neighbour just told me to fuck off!!

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Can't believe what's just happened!
We have lived here 10 years and it's just myself and husband now that the kids have grown up and left home
We both work full time so only really in evenings and weekends
Nice family live next door, in their 30s with 2 children, twins aged about 5/6 I would guess ( they go to school as have seen them in uniforms )
Always been polite but as I said not in very much.
We obviously do hear the general noise that comes with having kids, in the garden ( they don't let them out until about 11 which we appreciate as the last people would have them out as soon as it was 8am! ) and crying, shouting and that kind of stuff every now and then but nothing over what I would expect in a family home!
Yesterday I was popping to the shop and as getting into my car I heard a piercing scream; like the little girl was in agony and the mum shouting something, then the boy crying - didn't hear anything from the dad. Assumed maybe the boy had hurt her or some game had gone too far, it was only 6.30 so wasn't bothered remotely by the noise just to add!
I went off to the shops and came back and all quiet.
This morning I saw her taking them out somewhere in the car as I was taking the bins out so said hello, hope everything's okay. She looked at me a bit blankly and then said " why; what do you mean? " I then said " oh I heard a bit of a thud and screaming last night " and she said " and what does that have to do with you? " I then said " I'm not moaning about the noise; I just hoped all was alright " and she replied " well why don't you just fuck off! "
Great - now we live so close together it will be so uncomfortable.
Husband says I shouldn't have said anything; it wasn't my business and shouldn't have made the comment to start with!

Thanks so much, I feel so much better now and have offered to have the twins who are only actually 4 and in school nursery but are very tall so their behaviour is bound to be a bit hyperactive so my fault for thinking they're older! I've offered to have them on Easter Monday as I'm off work so that her and her husband can go for a pub lunch
She said yes please and thankyou very much and then got tearful and left so I'll wait until she drops them over and I'll do an Easter hunt with them
I don't have grandchildren yet so am happy to help!

OP my horrible neighbour has his house up for sale if you fancy a move to Lancashire.

Hope you have a lovely time with the lively twins.

I don't agree with the posters telling you that you shouldn't have made that comment. You didn't do anything wrong in saying that, OP. You were being nice and like a concerned neighbor. I mean, ffs, what if something actually did happen one day and they needed your help (kid getting hurt, needs you to call an ambulance, or who knows).

That's why it's important to be nice to your neighbors. They can really be there to help you if anything comes up. You didn't do anything wrong. Your neighbor sounds like a shitty human being with poor social skills. I wouldn't know how to act after my neighbor said that to me though... she owes you an apology. She's just made things very awkward for herself.

What a lovely (but sad) update.

You sound lovely.

Wish you were my neighbour. Mine likes to scrutinise my parenting and tell me how I'm doing everything wrong and criticise every last blooming thing. But I'm not the one who constantly screams at my kids (who cry all day long) and leaves dirty nappies by the front door.

OP, you sound like a lovely woman and they're lucky to have you as their neighbor.

Oh you sound such a lovely person

So it was a good thing you said "is everything ok" because it has lead to you helping her. I hope you have a lovely day with the twins tomorrow.

Also, if more neighbours were like you and offerd help to those with young children, families wouldnt feel so stressed.

It's so nice when people apologise isn't it? I went fishing in Ireland years ago and due to the crap map and my crap map skills I was fishing in the wrong place. The bailiff came along and was pretty rude to me (although he didn't swear) and just went off. I went to where I should have been and he made the effort to find me and apologise saying I had copped what someone else deserved and he felt bad about it so had come to apologise. I have never forgotten it.

I'm glad you're friends again.

You sound like a wonderful neighbour. She's lucky to have you.
I also hope things turn out for her. It doesn't seem like she has it easy.

Glad she has come round and apologised - and it was nice of you to offer to help. It's nice that you are both back on good terms; enjoy Easter Monday with the kids!

No wonder she was stressed. I'm glad you've sorted everything out. You sound lovely

Good outcome!!

Glad she apologised. You're a good neighbour OP I wouldn't have anyone's 4yo twins for free

What is duck duck goose?

Duck duck goose is where you walk round the outside of a circle touching each person on the head and saying 'duck', 'duck' etc but when you say 'goose' you have to run round the outside of the circle and the other person chases you.

I'm not sure how it works with only two people though

Brilliant outcome. I'm a big fan of giving people the benefit of the doubt, as we have no idea what's going on in people's lives.

OP you are a lovely neighbour.

I'm so glad to see this outcome. I've been that neighbour. I went round with chocolate and flowers and apologised and saw the GP as it was he indication i wasn't coping (single mum two young children, shouting far too much, neighbour just kindly intervened)

You sound lovely x

I think you were a tiny bit nosey OP, and shouldn't have said anything ... If I had been you, I would have monitored the situation for a while. It may have been a one off thing and nothing else may ever happen. We had occasions (although very rare,) when the kids squealed loudly if they got hurt, but kids do; they are drama queens!

However, the neighbour (next door I am guessing,) was really rude. She only had to say 'yeah we are fine thanks...' Not fuck off. That's awful actually.

Love a happy ending! 🎉

Just read your update (should have done that first D'OH!)

Glad it's OK, and kudos to her for being big enough to come around and make amends, and you do sound lovely, as many posters have said.

You were being nosy, you had no reason at all to mention it other than to be nosy.

Thanks @treaclesoda by the sounds of it, it doesn't work well with two

well notmycoat it seems that mentioning it has provided some help and support for the neighbour

You sound lovely OP

I have actually been in a very similar situation to your neighbour (twins, baby, redundancy!) and would be delighted to have you as my neighbour

I love the outcome of this! I'm so glad that this has gone this way. I wish my neighbours were like you OP.

What a lively outcome! Xx