To be gutted by my sons comment?

[ThatWhiteElephant]

So on Sunday I'll be in town. Son (14) will be in town too, with his friends.
Just got told by son "if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."
Gobsmacked I am!
Are all teenaged boys like this?

I'm an embarrassment to DD

I really wouldn't worry or feel gutted. It is totally normal.

Totally normal. I think it's part of trying to get independence. I know I was like it when I was about 13-15, by the time I was 18 I would hug DM in the street without prompting.

Oh totally normal. I am but 19 years older than my daughter and have been told on many occasion "don't walk with me". It's a condition of teenagehood that we are embarrassing. Except when they want a tenner.

Or make sure you run into him. Give him a dramatic hug and spit on a tissue to clean "something" on his nose.

That's something I would do .

Totally normal - I was at the world's smallest fair last week with my younger children and had to keep hiding behind various rides to avoid being within 10 yards of or risking eye contact with my 13 year old and her friends .

Yes they are like this but you have to tell them it's very rude and you will only play invisible if he asks you nicely.

No not normal for us we have 5DC,3 are teenagers,1 is 20 and it's not something I've had happen,yet!

But all teenagers are different and they'll all have they're issues with something in some way.

I made it my duty to wave wildly and shout "yoo hoo sweetie do your coat up it's a bit chilly" or various other embarrassing comments

I'm looking forward to this somewhat, especially as I have a foreign accent and make occasional grammatical errors

sometimes I need to give him money on the way to school after going to the cashpoint and its performed with the stealth of a drug exchange

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. If I'm too bloody embarrassing to give you money in public, sort yourself out. How incredibly rude. Not to single you out, I feel the same about a lot of the other posts too.

If they told me to ignore them if I saw them in town, I'd also be ignoring their requests for lifts, sleep overs, cash etc. It's rude & hurtful and they need to be told that.

OTOH I'm quite self regulating in that I wouldn't do what problembottom's Dad did! & I give them the option of buggering off if I'm about to do something 'mortifying' (like telling the little sods at the park to put their KFC leftovers in the bin, not to leave them on the grass).

AAMouse - are you a parent/home carer of teenagers?

I have heard teenagers can be like this.

I have 2 and they are not! They would be polite.

It's kind of normal. He'll get much better in the next couple of years. Well, should do.

Just respect his boundaries. That's v important to boys at this age. Especially re: mother.

Mine are fab, always happy to see me and introduce me to their friends.

Me, with my parents, not so much

Always respect his boundaries. He needs to know he can trust you now to keep your distance unless invited in. That's a change from when he was a younger kid. He needs to make it v. clear now as he's making a change. Just totally keep your head down and do as he says for now, and then in a year or so he'll relax.

And you'll have new boundaries in your relationship. Which is what he needs, in order to grow up and be an independent male.

Totally normal. Weren't you a teenager at some point, OP?

But tell the ungrateful git not to be so damn cheeky and threaten to kiss him in front of his friends if he's so rude.

Aw, bless him! Yes, they are all like this (I've had four). You have to balance on the one hand their need to fit in, but also that they need to learn not to take themselves too seriously.

I had an elderly car when my elder daughter was about 14. She used to beg me not to drive through town! I did though, with her crouching in seat seat well!

But it is a really delicate balance between steamrollering over their feelings, and encouraging them to become precious little flowers.

I'm gutted my now 16 yo DD didn't (at least to my knowledge) go through that phase...
She used to embarrass me as a toddler having massive tantrums everywhere - I think it is perfectly fair I should be able to get my revenge and embarrass her as a teen...
And I have tried - eg dropped her off at the cinema - insisted on going into the foyer with her and saying hello to her friends - gave her a big hug and kiss goodbye (darling) - she didn't even flinch.
I still live in hope... unless I am so embarrassing anyway that she has just grown up learning to deal with it..

I never went through that phase, but my mom had this 'whistle' to call us. We'd be in a supermarket or out somewhere, and we would hear this piercing whistle as my mom tried to get our attention. My DSis and I would wish the ground would open up and swallow us. We always obeyed the 'whistle' though - we would never have ignored mom.

My dd says I'm uncool

She's clearly delusional! I'm smokin hot!

Yep mines 12 and we aren't cool now. They grow out of it.

My preteen allowed me to speak- but only in my own language which he felt reasonably sure nobody would understand.

I had to do some work at my son's school. He said if I saw him not to acknowledge him. It's what boy's do!

Funnily enough when a couple of his friends saw me in the dining room they stood up and waved to me calling "Woohoo X's mum!"

Since then I am allowed to say hello and indeed they even come up to me to say hello. Last time I was in his friends saw me in the corridor and gave me a round of applause - to which I bowed and carried on. Apparently that earned me "legend" status!

Don't take it to heart, it's an age thing. Friends son smiles and waves to me when he is with his mum. When he is with his friends he looks down so I know not to acknowledge him.