To confront these so called friends?

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Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

Those girls not women are bitches and are acting like children. Personally, I wouldn't have messaged them but it's done now. Don't make any further contact and move on. If you think back, you'll probably find other times when they left you out, or maybe they blocked you, so you wouldn't know. They're not true friends so you're better off without them.

Awful behaviour...I know how I felt when a group of friends I'd worked with for 14 years, and reminded them to tell me if they were having a get together...posted happy pictures of their night out. I reacted badly and unfriended them all on facebook. That feeling of being forgotten/excluded is horrible. Your friends definitely did it on purpose...you need new mates!

I'm assuming your friends are all about 12 because I can't think of any other reason for their ridiculously childish behaviour.

Start distancing yourself from them. With friends like that who needs enemies? !

I had to comment on this because the exact same thing happened to me when I was about 14/15.

There was a local disco on a Friday where I lived and I was going with my best friend (and some other girls I used to be close with - girl1 and girl2)

We did all the excited planning, what we were going to wear, who would be there...etc...

Day of the disco she tells me she's not going now because the other girls aren't. My gut feeling alerted me but she was my BFF and would never betray me! (-_-)

Of course, you see where this is going. All of them went without me. When I confronted my BF the following Monday at school, her response was "So, girl1 and girl2 told me to?"

That was it, no apology. We fell out for quite a while but then I stupidly forgave her and she ended up causing me even greater heartache down the road.

So, to summarise, don't waste any further effort on people like this. They won't change.

Only put your efforts into people who will treat you like real friends should :)

The number of replies you have shows how many people can identify with just how bloody upsetting this behaviour is. It seems very common. What JustSpeakSense said on page 5 does explain it. They have a need to leave someone out to make themselves feel more popular / important. I think that's right and it's not likely to be anything you've done.

I'm always shocked by how frequent this behaviour is. I would never dream of treating someone this way, even someone I don't like. I've had a thread about being exciled from a friendship group recently (was in 30 Days Only so might not still be there). You feel like it shouldn't hurt so much because you aren't 13 but it is one of the most devastating experiences in my life (more so than a divorce as 4 people decided they wanted me out). It's just clicked that they are now arranging an activity I've always wanted to do. They know that so it really upsets me that they have once again chosen to leave me out. Especially since at least 2 of them know how much this has affected me. Sorry to hijack - just to say you are far from alone. There's lots of callous women out there inflicting emotional damage onto nice people.

Sorry to hear your ex-friends are horrid cowards! Hope you have other (better) friends. Move on OP no matter how hard it is and don't let them know just how hurt you are.
Just to say, it is not just women that do this. It is some men and women who are bullies/horrible insecure people.

Have any of them been in contact op? You must be so hurt, id be in floods over this if I actually had any friends in the first place lol

'Callous Women inflicting emotional damage on nice people'

You got it in one Personanongrata80

Did you ever find out what happened?