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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Or is this woman in my car!

532 replies

NameSame · 15/04/2017 19:51

Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

OP posts:
EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 17/04/2017 21:24

There's no way I can stay up, school tomorrow, night night, will check in tomorrow. Easter Grin

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 17/04/2017 21:27

Rooting for you op!!!

(I would just say no from now on. She's one of life's users. Plus she sounds very odd trying to squeeze you out of your own bloody marriage...)

JakeBallardswife · 17/04/2017 21:31

Well done, be assertive tonight tooWink

Unhurried · 17/04/2017 22:22

Damn gripping thread.
Good for you Name.

piefacedClique · 17/04/2017 22:23

Have you left OP.... print these out and place on van windows.....she might get the hint. Good luck tonight

redshoeblueshoe · 17/04/2017 22:23

not placemarking at all

2017SoFarSoGood · 17/04/2017 22:26

I think it might all be kicking off right about now, no? Sending very strong spine vibes your way OP Grin

Hissy · 17/04/2017 22:27
Wine
CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 17/04/2017 22:39

so the rude cow is still under the impression she's getting a lift? Grin

MissesBloom · 17/04/2017 22:45

I secretly hope she tries it again so op sort her right out Grin settling in now

LindyHemming · 17/04/2017 22:50

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SteppingOnToes · 17/04/2017 22:51

Blatantly placemarking! It makes no sense for her to be in the front - person getting a lift goes in the back so you don't have to all jiggle around seats at the side of the road. Rude cow!

notapizzaeater · 17/04/2017 23:19

How very rude.

I'd be having a loud conversation with. My DH in front of her about manners and how rude people can be

Lovelilies · 17/04/2017 23:39

Update please OP!!

Misstic · 17/04/2017 23:44

No more lifts for that woman.

NameSame · 18/04/2017 00:26

Hello there.
Well I met dp alone, about five minutes walk the other way, and he got in the car.
Perfect. Thought it was all sorted so we proceed to drive somewhere to the nearest shitty takeaway and garage for some vino Grin
Anyway, we are off, our next big town is 8 ish miles so off we pop, double backing and going past DPs work. When Lo and Behold cowbag is lurking.
We slow down on the lanes as she sees it's us and asks for a lift.
We say we are going the other way (we really are!)
She then says she's not bothered about tagging along
We say sorry no we are going to grab food.
Honestly I can just wait while your dP pops in she says
Then we say no we are off to relax and have our food somewhere pretty to have supper and then are getting some wine to take home with some cake.
She looks very grumpy
BUT she has essentially just begged for a lift home that I denied her.

I'm not even sorry!

OP posts:
redshoeblueshoe · 18/04/2017 00:34
Wine
chastenedButStillSmiling · 18/04/2017 00:37

Go Home!!!!

cafenoirbiscuit · 18/04/2017 00:38

Star respect is due! That showed her - cheeky mare
Flowers

Hidingtonothing · 18/04/2017 00:38

Well done OP! She doesn't give up easily does she?

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 18/04/2017 00:45

Yay! Backbones all over the place!!

MontyPythonsFlyingFuck · 18/04/2017 00:47

Well played, OP! I've never seen a spine grow so quickly. . .

I wonder, though, -not at all because I want more instalments, oh no- if you need to actually call her out on her behaviour. She might ask why you won't give her a lift in future, and I think you need to have your response ready -and say it even if she doesn't ask- .

SteppingOnToes · 18/04/2017 00:51

Oh you absolute star! Good for you!

Witchend · 18/04/2017 00:57

Wouldn't have stopped myself.
Would have given her a cheery wave on the way past though.Grin

CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 18/04/2017 01:24

awesome! Grin

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