- men coming on MN?

[iwantedaSindywardrobe]

Now I have no problem with men coming on here and declaring that they are men but seeking a female perspective on something. But there seem to be men who lurk and men who post pretending to be women on here.

I've read a few posts recently where there have been quite a lot of misogynistic comments (not saying women can't be like that) and some of those posters are clearly men. Mostly posts about how how women and girls are subject to sexually inappropriate or manipulative behaviour by males.

Why are men coming on here and doing this? It's a public forum, I get that, but it would never cross my mind to go on a DadsNet or equivalent forum pretending to be a man just to slate men and their particular experiences.

Is it just me who finds this odd and creepy?

(Prefix: I am a man)

I've decided I'm gonna use this NN for a while and add the prefix to Every post so some can see how ridiculous the need is for most threads. Personally think it already gives out the opinion I'm a dick*

( although nobody will know if I'm a man, woman or Parrot that's good on the keyboard )

Well said Lockheart I totally agree!

I identify as a cat.

The one person who has told me in RL that they use Mumsnet is a man in his early 60s. He is a parent but his children have long since left home. He is married to one of my best friends and she couldn't be less interested in Mumsnet if she tried! He joined when looking for house moving advice and has stayed ever since. He thinks its the best open chat sites on the internet.

MN is for anyone who can adhere to the Talk Guidelines. It's probably unusual in that its predominant group is adult women, and that - unlike IRL - it's men who may sometimes be 'othered'. Which good guys seem not to have a problem with, but is liable to be discombobulating to some who've never experienced it or thought about how it's commonplace for women.

zaphod - many of us have 'male' fictional names, sad fact is that there are more of those available in certain genres (most of the kickass female names were snapped up long ago).

I am going to take a leaf out of imamans book

And start all my posts with

Disclaimer...i am not actually a reindeer

(Im not really...it will take too long and i will keep forgetting)

I tell you what gets on my wick, people calling out for PigletJohn for DIY stuff, there's plenty of other very knowledgeable people.

ooh, a man? (bats eyelashes and adjusts bra flatteringly)

Can he write a good post? Has he an opinion? Is he funny or smart or both?

Do I give a monkeys nut whether he is really called Shelia and likes to wear purple silk underwear when he is laying tarmac?

No. All welcome here (and even the trolls are amusing when you see how fast posters suss them out and destroy. Many a time I've gone to bad v late because some threads are so entertaining).

People call out for Piglet John because he's the most well-known expert on all things lavatorial and washing machine-y, not because he's a man. Ditto prh for family lawyery stuff. (I tell people to put a callout for prh or for Spero in such cases, and I know damn well she's a woman) I used to tell people to ask for Tiktok if they had breastfeeding issues, and I'd ask SparklingBrook if I had a Duran Duran/Rob Lowe emergency.

None of which are remotely chosen because of their sex.

And BIWI's post ^ there is excellent. The MN "ooh a man!" hysterics make the people doing it sound, well, like hysterical females.

The title of this thread sounds pervy (my dirty mind?).

A thread title with your problem in it would be suffice.

Oh yes. If it's Duran Duran/Rob Lowe emergencies I am your man woman.

OK, I didn't get a nasty reaction or comment earlier so for 'full disclosure' I came on MN to help me with a few issues. I am (at the moment) married with daughter, thereby ticking a box or two and interested in finding out about good lawyers and issues I might be able to raise.
I am as I said earlier, a man and I am intrigued by the frequent LTB calls from so many MNers. If I posted my situation posing alternately as a man or a woman I wonder what replies I would have got.
The Dadsnet subforum is too slow moving.
I do know what washing machines and vacuum cleaners are and know how to use and fix them.
So how do you get tar out of silk underwear and what is a Duran Duran 'emergency? (just kidding obviously).

As soon as any home tech help is needed there are calls for piglet john. Who has a lot of knowledge and is very helpful.
. Someone else can say the same thing but it isn't true untl PJ says it.

I do idly wonder if piglet Jane would be regarded with such authority.

This thread reminds of a similar one on another forum. Same women's safe spaces,men are weird for coming here,they are perving/intruding etc. One of the most vocal posters was a married woman who turned out to be preying on what I consider vulnerable women,and starting emotional/physical affairs with them,and then bullying them starting hate campaigns against them when things because sour or too much.

I find it odd that men come here at all. Let alone men coming here pretending to be women. I would never contemplate going to a forum full of men. Why do they come here?

user1489261248 Have you bothered to RTFT? I think, if you do, you'll find that several of us have already explained that.

Just noticed OPs username. Was too busy covering the piano legs earlier in case a man spied them au natural.

Can't help thinking that while MN is a great forum for parents, those who truly desire a Sindy wardrobe might be more likely to find their people on Nethuns.

Hi, I'm the OP. I just want to say thank you to all of you who have posted. I have had a quick browse but won't have time to process it all for a couple of days due to family duties.

There's been quite a lot of sarcasm (lowest form of wit) but also some really enlightening posts. I am willing to re-visit my earlier preconceptions and will when I have time.

Butter, how droll.

Lol Op, to say sarcasm is lowest form of wit and then post a sarcastic comment.

I don't give a shit if someone is male or female. I agree men are often given a hard time in a situation where a woman wouldn't be. It's not ok and it's sexist.

I am definitely not someone who usually feels sorry for 'poor menz' however I don't think they can win on this one. Men are just people, this forum is not just for women despite the name. I've seen men accused of mansplaining and shouted down on their opinion if they declare they are male.

You're welcome.

I found MN when searching for practical information of some sort, and stumbled straight into AIBU. I was pretty much hooked on the humour, wisdom and thought-provoking, even though I'm not a mum, a parent or a woman.

That was three years ago, and I still read and engage with AIBU, Chat and Classics. I probably wouldn't ever post on relationships, and I avoid FWR on the basis that I see it as a women-only space. That said, it might be something I could learn from, I don't know.

I like being on MN, it has challenged and sometimes changed my thinking, and it's influenced my behaviour - in a positive way - on more than one occasion. It's really expanded my view on, among other things, trans matters (and particularly how they can impact on women's rights) Brexit and Scottish independence.

There's a smartness and an energy of conversation about MN and its posters that other forums lack. For every bitch-plopper and troll, there are hundreds of engaged, thoughtful and kind (but robust) posters. I might not use MN a lot, and I sometimes question whether I should be here at all, but I'd miss it if I left. So I stay, but do my best to be respectful of the environment and the people who use it.