To hate women being called girls?

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My mother does it constantly. She will talk of the "girl" who served her at the bank.

My niece shared this video which is great

If you have an unmarried relationship with an adult male is he not your boyfriend? Or with a female your girlfriend?

There's actually a thread in aibu about a woman who is being bullied and ostracised by her enturely male.team.and head of department. It's shit like that which means it's a totally differrnt dynamic when men refer to women as girls in a professional capacity. Using it casually helps perpetuate this crap too as more and more managment styles encourage a lack of formality.
Bet the absolute pricks in her ofice would insist on using the term girl with a smirk and call it bants.

'Scuse typos!

My Dad is in his 70s his friend (same age) has just met someone. Dad refers to her as ' X's 'lady friend'. That doesn't sound right.

If you have an unmarried relationship with an adult male is he not your boyfriend? Or with a female your girlfriend?

Sure - and in that case there is parity. AFAIK when the terms originated they would have primarily applied to generally young people who were 'dating' - a 'sweetheart'.

DH, a past-middle-aged surgeon, told me yesterday that he wanted go 'away with his boys' next month.

As with absolutely everything (including n***), it depends on context and intention.

I think you are being very unreasonable thinking any woman being called a girl is poor form.

I use the term 'girls-night' but not girls. I think I say 'out with the ladies' but I'm not actually sure.

Meh. Something and nothing OP.

also hate it when a group of adults are called 'guys'.

Why?

DH sometimes talks about 'the girls on the production line' in the factory where he works.
I always respond with something along the lines of 'You're now employing CHILDREN...?'
It gets the message across

It annoys me too. I notice that young women in their twenties or so often talk about boys that they like, especially on the dreaded Facebook. I always think, they are men ffs not boys. My dm refers to anyone younger that her as a girl, thats any female up to the age of 90!

I don't mind it, I'm nearly 40 and being called a girl appeals to that shallow part of me that wants, nay, NEEDS to feel young!

I also don't like girls for adult women, but it's ok when associated with recreation, it's the whole work, profession arena when it feels demeaning.
I know someone who always calls women females. How do people feel about that?

I hate the 'guys' thing because it sounds cheesy and reminds me of Cliff Richard. Or someone over-enthusiastic and ingratitiating. That's why. I know it makes me a misanthrope but there you go.

Oh god I hate being called a woman/ lady! I much prefer girl desperately clinging onto my youth

My Nan used to refer to 'females' Ohyes. I wondered if it was a regional thing.

I've heared it just as many times referring to men tbh. 'Speak to the boys in the garage about it' (group of age 40+ mechanics). 'Have a chat with the lad on the desk'. I don't have an issue with it tbh, there are more important things to worry about.

She lost me at the second sentence, surely it should have been, ' I was in a bar with 2 men friends'. If you are going to be pompous, you should at least be consistent. I tend to refer to the 'girls at work' even though we are well past our 20s because it shows the the friendliness of our relationship, whereas women at work would mean purely professional and perhaps we don't get along. If there was someone i didn't like or was complaining about, I would definitely use woman!

YANBU as far as you are concerned but, as someone else said, don't assume that we all gave a problem with it.

I'm just 50 and I LOVE being referred to as a girl. I refer to the hot young men that I have my eye on as 'boys,' even though they're in their mid 30s. However, if one were to object then I'd cease referring to him that way. I wasn't put on this earth to upset people

Anyway, it doesn't trouble me but I can see why it might others.

S x

'have a problem' ..... fat fingers

It gets the message across

What message?

"'Have a chat with the lad on the desk'. Yep hear that all the time. People will call a 50 year old man a "boy" or a "lad" all the time.

I'm happy to be called a girl. Delighted in fact. I'll take lady or woman too. It's such a daft thing to worry about to me. Unless you're male I can't see where the offence in being called a girl is. Especially in the context of friendship etc

"Speak to the boys in the garage."

"I'll get the boys from the shed to look at it."

"The maintenance boys are kicking off again."

It does happen all the time (at our place of work at least).

Does it happen to male bankers, entrepreneurs, legal aides, etc...

Men talk about being 'one of the boys' as a positive thing.

claraschu

Surgeons? Yes.

I guess you were making the distinction of 'success' in a career.

When I quoted DH talking about 'boys', they are all senior people within the medical profession.