- men coming on MN?

[iwantedaSindywardrobe]

Now I have no problem with men coming on here and declaring that they are men but seeking a female perspective on something. But there seem to be men who lurk and men who post pretending to be women on here.

I've read a few posts recently where there have been quite a lot of misogynistic comments (not saying women can't be like that) and some of those posters are clearly men. Mostly posts about how how women and girls are subject to sexually inappropriate or manipulative behaviour by males.

Why are men coming on here and doing this? It's a public forum, I get that, but it would never cross my mind to go on a DadsNet or equivalent forum pretending to be a man just to slate men and their particular experiences.

Is it just me who finds this odd and creepy?

[ErrolTheDragon]

I once had a look at DadsNet, it appeared that the most interesting, and possibly fastest moving thread was a monthly picture of Tesla (the man, not the car). My DD's last trip to Waterstones, her choice was a biog of him, maybe I should recommend the thread to her?

[LouKout]

The only thread i have looked at on dadsnet was full of women cringily trying to flirt with the dads.

[HRHTiggyD]

Because 99% of the time there's somewhere better to put your post.

You could talk about men's health on there, but men don't talk about that. Comparing bollock scratching techniques would need a men only area. (Pinch and roll guys!). Complaining about feeling hard done by would attract mockery. That leaves few men only subjects left.

[Sparklingbrook]

[Sparklingbrook]

Well firstly I couldn't even find Dadsnet. It is hidden in the section titled 'In the Club' which is a bit odd. So Dadsnet is a 'club' apparently.

Maybe if it was easier to find it would be used more.

[DameDeDoubtance]

I imagine there is a special dadsnet uniform?

[JellyBert]

I hate the term mainsplaining. Women can be stuck up know it alls & it isn't called womensplaining.
I also don't care if somebody is a man or women. I don't understand the posters saying "oh pigletjohn is called out re DIY". Are you trying to say it's because he's a man? I don't think this is the case at all. The likes of anyfucker is called out all the time on relationships - I once read that any relationships thread is a troll if AF doesn't comment ffs! - this isn't because of her sex, it's called being a well known poster man or woman.
I want to stay anonymous so name change a lot. I'm clearly a woman from my posting history on this name but I really don't understand why it's relevant...

[outabout]

Lighten up?
I am currently identifying with many of the women who have had their life turned upside down by very sudden departure from a long (28 years) partnership. Leaving with practically no money and a few clothes. I am NOT looking for sympathy, but justice. I was a SAHD and thoroughly enjoyed the time.

[JanetBrown2015]

I don't mind men being on here and don't see why any of us have to have a gender anyway (I have been called male although I'm not) but they need to be considerate as I hope all women should be. I don't see that men many posting actually so I don't see a big problem over it.

(Am not keen on the mansplaining word either as it always seems a bit sexist to me. We are all simply humans whether we have a vagina or not).

[WhatALoadOfOldBollocks]

TVTurtles sorry to hear you weren't treated well here. What I've noticed is that whether a male poster gets ripped to pieces or not is rather hit and miss, and if they say 1 word "wrong" then that's it. It can be saying "ladies", but equally it could be saying "girls", "females" or "women"...actually I'm really unsure quite what they are allowed to call women TBH! Saying that there are so many posters here who latch on to petty details like a dog with a bone regardless of the OPs' gender so it's not just men who get it. I'm sure some posters are just slavering for an argument.

[ThreeLeggedHaggis]

I think the board should automatically delete any post that includes the phrases "As a man" or "As a bloke". It would save me a lot of eye rolling.

[Sparklingbrook]

I have to say that any OP starting 'Hi ladies' makes me .

[RebelRogue]

Since there was a demand that every male specifically states they are one when they post,would there be any way for them to do that without someone reading it as "I'm a man therefore my opinion is more important"?

[JustAnotherSilentOldNumber]

So if all the advice is listened to...

Men have to state they are men when they post, but do it without stating they are men.

Easy.

[WankingMonkey]

Why do men not want to use Dadsnet

Its absolutely dead. Someone probably asked for it thinking there would be more traffic but I don't really see why men should be sidelined to one tiny area of a large forum tbh.

I get that this site started off as a by mothers for mothers type thing but it has evolved so much.

[Sparklingbrook]

Yes, it dead because nobody posts on it. It's too hard to find. It could be a thriving board.

It's not sidelining to have a specific space for Dads/Men to chat to other Dads/Men.

[Sparklingbrook]

I would imagine when they started MN they didn't think men would want to join. But you would have to ask them that. Not sure about a Dad-who was that then?

[Sparklingbrook]

No idea. I didn't discover MN til 2011 but had only ever heard of Carrie and Justine.

[Sparklingbrook]

Ah so Steve was required for the techy stuff.

[HRHTiggyD]

And for getting rid of spiders.

They had the internet in '99?

[Paddington68]

I confess, I am a man.

[ErrolTheDragon]

They had the internet in '99?

Since somewhere in the 80s, though there wasn't much content - allowed for email, a few discussion forums and Mornington Crescent. I used a US-based parenting board a bit in early 99.