To get toddler DD's hair cut into a pixie?

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Is it mean? To make her look like a little boy? She hates her hair being done and there are some really lovely pixie cuts that would work. I have a DS (who was once a toddler!) and his haircut would work on her...

I had a pixie style haircut as a toddler. Unsurprisingly I have no recollection of it, but looking at photos I'd say it was one of my best haircuts.

YANBU, and if more people thought like you, maybe we would get rid of this ridiculous self-perpetuating culture of long hair=girl, short hair=boy and not being allowed to go against it in case they "get teased."

I have two things to say about that, and neither of them really apply to your DD anyway because she's much too young for that situation even to arise.

1. Unpopular children will get teased about something, whatever they look like. It will usually be the thing they react most entertainingly to being teased about. In my case it was being called after a popular toy at the time that had my name as part of its name. Popular children won't get teased even if they have purple hair with green spots - in fact other children will probably beg their parents to let them have the same.

1. Some children don't even mind being teased about something that is important to them. I used to know a boy who had quite long hair when he was in year 5 and 6. Other kids quite often said he looked like a girl (he really didn't, his bone structure and body language were very boyish) but he just told them he liked his hair as it was and wasn't planning to change it. Most of them soon stopped commenting, and the one who went on about it the most was someone who had a long history of being nasty and insulting to everybody, so nobody took much notice of him.

I would have her hair cut short for now and wait until she says she wants something different before you even consider it.

If you think about it, they only "look like a boy" because social expectation associates boys with short hair. Going back to african children, hair does not denote sex in that culture, it's usually ear piercing that makes a child "look like a girl".

Interestingly, my 7 year old just started a new school, where girls have the uniform option of trousers or skirts. She chose trousers, for various reasons, warmer, can do cartwheels etc.

When she started none of the other girls wore trousers. They had that bizarre thing of wearing shorts under their skirts too.

For the first week, dd half wanted a skirt to be like the other girls. Second week, i offered to take her to the shop if she still wanted a skirt, but she turned round and said all the other girls had started wearing trousers, as they all hated the skirts, especially with shorts/leggings underneath.

How do I get approval off a 2 year old and make sure she is in agreement??

You don't. She's TWO!

Do whatever you like to the protein filaments growing out of her scalp, it really could not matter less.

Sounds like a really cute hairstyle. Go for it.

Emma

Your observations about teasing are very true

I got DD's done. I regretted it, she's still growing it out now and it looks as mess. I liked the fact that a barely had to brush it though and no battles in the morning. But I look at pictures before she had it done and regret it

And secondly when people offer the famously buxom and shapely Judi Dench in support of the argument that a short-haired toddler could never be mistaken as a boy.

I am the 'people' who mentioned Judi Dench. I didn't say anything about her being mistaken for a boy. I mentioned Audrey Hepburn and Dame Judi as examples of stylish women who always had short hair, to demonstrate that it was a normal fashion choice in the recent past.

Long hair really only became popular for girls again in the 1970s, and then boys were wearing their hair long too. And some boys and girls still wore their hair short. My hairstyle in the 1970s varied between long and short and shoulder length.

I got DD's done. I regretted it, she's still growing it out now and it looks as mess. I liked the fact that a barely had to brush it though and no battles in the morning. But I look at pictures before she had it done and regret it

That's all about you though. Did your dd prefer her hair hassle free and no morning battles?

Are you gowing it out because she wants to or you do?

I look back at dd's pixie crop and love it. We grew it because she wanted to, bit she couldn't stand the hassle and keeps it short, her choice at 8.

My mum made me have my hair a certain way because that's how she preferred it. I hated it.

DD hated it too, she kept getting mistaken for a boy and she found that really annoying and at 7 yo she didnt have a sense of feminism just outrage that she didn't look like her barbie princesses despite having agreed to the cut in the first place (with the bribe of a tiara...)

I'd go with a short bob, but not the type that goes up at the back. A fringe too. That way lies heaven, and they also look really good. I'm moving at the moment and have just come across hair cuts of my young daughters, both bobs. Simply gorgeous.

They both now have long wavy hair.

I had a pixie done when a teenager. It was gorgeous too. I will go back to that when my head is almost grey.

AtSea

Your child was 7. This girl is 2

I've had a short haircut for years now, and when DD was 2, I had hers cut in a pixie...it was fab! She liked that she looked like mummy, and it was so much easier to care for. She didn't look like a boy by any stretch! Now she's 9 and has hair halfway down her back, but she takes good care of it, and keeps it nice...i do occasionally mention that I wish she'd have it short again, but at 9, she wants it the way she wants it.

For a toddler, any practical hairstyle is best if they are hairbrush, hair touching refusers, even older kids who refuse to brush their hair will have it at an easy length in order to run a brush trough it quickly (I am looking at you daughter of 10 who has ASD, spd, who hates having her head touched or brushed, or washed). She has had a bob for a long time, much easier than a tangled mess.

Sorry it did not work, but there are some lovely girly short hair cuts, if you google it. Does not have to be a short back and sides or a clipper cut!

Yabu. I've just seen a girl about 3 with a pixie crop in Lidl and the first thing I thought was what had she done to deserve that?!

My parents would have done it to me. I would never cut off all my dds hair :-(

Really nice girly short hair cuts.

My sister had to have hers in a pixie cut at 4 as other sister gave her a trim lol . She hated it and got laughed at at nursery and called a boy .

Nomnamein what if the child had cancer and her hair was growing, or had a condition which caused her hair to fall out! short hair is not always down to parents choosing to cut the childs hair short.

Really beautiful

Do it. She'll look lovely.
I'm in my fifties and I've always had very fine short hair since I was a toddler. I was bald for The first 18 months. Longest I've had it was about 3 inches when my mum decided to perm it in the seventies to give it body. Seriously naff looking. It's now a cheek length bob.
Luckily I have a small face and decent cheekbones.

There are equally dodgy long and short hairstyles, long hair is not the be all and end all to looking nice.

I am considering having my hair cut like the child in that bottom picture, with the green cami top on, it looks lovely.