To get toddler DD's hair cut into a pixie?

[tvtate]

Is it mean? To make her look like a little boy? She hates her hair being done and there are some really lovely pixie cuts that would work. I have a DS (who was once a toddler!) and his haircut would work on her...

[MrsTerryPratchett]

It's just lazy parenting. As opposed to making it as difficult as you can to prove a point and shame other parents parenting. Which is far more annoying.

[NotYoda]

Yes. Op is literally turning her child into a boy because she's so fecking lazy

[reallyanotherone]

A girl with short hair is lazy parenting?

Do i assume all mums of boys with short hair are just lazy fuckers too then?

Adults with short hair, either sex, lazy fuckers.

[tvtate]

How do you remember how you felt about your hair at 2?

[NotYoda]

Actually I am a lazy fecker. My hair takes a bloody age to dry when it's more that an inch long. I have turned myself into a man on account of my laziness

[NotYoda]

tvtate

'course you don't. Do it. She'll look as cute as a button

[reallyanotherone]

And people wonder how transing children comes about.

Girl with short hair: Must be a boy.

To quote nursie, " it's a boy without a winkle"

[NotYoda]

[peaceloveandbiscuits]

Reallyanotherone I forgot that quote

[VestalVirgin]

How do you remember how you felt about your hair at 2?

As someone who remembers, well, I remember that I did not think about my hair at all.
It was short, and I cannot recall that my mother ever asked me. I got a bob cut when I started school, and grew it long when I was old enough to have an opinion.

I will always be grateful to my mother that she didn't inflict long hair on toddler-me.
I like how my long hair looks, but as a toddler, I just didn't care.

Also, gender stereotyping is shit.

I have turned myself into a man on account of my laziness

How did you manage to? I am so lazy I would like to not have to deal with periods. So, is there some magic spell or something?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

So, is there some magic spell or something?

No, just cut your hair and HEY PRESTO you're a dude. A lazy dude but the benefit is that no one cares if you're a lazy man because they get cookies just for showing up for parenting. WIN WIN.

[PacificDogwod]

Young children with short hair are as cute as anything.
Young children with long hair are as cute as anything.
Oh wait - young children are cute.

Who knew?!

I am a very lazy parent. It never occurred to me that my boys' short hair may be a giveaway...

[Ecureuil]

Go for it, she's 2, and it's practical.
In terms of speech, yes my just three year old is very vocal about what she wants to wear/how she has her hair. We have a 10 min debate every morning over whether to have a ponytail, pigtails or plaits and this has been going on since she started pre school at 2.5. My 20 month old asks for 'anna plaits' which as she has inch long frizz is definitely wishful thinking on her part 😂.
I have no idea what I felt about my hair at 2 though, and am surprised people can remember hating their hairstyle at that age!

[allowlsthinkalot]

My two year old dd has a bob and is unhappy that it isn't longer. She even tells me she doesn't want a fringe any more. She most definitely does have an opinion.

But if dd doesn't care, do what you like with it! I would go for bob with fringe (it can't fall in her face if she has a fringe?) as it wold be easier to grow out than a pixie cut.

[NotYoda]

Vestal

Periods, sorted. Mirena has turned me into a person with no periods. (Mirena is not the name of my Fairy Godmother, despite what it sounds like)

[allowlsthinkalot]

In terms of speech: here we have 2 year 3 month old dd.

"I don't want mine finge any more. You not cut it"
"I want Punzel hair long"
"I not cut mine hair. I want mine hair like (dd1)"

[tvtate]

Clearly she is very behind? DS seemed to be the same and is okay now?!

[Ecureuil]

Massive range of 'normal' so nothing to indicate she's behind at all.

[peaceloveandbiscuits]

She's not behind. My 2yr 3m can just about put two words together, like "my trousers" and "mummy's chair".

[PacificDogwod]

Whether 2 yo have much speech or not, they mainly want what they want. Which may change every 37 seconds IME.
2 yo are insane.

If the OP's DD hate having her long hair looked after so much, then yes, I'd offer 2 (and only 2) options: short hair or no fuss.

[NinjaLeprechaun]

"How do you remember how you felt about your hair at 2?"
I don't remember my hair, particularly, but I do remember that I hated people thinking I was a boy. I have a rather distinct memory of getting very angry and shouting "I'm not a boy, I'm a girl!" at a complete stranger once. Poor man was just trying to be friendly.
(Having said that, pixie cut was really the only realistic option for my hair at that age.)

This thread is funny though - half the replies are people saying that they were mistaken for boys because they had short hair, and the other half insisting that nobody would mistake a girl with short hair for a boy.

[NotYoda]

Ninja

And a third half saying it doesn't matter

[Wigeon]

Another one whose mother cut her hair short into a pixie. I am not in the least bit "girly" and I wasn't as a child, but I did get mistaken for a boy (quite often wore unisex clothes - thanks mum again), and I absolutely hated it. I got directed to the men's loos, got refered to as "young man" - just what an 8-12 year old girl wants.

However, the haircut / trauma only started a bit later than the OP's DD's age. At 2, surely a bob is the solution? Does it matter if it falls forward a bit when she looks down? Or maybe hair which is just long enough to put into a pony tail, but no longer, so that the tangles are minimised.

[Deadsouls]

No YANBU of course. Why would it be mean? It's not mean at all.

[tvtate]

wigeon have you even read my posts properly?? I answered both the end questions.