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I am done with you x

230 replies

ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 04:09

Well? Both of us nearly 50, marriages of 20, years grown up children.
Both seperated a long time when we met. Got this message tonight
Said WHAT? Called him twice. No answer. My self respect is done
But why?

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CrimsonKing · 17/04/2017 04:14

What a selfish, gutless and twatish thing to do. Stop all contact. Looking for answers where there probably is no cogent explanation is a waste of your time.

You need to be strong and put him firmly in your past where he best belongs.

44PumpLane · 17/04/2017 05:03

What a ducking ridiculous man child!
He clearly has the emotional depth of a teaspoon and can't handle an adult conversation to end the relationship with you.

Move on without looking back, it's the only thing to do now, and thank your lucky stars for this escape.

Oh also, this speaks volumes about him, not you!!!!

tigermoll · 17/04/2017 05:32

I'm confused -- you were both married to other people for 20 years? How long have you been together?

Regardless, he sounds cruel and shallow. Why has he behaved like this|? Because he's a coward to you, OP. This really sucks Flowers

XsaraHale · 17/04/2017 05:39

Sorry you are having to deal with this. It does seem he is blaming/holding you accountable for something you have done...rather than saying 'done with this(the relationship) ? Is there anything you have argued about? Nothing excuses this horrid behaviour though :(

Hopefully you are able to contact him to get an answer or make peace with accepting some people are just vile!

123MothergotafleA · 17/04/2017 05:39

Sorry, but I don't understand exactly what the problem is. Is it that he texted a message that said..... "said What"??

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 17/04/2017 05:42

Sideline irk here, but who TF follows up a message like that with a kiss?!?

What. A. Twat. You're well shot of him.

123MothergotafleA · 17/04/2017 05:43

Ahh, I've looked again!!
He said " I'm done with youx Well just tell him to bugger right off into the sunset.
There's no way back from this I'm afraid. You are far better rid of such a despicable twat.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 17/04/2017 05:50

He sounds awful. I hope you weren't too invested. How long were you seeing him? Either way, you're better off without him.

PitilessYank · 17/04/2017 05:52

I would text back "Likewise", and never contact him again.

He has abruptly dumped you in a very cowardly way.

steff13 · 17/04/2017 06:01

Sideline irk here, but who TF follows up a message like that with a kiss?!?

I think the letter x might be standing in place of his signature. As in, "I am done with you. John" or whatever his name is.

Mummyoflittledragon · 17/04/2017 06:19

What an idiot. Clearly lacking emotional intelligence. Sorry you're feeling shit. Flowers

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 17/04/2017 06:20

I read the x as an insult. Like, "kiss, kiss, darling - it meant nothing".

steff13 · 17/04/2017 06:23

Aw, I hope not, that's really harsh.

Trifleorbust · 17/04/2017 06:29

Anyone who would send a message like that isn't worth your time. Don't answer it. Move on.

Nanna50 · 17/04/2017 06:34

How long have you been together, how have things been between you lately? I don't understand whether you have been together 20 years or were married to someone else 20 years?

bigchris · 17/04/2017 06:36

You sound pissed !

ShowMePotatoSalad · 17/04/2017 06:36

I wouldn't reply. It's not worthy of a reply. Radio silence from here on in, that would be my response.

frumpet · 17/04/2017 06:50

Ouch ! As other posters have said though , says a lot more about him than you . A relationship where one party is lacking in common decency is never worth having Flowers

00Salix00 · 17/04/2017 06:56

OK, probably grasping at straws here, but possible autocorrect fail?

awaits indignant onslaughts

Original poster
ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 10:51

The message is typed as I received it
We were both married to other people for 20 years
No argument
I feel numb

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Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 17/04/2017 10:52

He has been found out. . Prepare for major fall out?

Oldraver · 17/04/2017 10:54

How long were you two together ? The length of your previous relationships are irrelevant.

Like others said...delete and move on

SaltySalt · 17/04/2017 10:55

how long were you together?

MrsELM21 · 17/04/2017 10:56

Well that's rude, I wouldn't attempt to contact him again

Gazelda · 17/04/2017 10:57

How long have you been dating? When did you last spend time with him?