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Original poster

I am done with you x

230 replies

ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 04:09

Well? Both of us nearly 50, marriages of 20, years grown up children.
Both seperated a long time when we met. Got this message tonight
Said WHAT? Called him twice. No answer. My self respect is done
But why?

OP posts:
PaperdollCartoon · 17/04/2017 10:57

How long have you been together? He's definitely a twat

GloriaGilbert · 17/04/2017 10:57

Sorry, were you having an affair or was this a new relationship?

I'm confused.

BertrandRussell · 17/04/2017 10:59

Sadly, it sounds to me like you were the other woman and he got found out. How awful. Sad

peaceout · 17/04/2017 11:00

What a tosser😝😠
You're well rid

WhisperingLoudly · 17/04/2017 11:01

How long were you together? That's what counts.

Waitingonasmile · 17/04/2017 11:02

That's awful! I hope you have a friend to comfort you and talk about it. Never contact him again. Horrible thing to do to you. FlowersSad

dudsville · 17/04/2017 11:02

That's dreadful. It's good you found out who he was, but what an awful way to find out.

WaitrosePigeon · 17/04/2017 11:03

Are you a mistress?

VladmirsPoutine · 17/04/2017 11:03

What a bastard. I suspect all may not be as it seems either. How long had you been together and how were things going?

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 17/04/2017 11:04

yes, it does sound as if you are/were having an affair whilst with other people

maybe some more detail to clarify?

shitgibbon · 17/04/2017 11:04

Did you respond at all? I'm wondering if it was an autocorrect and he meant to type something completely different. Seems weird to put a kiss at the end of that.

photograph · 17/04/2017 11:05

It sucks, what an awful person, you've done nothing wrong. What an awful way to treat someone, it doesn't make any sense.

Both seperated a long time when we met. If I understand properly, the OP was not the OW, they just both had relationships before?

Fl0ellafunbags · 17/04/2017 11:05

Sadly, it sounds to me like you were the other woman and he got found out

I think you might have something there.

Original poster
ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 11:07

18 months

OP posts:
skincarejunkie · 17/04/2017 11:08

Oh, no. I'm so sorry. I very much doubt it's you. Flowers Don't invest any more into him xxxx

Guiltypleasures001 · 17/04/2017 11:08

Are you sure it wasn't sent to you by mistake ? As in was meant for the ow if he has one, won't answer phone as inadvertently outed himself 💐

shirleycartersaidso · 17/04/2017 11:11

Are you both having affairs? I'm confused.

NeonGod73 · 17/04/2017 11:12

I still don't understand your post. When were you married, to whom, when it ended, when it all began? Who sent you that msg, the husband or a lover?....sorry, it's all a mess.

WeAllHaveWings · 17/04/2017 11:12

your posts are very confusing.

you were both separated (and single?) when you got together 18 months ago and he's now split with you via text?

why give us details of your marriages? how are they relevant?

Original poster
ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 11:13

No not a mistress
He is very much separated from his wife

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shirleycartersaidso · 17/04/2017 11:13

What's the 20 years with your respective other halves got to do with anything?

Monsterpage · 17/04/2017 11:15

Are you sure this isn't some hideous auto correct mistake and in fact he meant to say "I love you x"
Have you replied?

Original poster
ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 11:16

We both had marriages of 20 years that had ended when we met

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EweAreHere · 17/04/2017 11:16

Any other signs of such emotional shallowness and lack of commitment after 18 months?

Sorry, OP. That's really crap. I hope you can move on with dignity. He doesn't deserve you, clearly.

outmyhair · 17/04/2017 11:17

Sounds to me like he has been having doubts for a while and then drunk texted you. Block him and do not have any contact with him. No one deserves to be treated so badly.