Was I U to wear the same outfit to two weddings?

[GameOldBirdz]

Since Christmas, I've been to four weddings. I'm that age where everyone I know is getting married!

I wore the same outfit to three of these weddings. Two of these same-outfit weddings were the same crowd of people- family. My cousin, who was at both family same-outfit weddings, sent me a load of photographs yesterday and said in the email "It's a shame you couldn't be bothered to wear something different".

I replied to thank her for sending and said "I'm sorry if I offended you recycling my outfit, I'm cheap ". We have a good relationship, we're friends, I thought she'd take this in good humour. But no, she sent a massive paragraph saying I was disrespectful, that it was very bad show, it was rude and that if I didn't want to go I should have declined the invitation rather than turn up inappropriately dressed (her words).

I did want to go to both weddings, it wasn't remotely meant as a 'fuck you' to the couple getting married. I told my mum about it and she agreed with my cousin that it was inappropriate.

So now I'm doubting myself and worried that I've made a massive faux pas and that everyone hates me?

So, was I being unreasonable to recycle the outfit? I should say that I did use a different bag/ accessories for both weddings but the basic outfit was the same.

My mother was buried in the outfit she wore to my wedding - 20 years later. It still looked lovely on her.

Tell your cousin you are curating the multiple and conflicting emotions you are feeling in response to her comments and when you have a cohesive thematic response you'll be right back to her.

What you wear and when is your business. Smiley fuck off coming her way. She isn't worried about the effect of her outburst on you, why would you be concerned that your outfit offended her? Bollocks to that. Chin up and move on.

Hahaha, it's in the daily fail. At least you don't have to reply to her txt now?!

Ha ha! No, definitely not! My mum had this one outfit she wore to lots of weddings, so much so we called it her green wedding dress!

My cousin has just text to confirm everything's okay for our drink tonight. I wondered if she'd seen the story in the Daily Fail and decided I'm a massive bitch. But there was no hint of that in her text message. She deliberately stays away from the Fail but she's on Facebook and people talk.

My friend (who I told the story of the inappropriate outfit to) spotted the story in the Daily Fail and emailed me saying she couldn't believe it, I'm famous.

Oh well, press up the jumpsuit for tonight then.

Ask The Fashion Police to front the money next time for a new wedding outfit. Otherwise tell her you will be wearing the same outfit again and not changing any of the accessories.

Tell your cousin you don’t support cheap disposable fashion that exploits third world labour and encourages child labour and slavery, instead you choose to invest in proper quality ethical fashion. that should wipe the smugness off her face.
Don’t really get it, some woman are so judgemental. Why not wear the same outfit, change it up with different heals, or pashmina or jacket...
As a man it’s so much easier, I had a proper Morning Suit made for my wedding, hate to say it but damn I look good, (so much more flattering than an off the peg lounge suits) so I wear it to EVERY wedding I go to, I have had so much use out of it, it’s been incredible value for money, and no one has said you've worn that before, I might wear a different shirt & Tie, probably not though I can’t really remember. Don’t see why Men can do it but woman can’t, bloody ridiculous.

Your cousin sounds a complete snob.It's people that count not the outfit they are wearing. She sounds very shallow!

Unless you're the bride at one of the weddings (& then only if it's an obvious wedding dress) then YANBU.
My DH has worn the same kilt to every wedding we've been to including our own! Maybe men aren't seen as decoration

I hope the jumpsuit has a lovely time tonight.

I'm jumpsuited and booted (well ballet pumped ) and off to meet her.

Wish me luck!

Best of luck OP!

If you're wearing a jacket or coat over it, make sure you do a little shimmy when you take it off, so she can't miss The Jumpsuit.

Love it OP Wish you could take a photo of her face when she clocks you.
Madwomans

Bunny
My MIL turned up to our wedding in a very old skirt and top which I'd seen her wearing over several years, and it was very faded.
Now that was very unreasonable and I would have noticed and remembered that slight for life

Errrr. That's ridiculous. Who cares what outfit the guests wear as long as they are well turned out (or as per dress code) and happy?!

Enjoy your evening OP!

Now not even the Fail are the worst. Check this for cutting and pasting 'news' www.msn.com/en-gb/lifestyle/wedding/the-surprising-reason-a-wedding-guest-called-rude-and-disrespectful/ar-BBzuksc?li=AA2FOLs&ocid=spartanntp

I like how they ask at the end

"What do you think of the bride's reaction?"

After pointing out at the start that it wasn't any bride that complained.

How did it go tonight? Did she apologise for her doolally behaviour?!

Ugh people really needs to find real news. I think we should all start writing at the bottom of ops

"This is the Internet, this story might not be true"

Even if it is just to dissuade them from using it.

I agree with all those who have rightly asked if men get criticism for wearing the same suit . YANBU - it's ver expensive to keep
buying sth new especially in such a short space of time . Some people behave very unreasonably when they get married - they should apologise to you for being so rude!

She wasn't even the bride lol. The bride hasn't even commented on what fhe op was wearing!

The whole idea that wearing a dress more than once is "recycling it" is a symptom of how batshit crazy our world is really. Some people love planning and buying new outfits but that's their own choice and nothing to do with respect for the couple getting married. What a bizarre notion.

Update from me though it's not particularly exciting, sorry.

I asked her WTF the email was about. She said sorry, she didn't mean it to come across so aggressive but she would have bought different outfits for two weddings with the same crowd. She said she thought that "recycling" an outfit made it look like you can't be bothered to buy new for the second wedding.

I said "that's because you're shallow and consumerist" and she said "Yeah, I know"

Much later in the night, she noticed that I was wearing the same jumpsuit that I'd worn to the two weddings. She told me it looked amazing and asked me whether I'd worn it last night just to prove a point.

I said "Yes " I resisted the urge to tell her that MN had made me wear it. I then asked whether it was any wonder I wore it at multiple weddings if I look so great in it. She was quite drunk at this point and it kind of blew her mind.

So, basically, that was the end of that. I was toying with whether to tell her it was on Daily Fail and elsewhere but I decided not to.

Today I have a hangover and my legs hurt from dancing. I'll be mostly drinking tea, eating cheese and onion crisps and MNing.