Staying at in laws-AIBU?

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We are currently staying at in laws. Every morning without fail DH, FIL and the kids all get breakfast. DH and FIL get full on eggs, bacon the works etc and the kids whatever they want.
It's like I'm bloody invisible! I've been helping myself to some old cornflakes but they are all gone now. I don't even like them!

So this morning I've been sat watching everyone else eat lovely food and have coffees brought starving and 31 weeks pregnant. I wanted to cry!

I can't go into their kitchen and start making something as that offends MIL

AIBU to be pissed off, hormonal and upset? Why does she leave me out?

I cant imagine this tbh. Why wouldnt you say something?

You just sit there silent while everyone else gets food?

Say something! Ask where yours is or just take your husbands. Don't sit there hungry, do something about it

Have you asked?

This is very strange , why did you not ask for some? Does nobody ask you why you are only having cornflakes while they are having a big fry??

What's the story with your dh, surely he realises that is wife has only had stale cornflakes for breakfast??

I know it's easier said that done but you need to verbalise what you want. "What's for breakfast today mil, I'm famished that's smells great". And take dh's if his is ready first, she'll quickly make one for him! Though the idea of all these grown ups being cooked for each morning makes me cross anyway.
Is there a chance she thinks you aren't hungry in the morning/will only eat organic muesli/told her no breakfast once and that is now in the rule book?

What? This cannot be real. Your husband lets you go hungry? You say nothing? Is he abusive in other ways or is this a wind up?

She obviously thinks you don't want a fry up.

How does your husband allow this to happen?

Go and make yourself something to eat then pack up and go home. Your dh sounds like an arse tbh.

Stop being a bloody martyr!

Either take your husbands breakfast and let him sort himself out, or ask your MIL where your breakfast is, or go and make your own and screw offending the MIL (she's clearly not bothered about offending you).

I don't get it, why would a grown adult let this happen?! You surely have a voice!

There has to be a reason for this. Does she think you don't want a fry up? Are you vegetarian/vegan?

If my dh was in that position her speak up and ask where mine was or offer me his. He wouldn't let his pregnant wife go hungry. What about other meals does she serve you for those?
I do have other mil issues though where mil will only address dh even about the dc that I'll know more about. She'll directly thank dh for dinner when he hasn't cooked it, it was me etc. She's never decided not to feed me though so I suppose so should thick myself lucky!

Go and make your own fry up now. And don't bloody clear up - get a case of the vapours after you ate because you were so hungry.

So it's ok for your mil to upset you. But not ok for you to upset her!! Fuck that. Then tell your dh you need to go home and convalesce.

Ask for breakfast!
Maybe, just maybe she thinks because you are pregnant you can't eat first thing... Just maybe..... ?

Are you mute? Try asking?

That's ridiculous. But can u elaborate. Do they only serve DH and the kids and leave u out?

Go get a McDonald's breakfast and take it back and eat it in front of them.
Screw that for a game of soldiers!:

Grow a pair and ask for some breakfast. Are you always this passive?

Why is your H treating you like this? There's your problem.

Your 'D'H is an asshole. His parents are weirdos. You need to woman up and speak up. What an absolutely bizarre situation.

I know I could ask, but I'm more that everyone else is asked or just brought it apart from me!

I feel a bit awkward having to ask and point out in being left out. I also don't want to make a big thing of it.

They are lovely people so o do t think it's intentional, but I'm just confused.

Go in the kitchen and make it! Who gives a shit if your MIL is offended? She doesn't seem to care that you are upset! You are hungry, so get some food!

Is there about to be a massive drip feed? Otherwise I'm unclear as to why you or your husband hasn't said (or done) something already.

Good grief. How do you allow this sort of thing to continue for as long as it has? Can you simply not ask where yours is, or make your own? There is wanting to avoid confrontation, then there is being passive to the point of wetness. No, you do not have an MIL or DH problem. You have an assertiveness problem.