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To be gutted by my sons comment?

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ThatWhiteElephant · 17/03/2017 19:32

So on Sunday I'll be in town. Son (14) will be in town too, with his friends.
Just got told by son "if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."
Gobsmacked I am!
Are all teenaged boys like this?

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DramaAlpaca · 17/03/2017 19:36

A lot of them are, but they do grow out of it. By the age of 16 or 17 mine were happy to be seen in public with me again.

Alfieisnoisy · 17/03/2017 19:37

My brother was like this...he would literally walk right past my Mum and refuse to acknowledge her if he was in town with friends. He is 46 now and hasn't been allowed to forget it.

My DS is 14 and despite his autism and his clinginess to me I was put very firmly in my place when I tried to speak to him at a school party. All I wanted to do was say hello! I was told in no uncertain terms to go away and not talk to him in front of his friends....little sod Grin

I think it's a teenage thing and they grow out of it.

SquidgeyMidgey · 17/03/2017 19:38

Teenagers are awkward little things. Don't take it personally.

Falafelings · 17/03/2017 19:39

What a rude boy. You need to talk to him

someonestolemynick · 17/03/2017 19:39

Normal. Don't take it personally and ignore him if you meet him.

Or make sure you run into him. Give him a dramatic hug and spit on a tissue to clean "something" on his nose.

Scholes34 · 17/03/2017 19:40

Not all are. Lucky here to live in small place where people tend to know each other and I've known a lot of the DCs' friends since before they were born.

haveacupoftea · 17/03/2017 19:41

Yeah totally normal.

justdontevenfuckingstart · 17/03/2017 19:42

At this age if I had seen my kids I would assume I was supposed to ignore them.

missyB1 · 17/03/2017 19:44

I had great fun when my boys were going through this phase I made it my duty to wave wildly and shout "yoo hoo sweetie do your coat up it's a bit chilly" or various other embarrassing comments. Grin

PoorYorick · 17/03/2017 19:44

To be fair, my mother would have found a way to embarrass me completely if she acknowledged me at that age. She would have come up and started telling us all about the wonderful control top tights she just bought, and how she just bumped into Mavis who has been having colonic irrigation and that reminds her, did I still need some Dioralyte or had my system cleared up now and....

Yeah, I asked her to ignore me.

The80sweregreat · 17/03/2017 19:45

Mine were the same, they grow out of it.

Papafran · 17/03/2017 19:46

Yeah, this is normal

cowgirlsareforever · 17/03/2017 19:46

Totally normal.

CaptainBraandPants · 17/03/2017 19:47

Grin Yep, normal. I like to threaten mine with the possibility of public hugs. You really can have a lot of fun teasing them at this stage.

Toast3 · 17/03/2017 19:48

Completely normal teenage behaviour...I once went to pick my son up from a school trip...he text me and said don't embarrass me, and don't hug or kiss me when you get me...I had to fret him like I was his tai driver...as soon as we were home he told me he'd missed me and hugged me...funny!

Wolfiefan · 17/03/2017 19:49

Depends. If you are likely to cwtch him and declare he's your "bwootiful wootiful bubba boy" then he's not being unreasonable in the slightest!
TBH teens find most adults pretty cringeworthy. He's worried you might embarrass him in front of his mates.
I would explain that's pretty hurtful. Compromise on a smile and hand raise. Can't wave. That would be uncool! Grin

GrumpyOldBag · 17/03/2017 19:51

That's completely normal for teenagers.

I remember being instructed firmly that when I was picking him up from a school event at a pizza place I must NOT GET OUT OF THE CAR. he would come and find me.

I have been ignored on school premises when they were with their friends and I came to watch a match.

It's a thing, and they grow out of it. Don't worry about it.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 17/03/2017 19:52

As long as he's your regular down-to-earth Ds at home then just go along with it.

It is normal.

Yes when they get older they come out the other side. My DS (17) will hug me but its only to prove how much taller he is than me (and usually to co0rece money Grin )

Bloodybridget · 17/03/2017 19:52

It is a bit hurtful, but not hugely surprising. A friend of ours told us that once when she was out with her teenage DD, they ran into a group of the girl's friends - friend was introduced thus: "Oh this is Pauline, she's my social worker."

Jackiebrambles · 17/03/2017 19:53

Sorry op but I'm sure I was exactly the same and I was a teenage girl!

TheFirstMrsDV · 17/03/2017 19:53

Most are like that, yes.
I wouldn't let it go without comment though.
Its a good opportunity to remind him that you are a human being with feelings.
Teens go through all sorts of weirdness and I am happy to tolerate most of them. Being nasty is not ok. A gentle rebuke should be enough.

Then change into your shell suit, put on your baseball cap backwards and do a hip hop stance when you see him.

Haffdonga · 17/03/2017 19:53

Completely normal. You should be more worried if he did want to be seen with you. That's weird.

Witchend · 17/03/2017 19:54

Totally normal.
As someone said
"At 14yo my father was a bumbling old fool who nothing. At 18yo I was amazed at how much he'd learnt in 4 years" Grin

Crumbs1 · 17/03/2017 19:55

Entirely usual.

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