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AIBU?

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To be gutted by my sons comment?

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ThatWhiteElephant · 17/03/2017 19:32

So on Sunday I'll be in town. Son (14) will be in town too, with his friends.
Just got told by son "if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."
Gobsmacked I am!
Are all teenaged boys like this?

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Oblomov17 · 17/03/2017 22:46

"I had great fun when my boys were going through this phase I made it my duty to wave wildly and shout "yoo hoo sweetie do your coat up it's a bit chilly" or various other embarrassing comments. "

I'm looking forward to the MissyB stage too!!
Ha ha.

RTKangaMummy · 17/03/2017 22:54

Get out of my life but first give me and Alex a lift into town! Take a look at this book **

teenagetantrums · 17/03/2017 22:55

Never had that with my two. Mainly because if they saw me anywhere near a,shop the would be bugging me for money.

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ThatWhiteElephant · 17/03/2017 23:20

Thanks for all your comments. He has already apologised to me. We had the chat about how unkind he was. I told him that I wouldn't talk to him if I saw him (I know that would feel really weird though) but I might run up to him shouting "coo wee hunny bun" whilst blowing kisses. Dh and ds2 fell about laughing 😁😂
(I obviously won't do this 😬)

roll on the weekend.

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changingnameforthispost · 17/03/2017 23:22

My DS was like this, but none of my 3 DDs
Some teens are just more self conscious than others, and it's not rudeness despite what some other posters have said.

My DS once walked straight past me, and my best friend, who he'd known since year dot, without acknowledging either of us, and it was painful to see his discomfort as he knew he should do something, but was terrified of being judged by his peers.
We let him pass, but I talked it over with him later, and we agreed strategies for future similar encounters. ( along the lines of grunting 'alright?' to each other.
He's grown out of it, and now won't shut up if he thinks he's got an audience!

Chillidawg · 17/03/2017 23:25

My dd was never quite that rude, but she liked me to be discreet/invisible, not collect her from the school disco at 11 by strolling Into the hall in my pyjamas and rollers.
Now, at nearly 16, she honoured me last weekend when I dropped her at the roller disco with a casual "You can come in and skate if you like, nobody will mind".
I didn't, of course, little do they know I grew up in the late 70s so am an accomplished skater and can do twirly things and everything, even skate backwards. I didn't want her to feel inadequate.

Chillidawg · 17/03/2017 23:26

Plus I had left my silver lurex leggings in the loft.

FurryLittleTwerp · 17/03/2017 23:38

By 14, mine was affectionate in public again. The ignoring phase was between 11 & 13.

He's 19 now & still occasionally sits on my knee and squashes me flat he's nearly twice my size

Italiangreyhound · 18/03/2017 00:00

Normal.

I went to my dd's school for a meeting, saw her coming back from swimming as I was leaving the car park. I wound down my window to say hi and she mouthed something that could have been "do not embarrass me."

Normal.

Italiangreyhound · 18/03/2017 00:01

DD is 12.

Slinkymalinky1 · 18/03/2017 00:47

Perfectly normal I was put out by this, thinking I was a young mum, but apparently that's worse . They do grow out of it, by 16, I was ok again

Topseyt · 18/03/2017 00:54

It is totally normal. They do outgrow it though. Mine would usually acknowledge me with a quick nod and keep going. It suited us all.

I love to wind mine up, although they don't take it seriously and just roll their eyes.

DD2 used to work a few hours a week in the local newsagents when she was about 16 so sometimes it was unavoidable that I would have to go in and she would end up serving me at the till. That was always a bit comical as she would be pretending that I was simply any other customer, not her Mum. 😁

TheFlyingFauxPas · 18/03/2017 01:28

im allowed to drop ds at school but im not allowed to bip or wave as I drive off, sometimes I flick my vs instead

PyongyangKipperbang · 18/03/2017 01:31

It is normal although I feel quite lucky to have DD2 and her friends, as they are all ok with talking to their parents because we ar e all equally embarrassing!

I am friends with DD's BF's mum and we are both tolerated because we are both mentally and emotionally deficient so they are kind to us in a "dont be mean to dumb animals" kind of way :o

ssd · 19/03/2017 11:07

I was just saying to dh last night, the thing that amazes me most about The Voice is the fact that teens are on it and they allow their parents into the audience to watch them, if it was my ds's we'd be banned from being anywhere near it and would have to watch them on telly like everyone else

OliviaStabler · 19/03/2017 11:17

I once would not walk near my Mum as I was embarrassed by the trousers she was wearing.

We can all be assholes at times.

porkforsupper · 19/03/2017 11:18

Normal!! Is be worried if they weren't like that. It's a sign of independence not rude.

Sallystyle · 19/03/2017 11:19

I often get the bus opposite my son. I wave at him and he turns round and ignores me. I find it hilarious Doesn't bother me at all.

My 13 year old even tries to ignore me if I walk past him when he is with friends. I am not even that embarrassing!

Babyroobs · 19/03/2017 11:19

YANBU - my ds(15yrs) asked me the other week if I could delay going to Tesco Express because he was going with his mates and didn't want to bump into me ! Also none of my teen boys ( I have 3) will have their photo taken with me or even together. I look on fb and see whole families smiling together taking selfies and wonder why mine won't ?

Sallystyle · 19/03/2017 11:26

The other day my son accidentally locked me out so I had to go to his college to get his key. I walked in his classroom with his teacher (she invited me) and then she showed me some of his work.

He is 17 now so took it quite well, he only went a bit red.

JoffreyBaratheon · 19/03/2017 11:34

My 27 year old is happy to link arms walking down the street. He'd have been mortified at 17 though.

thatdearoctopus · 19/03/2017 11:40

"if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."

You could always point out that if you see him back at home when he's asking for/expecting money/clean clothes/a hot meal you'll also happily oblige.

Deathraystare · 19/03/2017 11:52

Yes, totally normal. I remember laughing at my nephew who was (still is) a real mummmy's boy. He had gone into town with us. Then stood there torn between going with mum (uncool choice) and finding his mates (totally cool choice). Our lad grew up a bit and went off with his friends!

Bluntness100 · 19/03/2017 11:52

I think a lot of them do this too, they want to appear all grown up that's all. My daughter never did it but I did get warned many times to just say hi and move on.

Reminds me of a friend though, who got on a train, was texting me, saw her son at the end of the carriage with his mates, so she called him for the lols, then proceeded to watch him take his phone out, look at it, see she was calling, reject the call and shove it back in his pocket. Clearly I found it funnier than she did. 😂

BertrandRussell · 19/03/2017 11:58

He was rude. I would have told him so and then done what he asked.

I do hate it when people talk about deliberately embarrassing their teenagers, though. Why would you do that?

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