To get toddler DD's hair cut into a pixie?

[tvtate]

Is it mean? To make her look like a little boy? She hates her hair being done and there are some really lovely pixie cuts that would work. I have a DS (who was once a toddler!) and his haircut would work on her...

[tvtate]

winnie because some people (including you) accusing me of being lazy and not being bothered to do her hair and clean it and cut it. And also wanted to control her

[HarrietVane99]

Why would it be mean, if she likes it and it suits her?

The idea that girls must have long hair went out around the time of the First World War. Very short hair has been fashionable for girls and women on and off since the 1920s.

[user1483387154]

If she likes the pictures you show her and talk through having her hair cut off to look like them, then go ahead.
My mum made me have short hair from toddler to secondary school and I hated every second of it.

[Lalunya85]

Of course you should cut it short if you think it's best.

It actually makes me really sad to read that quite a few people feel it is necessary to "femininise" a two-year-old.

Ridiculous. Do what's practical and what she'd be most comfortable with. And do it with confidence!

[selfishcrab]

I was little back in the early 70's, my Mum had mine cut in a pixie cut, also dressed me in what suited me vz what people thought.
Apparently everyone loved it and never mistook me for a boy.
Go for it, if it makes life easier for the both of you.

[boatrace30]

I have a pixie cut. Don't think I look like a boy. Grr. She is 2. It doesn't matter what she wears or how she looks as long as she is happy!

[notMarlene]

Yy get it cut.

[MoonriseKingdom]

I'm all for practicality in toddler hair. My DD has a shortish bob as it tends to get easily tangled if any longer and she won't keep slides in. It also suits her pixieish face. Most toddler girls I know have longer hair though. I guess it depends how you feel about any comments. I got asked at soft play why I was dressing my DD as a boy. She was wearing jeans and a green stripy cardigan (from the girls section!) - grr.

[reallyanotherone]

It's not "making her look like a boy" ffs.

I did o/p. She'd never had anything different though so she had a pixie cut until she was 5 or 6.

Fwiw too she got scouted several times by a very reputable modelling agency as they loved her "look".

[WaegukSaram]

It actually makes me really sad to read that quite a few people feel it is necessary to "femininise" a two-year-old.

This.

[harderandharder2breathe]

Do it. It's practical for her now.

When she's a bit older and past the stage of getting everything in her hair she can have it longer if she wants to. Or can keep it short if she wants to.

[SmileEachDay]

Some of the attitudes on this thread are why the "trans issue" is such an issue.

Do whatever works for you and DD, OP.

[KingPrawnOkay]

I wouldn't. Even if she agrees to it now little girls change their minds all the time and in six months she might hate it and it's going to take years to grow long again. Plus in my opinion it's a bit boyish. What's wrong with a long bob?

[AngelBlue12]

I would ask her, at nearly 3 all my girls would have hated to have had their hair cut short.

[oblada]

Of course go for it!!! Practicality first for a toddler unless she is clearly unhappy with the arrangement (I doubt she cares at that age). Why do so many women in the UK feel the need to have long hair? Most women in my family have short hair (myself included). DD1 wants her hair long so we compromise and only trim every so often so she can still tie her hair etc but it's easy to manage. DD2 has her hair short, she is 2.5yrs old and a little 'tomboy' I suppose, it's practical, it suits her, she's happy, don't care what people say! If she wants longer hair later on no problem. Similarly if DD1 wants short hair I'll be happy to oblige! A girl/woman doesn't need long hair to be feminine!!

[CruCru]

Do it, I bet it would look super. My daughter (3.5) has a jaw length bob - any longer and it starts getting on her nerves. Plus I can't do plaits (which will be needed once she is in school).

[notMarlene]

It actually makes me really sad to read that quite a few people feel it is necessary to "femininise" a two-year-old.

Absolutely

[CruCru]

Realistically, even if you hate it / she hates it, it's hair - it will grow.

[tvtate]

King please read my posts.

[ArseyTussle]

Why a pixie and not a short bob with a fringe? I have a short cropped cut by the way, I'm just curious as to why it's a choice between short crop or long.

[oblada]

I find it quite sad to imagine a 3 yrs old girl would actually care about having long hair (or indeed even a 4 or 5yrs old)... It tells a lot about how gendered biased we are as a society and how strong that message is coming across even to very young children... And what on earth is wrong with "boyish"?

[KoalaDownUnder]

in six months she might hate it and it's going to take years to grow long again.

It doesn't take 'years' to grow a 3-year-old's hair. How dramatic.

[highinthesky]

MrsTerryPratchett you are so right. I was less bothered by my short hair from the age of 7, as long as it was styled the same way as Lady Di's.

But as a 3yo I really hated it. It might have had something to do with watching National Velvet (remember the scene when Elizabeth Taylor's hair was lopped off?).