To be gutted by my sons comment?

[ThatWhiteElephant]

So on Sunday I'll be in town. Son (14) will be in town too, with his friends.
Just got told by son "if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."
Gobsmacked I am!
Are all teenaged boys like this?

Mine have never been this rude. I would never embarrass them on purpose but they and their friends have always been much more polite and ... normal. My dcs are 23, 21, 20 and 13 so not a long time ago. Always shocked when friends say stuff like this.

minifingerz . Was that the teenage one? If pile of poo is the best insult he can come up with you should be very pleased, could have been a lot worse!

The best thing you can do is not take it personally.........then when you see him in town shout "yooo hooo, and wave madly" - you get an even better result if you have his gran with you too, then you should both go over and chat.

"if you see me on Sunday with my friends don't talk to me and just ignore me."

Just doesn't sound rude to me, he's just stating what he would like to happen, perhaps he could have worded it better and there must have been conversation before and after this I presume, but he's talking to his Mum about stuff which is a good thing. As parents I think you have to adjust your behavior to each age, my response would not have been upset/shock, I'd say, OK if that is what you'd like it's OK with me, can I ask why? Is the OP upset with the alleged rudeness or the nature of his request, or both?

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I was the same when I was a teenage girl. I would say normal.

I would never have dared to say that to my mum, but God I would be mortified if she had come up to me when I was with my friends.
Mind you, she did wear some, er, lively clothes (dalmation coat and shocking pink angora beret mother?) and would march over, introduce herself "Hello DARLING!Good AFTERNOON girls, I'm KATHLEEN! I'm just in town looking for some new tights, but I can't seem to find any EXTRA LARGE ones, YOU know how it is. I'm long in the body you see and I need a deep CROTCH" etc etc etc
My mother still has no boundaries, and if she likes one of my friends she will try and become friends with them too. I think I was justified in feeling embarrassed!
Ds is embarrassed by me in public, and I do really try to be unobtrusive, but I wouldn't accept hurtful comments or rudeness, and would pull him up on it. And i would be hurt, being a parent doesn't make you not human.

I collected DD from swimming once (I walked down as the car was in for an MOT). I had a brolly with me as it was drizzling fairly heavily. It had Simon's Cat on it. I was informed after that I was an embarrassment and all her friends were giggling at me (all 11 year olds).

At first I was hurt, then cross. I had a short word about how rude she was (tbf, she did apologise).

I expect it will only get worse.

"minifingerz . Was that the teenage one"

Nah, autistic 11 year old.

That is hugely mild for him...

That's normal teenage behaviour

I think to say it is rude. My DS is fourteen and he's still fine with being seen out with me on occasion. Equally though if we get on a bus and his mates are on there he will go and sit with them upstairs rather than downstairs with me, but I don't need to engage with him. He even tags himself with me on FB and has been known to tweet me as well....

But then I am unable to remain inconspicuous as the guide dog is a bit of a giveaway, and all his friends know we have one. .