WWUD? Random puking teenager in our kitchen

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We were out this eve, but not esp late (home by 10:30). DD has brought mates back. We know some not all.

They've been drinking booze I've provided (but was supposed to be more than one evening).

DD is 15, yr 10.

One of the kids chucked up. She's fine. She was here on a sleepover,m her parents aware. I know where she lives (20 mins away) but don't know her parents or how to contact them.

I've put her to bed, on her front. Sick bucket and water easily to hand.

What should I do?

Put her in the recovery position on her right side. Lying on your right helps prevent you being as sick due to the position of the stomach and the recovery position would reduce the risk of her choking on her vomit if she was sick.

Of course alcohol is more of a risk but teenagers are going to be exposed to it

They could be exposed that little bit less if idiot parents didn't hand it out like candy, and other idiot parents didn;t defend it and say how its no big deal

Ok Anna yes a petulant teenager for saying people should be responsible for themselves!!

You seem to be unable to tell the difference between adults and children. Adults need to be responsible for children.
Surely this is not news to anyone but the terminally stupid?

I don't see how providing some for a gathering is "handing it out like candy" or makes parents "idiots". If it is then a lot of parents I know are clearly "idiots", much to my surprise.

I am sorry but if you want to give your child alcohol then fine. However, providing alcohol to under age kids who have no control over their intake and then go out? No. That is not liberal. That is poor judgement. The alcohol level is irrelevant. If that were my child, I would be steaming. I would have trusted her into your care. What should you do? Stay up and watch her like a hawk to make sure she is ok. Deal with the results of your decision and cross everything that she has nothing but a hangover in the morning.

Admit I haven't read the whole thread so apologies if this came up, but for those of you with teens who have iPhones (not sure if android has a similar thing) please get your kids to set up a medical ID thing, it's easy to do, and means that should something happen then someone can access their medical info and ICE contact without needing to unlock their phone. You do it by going into the health app and then clicking medical ID and edit. You then access it by clicking the home button when phone is locked, clicking emergency and then medical ID :) sorry if this is old news, but sometimes things get missed or forgotten about

I don't see how providing some for a gathering is "handing it out like candy" or makes parents "idiots". If it is then a lot of parents I know are clearly "idiots", much to my surprise.

Obviously, some parents are "idiots" . You may not see think those who provide alcohol for a gathering of 15-year-old children and leave them unsupervised are idiots but as you are only 17, perhaps wait 20 years or so and see how you feel then.

Obviously, some parents are "idiots" . You may not see think those who provide alcohol for a gathering of 15-year-old children and leave them unsupervised are idiots but as you are only 17, perhaps wait 20 years or so and see how you feel then.

Yeah. No offence to Amy but I'm pretty sure my 15 year old who is almost 16 would think it's cool and not stupid if his friend's mum left him alcohol to drink. I can't imagine that when he grows up and has his own children he would be impressed if it was his 15 year old drinking it at a friend's house supplied by an adult.

I also don't know any parent who would buy their 15 year old alcohol to share with friends, certainly not without speaking to the other parents first. When I was a teen my friend's parents wouldn't do that either.

It's not even about 15 year olds drinking alcohol, but adults taking it upon themselves to supply it to underage children without the parent's permission. It really is common sense. I parent my children how I see fit, I wouldn't dream of deciding it was ok for other 15 year olds to drink alcohol supplied by me.

A 15 year old is not a child and needs to own their actions. End of.

A 15 year old most certainly is a child. In the eyes of the law. End of.

The eyes of the law and common sense are two different things. Are you saying that a 15 year and 364 day year old is a child and then the next day they aren't interesting

You don't give other people's under-age children alcohol unless the parent has OKed it. End of.

nair agreed- I'm only saying it's not the mums fault that the kids get so sloshed they vomit and also I'm saying that teenagers have to learn to take responsibility for their actions

No, because you need to be 18 to be an adult Mowegli. Certainly in the case of alcohol.

This is why the law tends not have 'common sense ' definitions.

The idea that so many adults and parents encourage their children to behave in a way that is beyond their years truly saddens me. Allowing them to drink early does not in nay way have a positive spin for me.

Let children be children.

A 15 year old is not a child and needs to own their actions. End of.

An adult who buys other people's underage children needs to own their actions. End of.

Do you think 15 year olds are adults then mowgeli? If that is what your "common sense" tells you, my guess is that you are pretty close to that age yourself...

Also agreed that children should be children I am just hammering home my point that there is a degree of responsibility from the teenager, nobody threw the cava down their neck for them did they 👍

I didn't say they are adults room and yes I'm close enough I'm 24, almost 25 with a husband and a son. I was very badly behaved as a teenager but now fairly sensible and conservative so it all turns out ok in the end for most people.

But to come back to it , yes, unless a leap year, someone say 17 years and 364 days is defined differently in the law (they couldn't vote for example) than someone a day older.

That's pretty obvious, I'd say.

Ok the law I'm not arguing with I'm just saying that fuck all changes from 23.59.59 to 00.00.00 when someone gets a year older in terms of their responsibility. It needs to be a gradual transition as teenagers get older and secondly that parents are not always to blame for teenagers shit decisions.
I never blamed my mum and dad for when I was hammered or taking drugs on a Saturday night.

I do agree with that aspect Mowegli - sort of. It didn't much sound like long gone OP was going to issue that much of a bollocking to me, tbh.

I have now watched Child Of Our Time and was shocked how funny the mum thought the vomiting teenage girls were. Some were so drunk they were lying on the floor.

I'm not sure what your point is mowgeli. Whether or not the child was stupid to drink so much alcohol is completely irrelevant to the question of whether a parent should supply alcohol for other people's children.

By the way I think it's rotten when people are hammered especially teenagers and no it is not funny at all it is dangerous for so many reasons. It's also not cool.
I now drink not very much don't smoke and live a healthy and ordinary life it's just that I'm saying it's common behaviour for teenagers to experiment and get drunk. I would not be celebrating or laughing if and when my son does this because that is outrageous, wrong and disgusting I'm just saying I hope I can be a source of information, support and education as to why this is not a good choice and an unacceptable way to behave. Having a couple of beers or a glass or two of fizz with your friends is so much better then being a drunken mess but again it's still not the parents responsibility for all of their teenagers actions.

You are now sensible and conservative, so it all turns out ok in the end, for most people?

Those 2 things are not connected, do you know that? I can't tell you how many of my childhood friends didn't turn out ok

But, it's besides the point. You don't get to make that decisions for other people's kids.

I think your sole argument seems to be that you turned out all right. I am sure you don't mean this but you have implied that , in fact, those who don't get sloshed etc. turn out worse!

I am sure OP's daughter and friends will also 'turn out all right' but there are plenty who don't. Since you mention drugs, Leah Betts springs to mind.

But it's irrelevant anyway as you were doing that without your parents' knowledge or consent. So they definitely were not to blame. Parents who provide alcohol muddy the waters , unnecessarily in my view.

And they know full well they have to buy the alcohol as they are acutely aware that the law says their children can't. I find that bizarre.