To be annoyed at the childish way DH speaks about sex/sexual acts

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I really dislike the way my DH talks about sex. He'll say things like 'any chance of a handie/blowie?' And 'I want to give you a rodgering'. He thinks it's amusing/totally reasonable but I find it immature and a turn off. AIBU?

Rat as in vagina.

Get your vagina out, basically.

Not the most romantic experience. Said fellow also had a very strong London accent, so imagine 'get your rat ahhhhht' if you will

TooGood like a Jason Statham kinda accent?

Surprised no one has mentioned coitus yet

"Anyone for a lie down?" said in all innocence mid-afternoon usually gets the knickers falling in casa Conyo.

My other half refers to sex as rummy bumpy or.. Bonking

Dying at some of these 😂

Yeah exactly! It was beyond off putting

DH and I are ttc so I just bellow "baby production time! Get upstairs!"

Born romantic, me...

Sounds standard to me.

have a chat about it...

The 'Penetration Man' thread in Classics is worth a read...

I've never had experience, ever, of any verbal request a long the lines in this thread. Only ever non-verbal, very obvious between us, signs. It's an eye-opener that this goes on. Some of these are quite sweet though, to be asked like that! Others would have me tittering...

My dad's called Roger so the term "rodgering" would put me right off!

This is such a hilarious thread.

I'm all for non-verbal communication too (not the one involving fingers), and firmly in the anti 'make love' camp.

It's beyond me why anyone might think that childish cutie baby talk might be sexually arousing to anybody.

If I were to go verbal, though, I woulndn't mind 'rogering' so much - it's all humour and virility, makes me think of Captain Flasheart. I like the 'conjugal / marital rights' idea too.

It all depends on what you're into though - for the fans of Big Bang Theory there is always 'coitus' or... well... 'big bang'. For the Big Lebowski fans there's 'Jeffrey... love me...' or 'let's go bowling'.

But honestly, I can't think of a single example of a serious and arousing way of asking for sex verbally.

My partner makes a cum noise every time he hears an innuendo. Drives me mad. Have told him. He listened and because he thinks it's hilarious, made an extra big noise just to make himself laugh. Men!

Bit of a tangent, but do any old-timers here remember the DH who spoke 'pirate-like' when having sex??

(It was the 'rogering' which reminded me, me hearties.... ooh arrr)

Definitely speak to him. He sounds a bit immature.

I actually don't know what the acceptable terminology is TBH!

Making love = bleurgh
Rogering, blowie etc = 'childish'
Fuck = too aggressive

What is the MN verdict on "fancy a shag?" Is that too Austin Powers?

Can't always be nonverbal. Sometimes when you have kids and a busy lifestyle these things need to be pencilled-in in advance and there's got to be some way of referring to such matters!

The word pussy makes me cringe. Although both dh and I use the word 'mary' which I suspect will have a similar affect on some posters.

See, I'm absolutely fine with 'pussy'. But someone tried to christen my vagina 'Mary' they wouldn't get to see Mary again!

The thing is to find terms that you and your partner are both comfortable with. There's a huge volume of words and terms for every body part and every sexual act. So instead of cringing, get workshopping!

After much thought (and cringing at this thread) "How about some sex?" seems like the best option to me.

My OH is 32 years old. If he ever asked me for a "blowie" I don't think i'd ever be able to look at him the same again

It's gross and so, so off putting. It's something I'd expect a 14 year old to say.

And I'm certainly not prudish, we have a good and adventurous sex life, still doesn't mean I want him to talk about it like a teenage boy though..

Does he twang your bra strap too?

My idiot ex used to "playfully" pull at my shirt and ask in a baby voice "what's in there..?". Made me feel sick, he was mid twenties and a huge man so it was disturbing hearing him doing this baby voice.

He also used to say thanks the first few times we had sex, I had to tell him to stop or we wouldn't be doing it again. Fecking virgins.

I've actually just remembered something from my past. What do we think of the term 'balls deep' not as a request but, erm, during. Oh god. I'm asking for a friend...

Oh, and agree with some other posters I've skimmed across. Who actually verbally asks for sex??

In my youth it was known as 'a bit of the other'.

I don't think words are needed really, the wrong phrase is like a bucket of cold water.

I had one who said "rudies" too. Dumped.
I had one who said "shall we go for a lie down?" and he was absolute filth, so I kind of liked the incongruity.
And then there was one who used to say "can I throw one up you?" which for some reason at the time I thought was hilarious.