Was I U to wear the same outfit to two weddings?

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Since Christmas, I've been to four weddings. I'm that age where everyone I know is getting married!

I wore the same outfit to three of these weddings. Two of these same-outfit weddings were the same crowd of people- family. My cousin, who was at both family same-outfit weddings, sent me a load of photographs yesterday and said in the email "It's a shame you couldn't be bothered to wear something different".

I replied to thank her for sending and said "I'm sorry if I offended you recycling my outfit, I'm cheap ". We have a good relationship, we're friends, I thought she'd take this in good humour. But no, she sent a massive paragraph saying I was disrespectful, that it was very bad show, it was rude and that if I didn't want to go I should have declined the invitation rather than turn up inappropriately dressed (her words).

I did want to go to both weddings, it wasn't remotely meant as a 'fuck you' to the couple getting married. I told my mum about it and she agreed with my cousin that it was inappropriate.

So now I'm doubting myself and worried that I've made a massive faux pas and that everyone hates me?

So, was I being unreasonable to recycle the outfit? I should say that I did use a different bag/ accessories for both weddings but the basic outfit was the same.

"It seems like they just sit around on MN and Reddit"

Wait, so I could do that and get paid for it and call myself a journalist??

I've been a journalist for fucking years then. I should put that on my CV.

Don't forget twitter! Quoting crap people write on that apparently counts as 'journalism'. Ridiculous. No wonder we never see any decent stories these days, or the powers that be, being held to account

Next family wedding, wear your own wedding dress

Unless you were the bride I don't think it ruddy matters!! How rude for someone to pull you up on it. What you wore is your own business and nobody's else's (unless you were naked haha)

Fucking Daily Fail

Only just seen this thread, as it's on the Hot Threads email from MN. Are you in Ireland OP? As I know they take their outfits very seriously over there.

I think your cousin is bonkers...but thinking back to just after my wedding, I wasn't thinking straight at all. I had post-wedding blues, hated all the photos, kept dwelling on all the things that had gone wrong etc I'm not excusing her, but perhaps she isn't thinking clearly atm.

What is it about weddings that causes a kind of bridal psychosis?!

Nobody normal gives a fuck what you wear to a wedding.

I'm one of these people that subscribes to the if it isn't broken don't fix it way of life. If I have 2-3 dresses that are acceptable wedding attire I will wear them over and over until they look too scruffy or don't fit. Why buy something new when I don't have to? The only important people at a wedding are the couple getting married so as long as everyone else looks suitably smart then it shouldn't matter if they've worn an outfit before.

No YANBU, YAB Sensible!

Just say to yourself "has my cousin invited me to her wedding or the outfit I am wearing?"
She's been thoughtless, the person/friend or family is far more important.
Perhaps she will come to realise this one day especially if hard times come along and there are no pennies in the pot to be that extravagant.
Cheer up, I would say you were in the right here.

Camilla, the Duchess of Cambridge, actors, EvERYONE recycles expensive outfits ..... I certainly do! 🌺

I'm in Ireland and I'm not sure what you mean by taking our outfits 'very seriously'?
The cousin sounds bonkers to me. Far too expensive and totally unnecessary to wear a different outfit to each wedding.
I have a very simple red dress that I've worn to my fortieth, a wedding, a christening, a work do, and a conference.
I will probably dig it out for another family gathering next month, and a couple of conferences after that. It cost me 34 euros in the Cos sale.

Wear what you like.

The most important thing is your turned up to witness such an important public statement of love & commitment.

Bloody hell. My brother is getting married this year and I bought a gorgeous dress last week with the intention that I'll be able to wear it next year to a different wedding, it's an expensive dress and not something I'll gets tons of wear out of.
Your cousin is being ridiculous.

Are we supposed to be buying new outfits for every wedding we attend now!?

I don't bloody think so, your cousins is bonkers...and rude!

I wore a dress to my sister in law's wedding, which I then wore as my going away outfit, and then to my husband's best friend's wedding.

id be mortified wearing the same outfit three times with the same group of people, but it's not disrespectful just, like you say, cheap.

Seriously? Of course it's fine to wear the same outfit. It's not as if you turned up in PJ's and slippers.
I'd wear the outfit to as many places as possible and post pics with captions (a bit like the class teddy!).
"Here is me in outfit at Alton Towers, me again in outfit on top of Everest, and me again skateboarding in outfit etc etc ......."

People get crazy about weddings. For some, it's escapism from real life and somebody wearing the same outfit ruins the fantasy. It wasn't her wedding and unless she cared that much to buy you a new outfit, tell her she is being unreasonable.

Is she for real?

I've was wearing the same outfit to weddings, christenings, job interviews etc for YEARS, literally years.

the only reason I updated is because I got even fatter and so had to go out and purchase a new outfit for 'special occasions'.

I have one pair of 'dressy' trousers and 3 tops which I consider nice enough for all of the above plus work nights out etc. I have the same clothes on in most pics. And this is going back years - nobody has ever said anything and if they have, it's been complimentary eg 'you should wear your blue collarless blouse - it really suits you', or 'I love that top - that's the one you work to 'x's wedding - it's lovely, where did you get it?'.

always said sincerely and with affection.

Your cousin is just not nice

Turning up in a gimp suit would be unreasonable. Wearing the same nice frock twice not so much.

If the duchess of Cambridge can recycle her outfits then surely it's ok for the rest of us?!?

wear what you want sweetheart, you know what you need to spend your money on .
I'm sure the brides couldn't have cared less as long as their nearest and dearest turned up with kind hearts and loving thoughts .
Your cousin sounds very judgemental ...how did she know if you could afford new outfits or not ?

You know what I think is unreasonable - shithead newspapers publishing stories like this - seriously there is a lot going on in the world yet the daily fail publish this

Fucking dickheads

PS to those posters saying it is 'cheap' - what does that mean exactly?

My 'dressy' outfits are far from cheap but they are very well used and only get slinged when tatty or size change. I always buy classic timeless pieces so that fashion changes will not impact what I wear.

Much better things to spend money on than clothes - gifts for the occasions for one...