DD (14) wearing leggings and crop tops

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DD is very sporty, likes to wear nice stuff but definitely never looks tarty or overdone. Her clothes of choice and comfort are black leggings and a top. If I was wearing leggings the top would definitely cover my whole (enormous) bum.

However she very often wears a short tshirt or crop top and isn't at all concerned that her crotch and bum are on view. She is very slim but obviously is now developing a woman's figure. She is definitely not trying to show off her bum, just doesn't see any issue with it.

I can't really work out if I should talk to her about it or if I should just think, lucky her to be able to get away with it! I'm slightly more bothered about the crotch than the bum I think.

AIBU?

Agree with derxa My Dd (15) wears similar outfits. It doesn't horrify me; she looks great. Her leggings are not see through so I don't see a problem.

Teenagers experiment with their appearance, nothing new or wrong with that.

"unsanitary"

Dd has some lovely jeggings from H&M They are thick and have all the jean details but super comfy and fit lovely as she is very slim She has 5 pairs in a variety of colours so I don't get bored looking at her

If you set high standards early, young people won't even consider certain sorts of behavior or dress

This made me laugh so hard.

If we all dressed "appropriately" then the world would never have been blessed with the 8th wonder that is:

Yes, to my generation leggings and crop tops look like going out in your underwear. But then so did post WW1 fashions to parents who had been brought up in the Victorian era. The horror of young women ditching their corsets or showing their ankles- what were men going to think?

I like to cling on to the wise worlds of the dowager countess of Grantham: “Oh, my dear, in my time I wore the crinoline, the bustle and the leg-of-mutton sleeve. I’m not in a strong position to criticise.”

Have not rtft, culturally I think it is really widespread for teenage girls to be looked on with a critical eye, and As a Mum I find myself wondering - like you - whether to say something...on balance I save it for the crucial stuff (like is it actually clean, is it getting too small, sometimes if it works as an outfit - for one dd who does appreciate the advice as she does not 'get' clothes). And I might request no crop tops depending on where we are going/appropriate smartness etc.

My 8 year old daughter wears leggings and t shirts as her favourite outfit, simply because she finds them comfortable and she can do the splits in them. Apparently you may need to do the splits at any time so no jeans or skirts permitted.... grrrr

You can always comfort yourself with the fact that you would be seeing an awful lot more cleavage if the world had not moved on from what was considered respectable women's wear in the 18th century. A little more conservatism and seriously, you'd get to see it all. But then one generation's conservatism is another generation's shock and horror.

And not only the 18th century: I saw a 15th century tombstone the other day and the amount of cleavage that lady was displaying would have raised some eyebrows today. But it was in the chancel, not far from the altar, so presumably the lady was respectable.

What is always hard to accept when we get to middle age is that we are no longer the arbiters of taste: that job lies with the younger generation. And always did.

One thing I love about leggings is that it allows the wearer the ability to be active. Run, jump, do the splits, as one poster mentioned (though sadly not in my case). So many womens' fashions, ancient and modern, are rather restricting of movement and leggings are definitely not. The wearer is not required to be ladylike and sit nicely and all that crap.

And they are not new! We had them 30 years ago. Nothing new under the sun.

Yep, they were ugly then and they're ugly now. But they're just about bearable if you wear something over them. But worn as trousers on their own, it looks like you cut the feet off your tights, took off your skirt and actually left the house. Christ. I mean, there's some fashions that look a bit silly when their time has passed, but then there's looking like you didn't actually get dressed and cut your underwear up to boot.

Nothing to do with age, size, shape or "modesty", it just inherently looks shit.

My DS(20) wears leggings. Expensive ones from Under Armour. No one has clutched their pearls.
DD(22) is a tiny size 6 and rocks her sports leggings and bralet/drapey T combo.
I do like to remind them I wore them first though. And still do on gym days.

Nothing to do with age, size, shape or "modesty", it just inherently looks shit.

In your opinion. Some people probably think you look shit, which is their opinion.

Things looking "shit" is just an opinion. I think stiletto heels look bloody ridiculous, like joke shoes, but I fully accept that that is just my view, not an actual fact.

My 16 year old DD wears sports leggings and t-shirts. Sometimes she ties the t-shirt up, she also wears crop tops. I have no problems with it. Her leggings are branded thick ones so don't show her underwear. I'm often found in running leggings and a gym top which doesn't cover my butt too. I certainly don't change to pop in Tesco on my way home from the gym. I may put a hoodie or jacket on but that's only so I don't freeze to death until I can hit the shower at home.

Leggings don't look like tights with the feet cut off? Not proper thick ones. My 8 yo lives in leggings and they certainly don't look like she's cut the feet off her tights and left her skirt at home. They look like stretchy, close fitting trousers.

Personally i think the hair extensions/fake tan/nails/ layers of "contouring" make up, sharpie eyebrows, skinny jeans/cold shoulder fashion "looks shit", but it's completely up to the wearer.

Lol about old-timey cleavage. Right now I'm looking at a 17th century Vermeer painting, and that lady's boobage would make the Kardashians blush.

And can anyone remember the no-bra fashion of early 70s? Oh lordie

And the 60s minis. I mean, how could anyone even sit down in those things without flashing people?

80s thong swimsuits are another horror which makes leggings pale in comparison

Her leggings are branded thick ones so don't show her underwear.
I also love my thick sports ones.
But I hate seeing the thinner black cottony ones worn as trousers. I think it looks silly.

There's a massive difference between thick sports leggings and the thin flimsy ones.
(There's a reason that I do an awful squat test in all yoga pants/sports leggings. If thr pattern stretches or the material thins then they are simply not trousers)

Have noticed with my younger DDs that a lot of girls' clothes on sale here make being comfy and active difficult whereas boys' clothes don't.

Leggings are at least comfy.

In the 90s crop tops with stonewashed levi type jeans with a belt were in: quite a few people I knew at school had their belly button pierced to go with it.

My dd wears leggings most days as do many of her friends. I don't think any of the boys do because it's not a fashionable look but there are plenty of skinny jeans on both sexes. School dress code is no skimpy tops/short shorts but no one has an issue with leggings.

I like leggings as a look, dd has lots of cool pairs, none of which look like tights (unless the tights are very thick and patterned). When she was younger she wouldn't have worn too thin leggings because I bought them, now she is just sensible and likes to be warm (leggings being generally winter wear).