagine a breakfast table where everyone is being served food apart from you. You sit in silence and then quietly point it out to husband. He feels bad. Eh? Surely he noticed what was happening before you told him? I can't imagine being in a relationship where I'd rather start a thread on mumsnet rather than just saying something to my husband.

Why don't you ask them? Does MIL have a cooked breakfast? I suspect she only has toast or something, while the men have a fry up, and assumes you want the same

Surely you could have said something along the lines of "I'm sure you don't mind if I just make myself some breakfast? This baby needs feeding! No, don't get up - you've served everyone else, I can manage myself"

Either say something or it will carry on.

So your MIL completely excludes you and your DH scoffs down a fry up while his pregnant wife goes hungry?! WTAF?!

So many things wrong in this scenario, I don't know where to start?!

Seriously? None of your family noticed this until you pointed it out?

Where is the OP? Suspect there is a massive drip feed coming

This is the weirdest thread. I'm with Navy that it didn't happen IRL the way it's been described here

I'm beginning to smell a rat. I think this thread has been started on the back of another one. Surely no-one is this meek and passive to allow this to happen.

To me this would be a message ten foot high. MIL is only feeding those she is interested in, and she does indeed wish you invisible. The fact you are PG makes that obvious.

IIWM I would make a big thing of it, and never go back. What a cow.

Are you there again for breakfast tomorrow?
I'm hoping your Dh asks where your bacon and eggs are.
How did MI react to you and Dh going in the kitchen to make you some eggs?

Iamastonished - agreed. Was thinking the same thing.

Bloody hell, I really hate these threads. Open your mouth and say something. It will be resolved a lot quicker than posting in AIBU.
(Unless you want one of us to pop round and sort DH, MIL & FIL out for you).

Iamastonished what do you mean?

This thread is ridiculous btw. I can't believe that one grown adult wouldn't notice his wife was being left to go hungry s another wouldn't just ask where her breakfast was.

Going home today. No back story. No drip feed.

Other meals MIL makes for all of us.

Maybe the reason for drinks is I don't drink coffee or tea. I do drink water though.

I am usually more assertive, I'm just hormonal and haven't slept for days for pain from pgp.

Why haven't you spoken up? You're an adult - you don't need your DH to make sure you get some breakfast! Either ask for something to eat or go and make yourself something.

I'd have taken dh's plate for myself and left him to speak up and say he'd still not had anything. So rude.

What is it about you that means you have to have someone else feed you? Grow a spine, ffs, and get yourself some breakfast. Honestly, it's like the passive aggressive Olympics! Nobody hates you, your Mil just expects you to feed yourself if you want feeding. Yes it'll set the feminists frothing but you'll not die from getting your own breakfast.

I would put money on this being one of thos situations where the OP is the sort of person who says "Oh, not, please don't go to any trouble for me" expecting the response "Honestly, it's no trouble" but actually getting the response "Fair enought- you know where it is if you change your mind" . Or some form of words along those lines. Because otherwise we're in pantomime country with the OP as Cinderella. Which is possible, but unlikely.

My MIL used to do this....(though it was 25 odd years ago) when we stayed with her, I would usually be up ages before DH ...coz you know it was his holiday . Breakfast and feed myself and DS, then DH would get up around midday and MIL would proceed to cook him a breakfast, even though he said he was perfectly capable

The first time he cooked something for me she was astounded

I suspect the OP has turned down a cooked breakfast in the past and so it's been assumed she doesn't want it. Also the fact she ended up having scrambled eggs rather than what was on offer suggests something else too.

If you think asking would be making a big thing of it and a big issue then breakfast is the least of your problems.
If you are this unassertive and DH isn't seeing a problem then there must be other areas of your life that some assertiveness training would help with. Either that or you have huge DH or in law problems.
It is such a non issue.