To hate living in what isn't practically solitary confinement

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I have no idea how I've managed to end up like this. I've been at university most of my life. I've not worked in paid work during that time. When I finished my course I was unemployed for almost two years but have managed to get two days work (at most, im bank staff) working each week. Sometimes I get no work for upto three weeks.

I moved to a hell hole of a place when I got pregnant, to be nearer to His family. I was 21. We split shortly after my Son was born and for 7 years I have basically wasted here.

I don't fit in. I have a PHD and apparently a 'posh' voice which is laughed at regularly. When I do get to know people I'm more a point of amusement than anything else. I've never had this problem anywhere else I've lived.

My ex and his family moved 40 mins away.

So now, I have a council house, in a rough area, where I literally know no one. I see no one. I spend almost every day on my own in a small 2 bed house surrounded by only my 6 year old for company (and he's not really any company even though I love him).

I do have two friends who live in the nearest city but I am so poor I can't afford to do anything. Visit them, go to soft play centres, go to any of the facilities in the nearest city. I don't even have a supermarket round here so get my shopping online.

There is very little round here. Not even a supermarket and I can't afford to travel around.

My son is fine as he ha school and then goes to his dads where he does fun things at the weekend.

I'm keeping going by applying for full time work and once I have a full time job I will be fine. Adult company, people I have things in common with to make friends with and a reason to get up in the morning.

Right now I spend almost every single day alone. With nowhere to go, no one to see. I'd rather be in prison!!!

I feel like I'm serving a prison sentence in solitary confinement and spend all my days listening to music and going on my phone as I have to do something for stimulation.

I know I'm not the only one who lives this sort of isolated life. How do those of you in similar situation cope?

Aibu to feel like I'm going be from lack of mental stimulation? I'm so so so bored.

Oh, I forgot your lad would be home. Good luck with the interview revision.

TBH I've never been to Mossley but it looks like it'd be a good location for town with a car. It's worth hanging on, it'll be the new Chorlton in 5 years time :)

If you're interested in teaching use your headteacher friend to help you get some volunteering experience so you could go for a pgce if you see teaching as an option. School direct might be worth a look or teach first. If you feel you have options you might feel less despondent.

I got the job in Wales. Onwards and upwards now!

It's a job in my field, so no need to take a lower paid position as a stepping stone. I'm so incredibly happy, and almost done believe it

😁

I just wanted to say that i hope you find a way out of your situation. Its a horrible feeling to feel as though you dont fit in

Oh just read your post. BRILLIANT NEWS!!

Congratulations! Speaking as someone on the job search too I always like to hear of other's success!

I'm a bit jealous - I've NEVER heard back from an interview on the same day...

Excellent news OP! You can now start making plans for the future and there's lovely weather outside to go with it.

Well done op! Best of luck in your new job

Massive congratulations OP
A lovely new beginning for you and your boy

I have a job interview for a job there next week and it would change my life forever if I got it.
Just wanted to put that there! .
I'm so pleased for you - you must be thriled! Well done.

WTF! That's flipping brilliant news. Well done. I'm happy for you and your son. Thanks for updating.

When I told you that you needed to be patient I was anticipating it being a little longer hehe.

Well done OP. Really happy for you

Fantastic!