To confront these so called friends?

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Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

'Is your flat mate still in contact with them? Can she intervene on your behalf and find out why? Not that it should make any difference, they have behaved awfully.'

If I were the flatmate I'd want to get the hell away from those cunts. It would be my cue of what kind of people these are.

I've had this done to me OP. They were 9 years older than me but they were bullies. I've moved on and although it stung and hurt badly, my life is much better without them.

Oh OP I'm so sorry. What a nasty bunch of childish bitches they have shown themselves to be. I don't expect you'd have got a truthful answer out of them anyway - I don't imagine they have the perception or self awareness to say "it makes us feel secure and superior to pick on someone else in order to deflect attention from our inadequacies". Try to put them behind you x

I had a couple of 'friends' like this and let it get to me. I ended up losing a lot of last year to depression

Same here, It's horrible that it affects you as much as it can and it still gets to me that it happened to me, But I do look back and realise they were never good friends anyway. I hope you will too OP, and I hope you have a lot of other people around you right now.

Ed, because I'm hoping they're perhaps young women who aren't planning on raising any children in the near future, given the shit example they're likely to set.

EBIOND this sort of thing happened to me in my teens/ early 20s. It is a shitty thing to do at any age, I agree. What I'm not sure if is whether it happens less because people grow up, or whether I encounter it less often now because as I've got older, I've learned to filter out these people before I'm friends with them.

So sorry. What nasty people .

noitsnotme

Fair point!

Mean girls! I had this happen recently with my sisters so know how utterly devastating it feels. So sorry this has happened to you .

Try to go for a walk and get out of the house for a bit. Fresh air helped me and made me realise how 'small' they are in the grand scheme of things. Stay away from the alcohol (trust me on this one!)

Because they are nasty cowards.bet they are all bitching amongst themselves. Yes Mabey they are jealous, or just nasty. Forget them now, tgey are not worth your time.

So sorry this happened but you've already said you were going to ditch this "friendship" so will it really help to know why they did it? No answer is going to change the fact that they're nasty bitches they've deliberately hurt your feelings and lied to you.

I received an email from my colleague the other day which wasn't meant for me. It was her slagging me off to another colleague. I just forwarded it to them both saying "I take it I wasn't meant to see this?". They were squirming like worms on hooks.

Very strange, very bitchy behaviour. To deliberately leave you out of the cinema trip and then remove you from the group when you call them out on it. I would ask them separately what that's all about - you mentioned you can't contact them, how come?

Their reaction speaks volume, no apology or explanation, just deleted you. NAsty people.

Nasty people. Delete from all social media and never have anything to do with them again.

What a mean thing to do Do you want to bother with them anymore OP? Make new friends and give the a wide berth.

They are cows

In a way it is better to know

But it still hurts....

You don't need to ask why OP. They'll just turn it back on you. It won't be the truth. The truth is probably they just wanted to make themselves feel more important, exclusive and elite by leaving someone out. Nice people don't do what they did so their explanation or assessment of you is irrelevant

I had this happen to me and it left me to devastated and untrusting that I basically don't have any friends now. I just can't emotionally invest in another friendship only to have the potential to be treated like this.

I do have friends btw, but mostly where I used to live and that is 9 hours driving away.

I am much happier on my own.

Chickenvindaloo your post has given me a warm fuzzy feeling. Awful for you to receive the email in the first place but WHAT a classy response!

The only explanation is excluding for the purpose of strengthening their own bonds. One or more of them is feeling very insecure and doing this to you makes them feel like top dog.
You've dodged a bullet there

mycat your response is understandable but you HAVE to realise that the problem is theirs and not yours.

I mean, great if you are happy on your own but your ex friends are the ones who should be fretting and locking themselves away.

I definitely would say something, I am sure there was a ringleader in this. Big hugs and I am sure you will find new nicer friends in the near future. It is their loss and when they turn on each other you won't be there to help.

You're well shot of those three!

Ed balls - I cc'd in the manager too!

(I cried, alone, in the toilets but was outwardly classy!)