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To get toddler DD's hair cut into a pixie?

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tvtate · 11/03/2017 18:53

Is it mean? To make her look like a little boy? She hates her hair being done and there are some really lovely pixie cuts that would work. I have a DS (who was once a toddler!) and his haircut would work on her...

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Wigeon · 11/03/2017 21:56

OP, if there are three broad options - hair long enough to tie up, hair in a bob or hair in a pixie, and you've rejected two of them (she hates you tying her hair up, you feel a bob would get in her face and get covered in muck), then the only option left is a pixie, and you therefore don't need opinions on this thread...?

Aeroflotgirl · 11/03/2017 21:56

My goodnes, it's just a haircut, all this fuss over nothing. Oh no they will suddenly grow a wildly, and want to play with boys toys. The gender typing on here is really😮

Vintagegoth · 11/03/2017 21:59

My 2 year old ended up with a pixie crop as she has very curly hair and would rub her head on the bed at night and had a matted patch at the back. She looked gorgeous. Now nearly 4 and it has grown out much thicker and is a nice shoulder length bob.

Vintagegoth · 11/03/2017 22:00

Plus they don't remember anything when they are two. 😉

nc060 · 11/03/2017 22:01

Don't do it!! My parents did that to me, I'm 30 now and have still not forgiven them for looking like a boy in all my toddler pics!!!

PickAChew · 11/03/2017 22:07

IME, people who get kids' gender wrong based on hair alone tend to be quite wilfully stubborn and stupid about it. I know a couple of women who have been getting DS2 wrong for 8 years, now! I had another woman, sat behind us on a bus, who insisted on drawing us into conversation and kept saying she and her despite me saying he and him. (She was bent on being friendly with the special needs child, who could only parrot back what she said or run into a stream of echolalia, but that's a whole other thread!) She introduced herself and her companion to him by name and asked him "what's your name?" Obviously, he coldn't answer that question, so she asked me ""what's she called?" I replied "he's called [obvious boy's name]" and she just clamped her moth shut and looked away and didn't say another word!

I had a pageboy through the 70s and some sort of bob through most of the 80s, with a short foray into a Princess Di style haircut. I tried growing it when I left for university and found out why I never got to have long hair (which wasn't uncommon in the early 70s, as a hippie throwback thing, but nothing like as prevalent as now). I've had it very short for the past decade now and my tits haven't fallen off, yet.

AndKnowItsSeven · 11/03/2017 22:09

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TasLondon · 11/03/2017 22:15

Did you consult your DS on his haircut when he was 2? Or fret about whether to have it long, short or medium? Do you have any reason for thinking that DD would have strong feelings against short hair?

Just get it cut, if it's the wrong move, it will grow back.

catkind · 11/03/2017 22:21

Nothing mean about it, she'll tell you when she wants it a different way and you can let her grow it then if she wants.

DD:

  • Had a bob as default hairstyle from about 18 months as I couldn't be doing with chasing a toddler round with a hairbrush.
  • Decided to grow it long at 3. At which point she was old enough to understand that if she wanted it long she needed to let us tie it up for playgroup. And wield a hairbrush herself to some extent at least.
  • Chopped it all off at nearly 4 as it was annoying her (she chopped it not me I mean). Hairdresser rescued it into a very short pixie cut, she liked it because it matched her friend.
  • Is currently at just turned 5 growing it again as she wants an Elsa plait.

Hair decisions are completely reversible.

MistressMerryWeather · 11/03/2017 22:48

Go for it.

Does anyone remember the little girl in Fatal Attraction?

I always loved that hairstyle on her.

wifeyhun · 11/03/2017 22:50

My mum did this to me when I was four as I refused to let her brush it. I can see her point of view now I have children of my own.

However, I hated it and have had long hair as soon as it grew back and I think it make me take care of it properly.

MistressMerryWeather · 11/03/2017 22:54

Back in the 90's hairbrush refusers got that awful basin haircut with the back of the head shaved. Did anyone else have that?

I would have loved a pixie cut compared to that.

seaweedhead · 11/03/2017 22:55

My dd has always had her hair cut to a bob. She suits it and hates having her hair brushed or tied back.
I know plenty of little boys with long hair too. Surely we're past the stage where gender is defined by hair length.

LightDrizzle · 11/03/2017 23:51

Wow! I'm amazed and depressed by the number of people who see this as some form of cruelty. When did long hair become de rigueur for little girls? It seems strange that we seem to have less choice now than when our parents raised my peer group in the 1970s.

I had long hair until I was 8 and requested a Purdey cut, but I think most of my friends had short hair or bobs or pudding basin cuts. Similarly photos show us in polo-necks and flares, skirts and jumpers, dresses, with scarcely a pink garment to be seen.

