Was I U to wear the same outfit to two weddings?

[GameOldBirdz]

Since Christmas, I've been to four weddings. I'm that age where everyone I know is getting married!

I wore the same outfit to three of these weddings. Two of these same-outfit weddings were the same crowd of people- family. My cousin, who was at both family same-outfit weddings, sent me a load of photographs yesterday and said in the email "It's a shame you couldn't be bothered to wear something different".

I replied to thank her for sending and said "I'm sorry if I offended you recycling my outfit, I'm cheap ". We have a good relationship, we're friends, I thought she'd take this in good humour. But no, she sent a massive paragraph saying I was disrespectful, that it was very bad show, it was rude and that if I didn't want to go I should have declined the invitation rather than turn up inappropriately dressed (her words).

I did want to go to both weddings, it wasn't remotely meant as a 'fuck you' to the couple getting married. I told my mum about it and she agreed with my cousin that it was inappropriate.

So now I'm doubting myself and worried that I've made a massive faux pas and that everyone hates me?

So, was I being unreasonable to recycle the outfit? I should say that I did use a different bag/ accessories for both weddings but the basic outfit was the same.

[MsBlazen]

Unfortunately, your post has been used by another website (at least it wasn't the daily mail )

www.the-pool.com/fashion/fashion-honestly/2017/14/lauren-bravo-on-wedding-outfit-pressure

Might be a good time to name change if you haven't already.

[MsBlazen]

Oh oops, didn't read the whole thread - just saw that the daily fail used it too...

[AWorkingMum80]

This thread really made me laugh at the madness of what's expected of women at weddings, then I remembered having my outfit veto'd by the bride last summer for being too similar to her dress...a week before the wedding, when I was EIGHT MONTHS pregnant! I was a little surprised that my bronze maternity knee length dress would look anything like a bride but obligingly changed outfit and sure enough on the day, hers looked nothing like mine. But then she is ten years younger than me, very glamorous, & I looked like a beached whale. And it all came abut because I deb her a photo of the dress (attached) to check it was okay with her after spotting a dress code request to avoid cream on her invitation. I thought I would be extra polite by double checking with her as there was cream lace on my dress, never imagining I would receive a no. More fool me for checking, should have just turned up!

[Dizzy2009]

Talk about Bridezilla lol, AWorkingMum80! Pity you didn't wear that dress, it looks lovely on you, although it does look a bit cream if I'm honest. But she should have let it go in view of your circumstances, I think, especially as she would have known it was nothing like your dress.

[AWorkingMum80]

Dizzy2009 - you are right, it definitely looks cream in that photo. My husband did point out later that it looked far more cream in that photo in real life which I hadn't really considered, too late once I had sent it! All's well that ends well, the replacement dress had a lot more room for eating and both dresses sold on Ebay