Staying at in laws-AIBU?

[Snowflakes1122]

We are currently staying at in laws. Every morning without fail DH, FIL and the kids all get breakfast. DH and FIL get full on eggs, bacon the works etc and the kids whatever they want.
It's like I'm bloody invisible! I've been helping myself to some old cornflakes but they are all gone now. I don't even like them!

So this morning I've been sat watching everyone else eat lovely food and have coffees brought starving and 31 weeks pregnant. I wanted to cry!

I can't go into their kitchen and start making something as that offends MIL

AIBU to be pissed off, hormonal and upset? Why does she leave me out?

[skincarejunkie]

Either, "Ooh, have you cooked us all breakfast, MIL? Thank you! That looks fab..."
Or, more sensibly, "MIL, am I ok to use the same pan for mine? Where's the bacon?"
But it wouldn't have happened. My husband would have been up and asking. As I would for him at my parents'.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I've got mumsnet fatigue I think.

The urge to say "oh for fucks sake, grow up and stop being a limp lettuce" is getting greater by the day.

[WankStainWasher]

SanDiego
I second that emotion.

[dustarr73]

I'm assuming the OP has been there a couple of days.Why not say it to her dh the first time it happened.I just don't under how you would rather starve than say something.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Wankstain, why are there women who sit back with no voice and let themselves be ignored yet come on here to vent?

Speak up!

Bollocks to the "oh but usually they're lovely people" claptrap, don't be doormats and invisible, do something about it.

[Rachel0Greep]

As a result I didn't eat a thing for the whole 4 day stay. I didn't want to make a fuss when everyone was upset. No one noticed. on the way home I had DH stop at the first burger joint we passed and I ate like a horse, at that point DH realised I'd not eaten and was mortified.

I'd pass out, I think, if I didn't eat for one day. I definitely wouldn't survive four days!

OP, you mentioned being sleepless with pain, please rest up, and no more visiting until you feel better. And if this ridiculous situation arises again, speak up immediately.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

As a result I didn't eat a thing for the whole 4 day stay. I didn't want to make a fuss when everyone was upset. No one noticed

You have got to be joking! You didn't eat for 4 days and didn't say a word, how utterly ridiculous and your Dh packs 'Beanz friendly food ' for you. Why, can't you pack for yourself?

Dear God.

[Chloe84]

Yep, DH is reticent at my mum's so I make sure his plate and glass are full. He does the same at PILs, except I'm not shy and have the opposite problem of MIL overfilling my plate. How do you not notice what someone else is eating when you're sat at the same table?

And PrivatePike, old cereal is rank, I can understand why OP doesn't enjoy it. It's sad that she's eating that instead of speaking up.

[ZeroFuchsGiven]

he packs bags of Beanz friendly snacks whenever we go anywhere

Are you a child?

[witsender]

Beanz, is there a reason you can't pack for yourself? "Beanz friendly snacks" FFS. Why you didn't get in the car and 'nip out for something' I don't know. After 4 days you'd be on the floor, so I suspect a wee bit for artistic license.

[witsender]

Had they even buttered the fruit? The snacks? You couldn't put some toast on?

[Vroomster]

But I don't understand how your DH hasn't noticed you haven't had a breakfast every day?

[maybebebe]

"Ooh, this looks yummy. I would love the same, please. Or shall I make it myself? Whatever you prefer. Thanks so much! :)"

What is so difficult about it? In any case better than being upset for days.

[Hoolahoops]

OP - there has to be more to it than you are divulging. Even the biggest loon would not behave like this. If there are only 3 people at the table, it's impossible to miss you out. I have to ask -

Do you make s big thing of acting ill or feeling sick in the mornings? Maybe she thinks you're too ill to eat a fry up?

Are you being moody in the house and she's had enough of dealing with it so she's stopped trying with you to make a point?

If you managed to get yourself some "old cornflakes" , how did you access these?

Are you sure she wasn't serving the men first and then you got in a strop, made a point of pouring yourself some "old cornflakes" with a DM sad face, do everyone just left you to it?

If none of the above, I can only assume your MIL is going senile and your DH is on another planet.

[DaemonPantalaemon]

Had they even buttered the fruit? The snacks? You couldn't put some toast on?

It was all butter from side to side, and top to bottom. Even the butter was buttered don't you know!

[Floggingmolly]

You could tell your DH felt bad? How; when he was sitting in front of you horsing into his cooked breakfast? . Seriously, just open your mouth and speak instead of playing the martyr.

[NabobsFromNobHill]

As a result I didn't eat a thing for the whole 4 day stay. I didn't want to make a fuss when everyone was upset

Another drama queen like the OP! Is it fun, the martyrdom?

[SoloDance]

Your DH felt bad did he? Not bad enough to share his fry up though.

[intergalacticbrexitdisco]

Honestly, I would simply reach over and say to my husband "Is it ok if I have this first and you wait for yours? I'm starving."