My daughter had a bob until she was around 6 or 7 and wanted it long like Emma Bunton, as did all of her classmates at the time. Nobody mistook her for a boy beyond babyhood and she looks scrumptious as a toddler in photographs.

There's a lot of handwringing about pressure on teenage and pre-teen girls to conform to narrow "media" defined beauty criteria, clearly it is starting far younger than that and they are learning from the very people we look to to protect them.

MoonriseKingdom · 12/03/2017 00:11

The 70s - when it was fine to give all your kids the same haircut regardless of sex Grin one of these children is Boris Johnson

Seriously though - just do it, bet it looks great.

To get toddler DD's hair cut into a pixie?
user1andonly · 12/03/2017 01:22

I love that picture! I think I wore all of those outfits (except the dad's suit) at some point during the 70's!

I googled pageboy style and my mother was lying when she told me that's what I had and it was a girl's style - no, mum, you forced a short back and sides on me and, no, it did not suit me!!

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 12/03/2017 01:58

I hated my short hair when I was a kid - but I had curly hair, really curly like a dandelion so it grew up and out not down Grin not much mum could do with it!

I cried when trimming my toddlers hair I made it look like a mullet so had to cut it short Blush what a tit. All my boys have short hair now by choice because it's easier. It doesn't get in their faces.

Go for it OP. Little girls and boys look cute as anything regardless of hair - although I will say I'm not a fan of the 'dragged through a hedge backwards' look Wink.

Those of you saying it's cruel or equating it to having a short hair cut forced on you until you were 12 need to have a word with yourselves - OP is clearly not going to scalp her daughter every six weeks till she leaves primary, and as for it being cruel - lawdamighty really?

Ericaequites · 12/03/2017 02:05

Your daughter is not a Sindy doll. Her hair will grow back quickly if you cut it. Short haircuts are better than matted, untidy hair.

m0therofdragons · 12/03/2017 02:33

My parents did this to me. All my friends had lovely long hair and I had a boy cut. Putting the word pixie in front may make it sound cute but it's still a very defining thing. I'm now 34 with long hair and have always had long hair since I was old enough to choose.
Dd2 demanded a bob when she was 3 and a little fringe to stop her hair going into her eyes. She's now 5 and the fringe has gone but the bob is her choice as she hates it being tied up. Her twin sister has long "rapunzel" hair and cries when she needs a trim. At 3 your dd will have an opinion so ask her (showing pictures)

Broken11Girl · 12/03/2017 03:20

I'm in the feminist camp. Sad how many posters think this would be a terrible thing to do. We really are going backwards re gender.
I'm sorry to hear some people were made to have short hair and didn't like it when a decade older than OP's DD...
OP, do it. It doesn't sound like she cares, in fact she'll probably be happier without it in her face. It'll grow if she wants it long when she's older and understands it will need to be brushed.
And she's not behind. My DN3 is her age, and speaks in quite complex sentences at times, but DN2 is just 4 and doesn't, and barely said a word a year ago. Kids are all different.

sycamore54321 · 12/03/2017 03:52

No strong opinion but this thread made me laugh twice. Firstly when someone posted a picture of a toddler girl with a pixie cut which is being praised as the epitome of practicality and femininty; conveniently not dwelling on the fact that said toddler was also wearing a fascinator and a string of pearls. And secondly when people offer the famously buxom and shapely Judi Dench in support of the argument that a short-haired toddler could never be mistaken as a boy.

Carry on.

NightWanderer · 12/03/2017 04:07

My daughter has a pixie cut. She kept cutting it herself and the hairdresser gave her a pixie cut and a year later it still hasn't grown out. I think she looks beautiful. She sometimes puts clips or an Alice band in it but soon pulls them out. She's a very stylish young girl and never gets much mistaken for a boy.

Minesril · 12/03/2017 08:06

I was forced to have straggly waist-length hair as a child because "short hair wouldnt suit you." Cue morning tears as mother dragged a brush through it.

I have a pixie cut now: looks fab!

BentleyBelly · 12/03/2017 08:08

My dd has crazy hair that we have kept short until recently as she refused to have it tied up or clipped off her face. She always looked like such a scruffbag. It's just about long enough now for a pony tail or bunches and I made her some hairclips with dinosaurs on that she loves. She is 3.6 and it's only this month she has accepted a pony tail. Cut your dds hair short until she is interested...saves the battles with a hairbrush!

Isthismummy · 12/03/2017 08:11

I saw a little girl on train a few days ago with a pixie cut and she looked gorgeous. Almost ethereal as she had really white blond hair.

Yanbu op. Go for itSmile

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