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Original poster

I am done with you x

230 replies

ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 04:09

Well? Both of us nearly 50, marriages of 20, years grown up children.
Both seperated a long time when we met. Got this message tonight
Said WHAT? Called him twice. No answer. My self respect is done
But why?

OP posts:
user1489179512 · 17/04/2017 12:18

Thought it was I am done with you x??

HecateAntaia · 17/04/2017 12:19

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Flyinggeese · 17/04/2017 12:19

The second wording suggests the had been a disagreement of some kind.

Either way, text is a wimpy way out.

TheFuckitBuckit · 17/04/2017 12:20

Are you sure that message was for you?

If everything had been fine up until 10 minutes before hand I'd be inclined to think he was texting someone else at the same time and got his numbers crossed.
Possibly the kind of thing you would say to one of his adult dcs in an exasperating jokey kind of way which would explain the "X"???

Maybe I'm clutching at straws but does seem totally random.

mumofthemonsters808 · 17/04/2017 12:20

The only scenario I can imagine, is he's out and about and met some woman and she won't give him the time of day because he's attached and tap tap problem solved.

MsStricty · 17/04/2017 12:21

I think the text is for someone else. Whichever text it is.

MsStricty · 17/04/2017 12:22

This would also explain the silence - he may be struggling what to say to you to explain.

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 17/04/2017 12:22

Are you sure you hadn't been engaging in a text conversation?
Your posts are super hard to follow, super vague and low on information. You've told us two different versions of the message
Could you have got the wrong end of the stick?

Original poster
ChristinaParsons · 17/04/2017 12:23

My part. Sorry
Feel awful. Looking after a friends daughter this afternoon

OP posts:
AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/04/2017 12:23

AnUtterIdiot. < you really aren't, you need to change your user name, it's a pity that wouldn't free it up for others, far more deserving, to use 🤣

It IS mind numbingly clear they were both single when they met.

PollyPerky · 17/04/2017 12:24

OP You need to explain a bit more....

Okay maybe posting is hard for you but you have been a bit lacking in detail.

In your latest posts you say you were both divorced when you met.
But earlier you said
He is very much separated from his wife

Maybe you don't think there is any difference but at face value there is a huge difference. For a start she'd be his EX wife now and if he was divorced ages back then he's not 'separated' in the legal sense.

Then you wrote two different versions of what his text said.

Sorry but wondering if this is real...
explain a bit more perhaps?

SolomanDaisy · 17/04/2017 12:25

Yeah sounds like it was intended for someone else.

TheFuckitBuckit · 17/04/2017 12:25

Have you tried contacting him today op?

Floggingmolly · 17/04/2017 12:26

What does My part. Sorry mean? Neither of you are particularly skilled at coherent communication, it seems Confused

DuoTwo · 17/04/2017 12:27

Sounds like an autocorrect issue if everything else was peachy.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/04/2017 12:27

It seems far more likely it was meant for one of his kids or as a joke in reply to you not saying goodnight back.

Hopefully he'll call you soon & you can sort it out.

PollyPerky · 17/04/2017 12:27

I think My Part means 'the fault in not being clear in mine.'

OP I'm sorry but your use of language is so poor that it's hard to fathom out what exactly the circs are.

Can you write in full sentences and actually explain this all?

peaceout · 17/04/2017 12:29

If it was a mistake he wouldn't be ghosting the op surely?

PollyPerky · 17/04/2017 12:31

OP why is your self respect 'done'?

Pollyanna9 · 17/04/2017 12:31

This is absolutely incomprehensible.

WicksEnd · 17/04/2017 12:33

I'm just wondering if he may have got the wrong end of the stick from some vague wording of yours OP, because your posting style is as clear as mud. So maybe your texts to him are too?

caz323 · 17/04/2017 12:35

I agree Wicksend.

IloveBanff · 17/04/2017 12:36

I think it's a misunderstanding on the OP's part.

Rubies12345 · 17/04/2017 12:38

"My part"

Does that mean the OP texted I give up with you then he text back I'm done with you

ZaziesPaws · 17/04/2017 12:39

It's really easy to understand! Just imagine it's someone crying and choking out a few words at a time.