Or is this woman in my car!

[NameSame]

Hello everyone.
Just curious as to wether I'm a hormonal grumpy little shit or if this cowbag is BU?
I pick OH up from work daily. (Not too far, would take about thirty to forty mins to walk, but unsociable hours, and grotty weather up north plus me liking to make sure he's home earlier rather than later so he doesn't wake us all up, I mean that it seems the easiest option!) anyway, he has a colleague who lives about half way home, but requires us to drive just shy of a mile round the back of our village iyswm. She has asked DP for lifts home a number of times, to which he replies "I've got to ask DP as I don't have a car at the moment and she's picking me up!" He then pootles out and asks if it is o.k to which I always reply yes as we are going almost past. (2-3 minute detour) absolutely fine.
But her attitude legitimately stinks this is where I think she's being U:

I have to park about five minutes away and I then walk up to dps work, where I wait. We then all walk down to the car. where this woman just barges past me doesn't say hello or even acknowledge me. Sits in the front seat of my car, (DP always drives as he actually enjoys it, and I do it out of necessity) leaving me in the 3rd row (VW transporter with car seats for DNs and goddaughter in middle!) AND DOESN'T SAY THANKS WHEN SHE LEAVES
She blatantly ignores me when I say Hi/bye personX, spends the whole time nattering to dp, who regularly tries to include me but he can barely get a word in tbh. And she knows it's my car, and my petrol etc.*

So I guess my AIBUs are:
Am I BU to feel grumpy?
Is she BU to ignore me?
Would I be U to give her one more chance and then tell DP to tell her to walk?

Cheers

^^^^ she may just be a twat

It's been a week, she's still a tit. She takes different breaks to DP, luckily. He doesn't seem to like her much though so I won't worry about him!!

real she might be. But As Mo55 says. She might just be a twat.

Who knows what she'll do tonight. 🙄 I know she definitely won't be in the front seat of my car...

You sit in the back? Take the welcome sign down off your back and tell her to do one!

Eh? You're not going to give her a lift again are you? Why?

I've been told that sufferers exhibit mad manners, no spacial awareness, can manage conversation with one person at a time and have no idea how to be socially aware

real if that is your personal view of people with autism then it's frankly an ignorant, and offensive, one.

i know lots of people with autism - myself included - and we don't behave like her. Basic manners are not lacking amongst our neurotype.

She is just a rude, bad mannered and entitled shitbag with the hide of a rhino.

Perhaps she may be autistic, which may be the reasons why she acts this way. I've been told that sufferers exhibit mad manners, no spacial awareness, can manage conversation with one person at a time and have no idea how to be socially aware.
Try talking to her and looking her straight into her eyes and if she doesn't meet your gaze then id be a bit more understanding with her. She may be undiagnosed.

Which may be her excuse.

What's yours?

Some of you women are so aggressive. Couldnt- if you're a sufferer then you should also be aware that there are many many different types of autism.

My daughter is autistic - she is very well-mannered.

Autism does not equal being a git!

It's been a week, she's still a tit. She takes different breaks to DP, luckily. He doesn't seem to like her much though so I won't worry about him!!

Listen, just because you're DH isn't interested in her doesn't mean there's nothing to worry about

Her behaviour towards him is worrying, for HIS sake, not from the POV of him cheating with her. She could cause all sorts of problems with her he MUST keep even more of a distance from her and be careful to not even momentarily be alone with her ever, and NEVER give her a lift again!

Real journal think it's time you educated yourself.

I'm highly educated thanks. Why don't you- 8miss- go and learn some etiquette. So aggressive.

real you don't come across as educated spouting that utter shite. Yes, of course, autism is diagnosed by seeing if they make eye contact! I hope my up coming assessment is that easy. I am unfailingly polite thanks. Autism has nothing to do with manners.

What if she stares right back and starts making suggestions?

Real journal you don't sound like you are 'highly educated' with your comments on autism. Assessing eye contact is not how autism is diagnosed.
Nor was my comment 'aggressive'

So as before perhaps you should educate yourself on these things.

Op well done. Hopefully she has hit the message.

has

Don't give her a lift! Ever again. Unless she apologises to you.

I'm highly educated thanks. Why don't you- 8miss- go and learn some etiquette. So aggressive

Your post was by far the rudest and most ignorant on the whole thread, I don't think those who called you on it are the ones who need to re-assess their etiquette

What happened last night, Name???

Last nights update comparitively boring
DP ran out of work and got in the car, we left.
Missyhissy snakey DP fancying weirdo looks longingly at us as we get in the van.
We drive away and it's like a scene from some shitty low budget nineties rom-com.

As eleven year old DN1 says "Y.O.L.O"

Maybe she is getting the message now

Haha, love your update, it made me chuckle

haha! brilliant Name she should def be getting the message now!

It's a bit like that scene in Car Share where Peter Kay decides to give Kayleigh a lift home cos it's lashing. There is another woman caught out in the rain too - Peter Kay beeps the horn and the other woman heads for his car but he shouts 'Not you!!!'
and leaves her in the p**sing rain.