Or is this woman in my car!

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Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

I'm I the only one who finds this all very strange? The woman's behaviour is unusual and the lengths you must go and the games you must play OP seem unecessary. The car is yours. You do not need to justify yourself to this woman or play games with her.

It's either she has some issue - could be autism - or she could be someone that might be unhinged and dangerous. All in all this whole thing is unusual.

It's a bit like that scene in Car Share where Peter Kay decides to give Kayleigh a lift home cos it's lashing. There is another woman caught out in the rain too - Peter Kay beeps the horn and the other woman heads for his car but he shouts 'Not you!!!'
and leaves her in the psing rain.

Nah this OP is more like the episode with the fish monger

The woman he leaves in the rain gets a lift from them after the staff party and is indeed a nightmare!
(Best show ever)

Realjournal123 You say you're 'highly educated'.
On the strength of this passage I'm left curious as to what you're 'highly educated' in.
Firstly, people with autism are not 'sufferers', they don't have a disease!! 'sufferers exhibit mad manners,'

• What are 'mad' manners?

'no spacial awareness,' - do you mean no spatial awareness? (Not true) 'can manage conversation with one person at a time' - do you mean can't or can only? 'and have no idea how to be socially aware.' - Did you mean have no social awareness? (Not true) 'Try talking to her and looking her straight into her eyes' - this would seriously fucking freak me out if someone did this! Frankly, your ignorance is astounding.

pS Realjournal123 you said 'if you're a sufferer (that term again!) then you should also be aware that there are many many different types of autism.' Yet you clearly aren't aware that autism presents in many many different ways since your definitions are so very narrow. And as for the eye contact thing I have friends who have fought for YEARS to get a diagnosis for their children AND themselves on the basis alone that they CAN make and maintain both eye contact and conversation. I would suggest that if you want to put forward the possible diagnosis of autism by way of explaining this woman's dickish odd behaviour that you do educate yourself further.

I'm autistic, I have great manners, can manage more than one conversation at a time and can (mostly) manage good eye contact. There are aspects of human nature I don't always get but manage to display because I'm an adult and have learnt what is appropriate.
I don't suffer from my autism but I think dh might sometimes because life with me is certainly never dull and I do live in a perpetual state of organised chaos.

Some of you women are so aggressive. Couldnt- if you're a sufferer then you should also be aware that there are many many different types of autism

real i was not 'aggressive' and neither are other posters. I was blunt and frank, i and other posters have been able to offer our opinions with the compassion and understanding that comes from self-awareness and empathy.

I don't class myself as a 'sufferer' - i love being me and it does not disable me from living a fairly 'normal' life.

Highly educated as you are, you will no doubt be aware that Autism is a spectrum 'disorder'
To class someone as 'autistic' they need to 'score high' in other areas too......whereas a 'neurotypical' can display the same negatives at one part of the spectrum but will not have the accompanying factors that determine autism.

Nobody would employ you if you behaved like op's crazywoman in the office.

Why couldn't you just say 'oh shit - i'm sorry. that came out wrong' or something? we all make mistakes - it's how we learn