To have cried in the pub toilet

[roarityroar]

Because a man I don't know at the bar said "oh wow, you look just like Bridget Jones!"?

I'm 28 and not that it matters a size 8. I've had a hugely difficult week and felt quite confident today and now I feel crushed and stupid and fat and disgusting.

Why was my post deleted?

Why have I had posts deleted?

You were troll hunting.

I love how one poster who was upset for being told she looks like Bridget Jones is consoled etc but another poster in obvious distress is told that they are attention seeking.

[Hmn]

Thank you user. I have no idea why my thread looking to support has been hijacked.

Probably because I am worthless and terrible and I was right to believe that my sadness doesn't matter

Thanks BBC etc.

I think it would be best to stop trying to engage with BBC now op, I think asking them questions is only going to trigger them further and we don't know the frame of mind they are in. Hopefully they have stepped away from this thread now.

user148 NEVER accuse a potentially suicidal person of attention seeking!!! Where is your head?! Shame on you.

This thread is getting messy. The OP has a huge amount going on right now and is struggling to cope, as is bbc. I go to a lot of alcohol support groups (I know this isn't the issue here) and when you get a mix of distressed people, it sometimes does get a bit complicated. I don't think you're being personally attacked, OP - I think BBC has asked for help on another thread and is in a bad way, but as it is not in AIBU, is not getting enough traffic. Sad but true. Op has already experienced a distressing week so having a go isn't helpful, but it's also clear that BBC is very distressed right now and feeling she is not getting the support she needs. Let's all be kind to one another.

i think theres some ppl whoa re just never wnated as not worth as much. DUnno why. But im one of them. its not just the postcode lottery, some peopl like me are elcuded forever.

Nothing wrong with you being sad and so on abotu the thing sthat have happned but thats not the same as sweeping generalistaion about ppl being pathteic spinsters. surely if you dont think it about others, how can you apply it to yourself? treat yourself s you would treat othrs! a twist on the well known mantra!

Stirring up a thread of another woman who has had a horrific week and making personal attacks. I've tried to be kind, I've had some amazing support, I'm leaving now. How can this be ok?! I would NEVER post on a thread where someone is hurting and attack the OP & make it about me. FFS MN is meant to be for support not ad hominems

I agree ItShould

BBC - If you actually read my posts then your advice would be to treat myself as I treat others.

Op

This was me in my late teens and early twenties;

People used to say the exact same thing to me! I was about 25 and a size 8. I always took it as a compliment.

Then I came to my senses and got with dh and we've been together for 22 years...

Both dc born after 30...

You are so young

Concentrate on YOU for a while

BBC - please set up your own thread in chat / AIBU for traffic.

In the past 24 hours I've had a termination and found out my boyfriend cheated. I'm also recovering from an eating disorder, not to mention the standard financial, work, life shit we all have.

I came here for support and it was bloody brilliant. I felt better, I laughed, then you had a go and now I feel shit again. Mental health is not a game of top trumps. My utter desolation, self loathing, inability to eat or sleep does not detract from yours.

Lovely post Badders but i'm guessing op just doesn't see it.

P.S AIBU on an Internet forum does not mean a green light to trigger a suicidal person. We have all just seen you for who you are.

Lovely badders. Which autocorrects to bladders .

I'll get there

If you actually read my posts then your advice would be to treat myself as I treat others.

yes this is what i worte. If you dont think others are pathetic spinseter the why apply it to yourself? You need to talk to yourself as you would to others in the same psition.

Hullo everyone,

Thank you to everyone who brought this thread to our attention. First off, we'd like to offer and to roarityroar, who's clearly had a tough week. We'd also like to offer to BBC, who seems to be going through a rough patch also. In fact, we're sure EVERYONE deserves a little pick me up of some sort, simply because it's the weekend.

There is room for everyone on Mumsnet, and as long as you post within our Talk Guidelines, you're welcome here. We don't want to police anyone, but we would ask that everyone try to be respectful and considerate when posting. We will remove posts that are trollhunting, goading, or personal attacks. Please do report anything you'd like us to look at.

Well
My mothering instinct is kicking in sadly
Saddens me so much that young, clever and talented women are made to feel so crap by people who are supposed to care for them as well as total randoms
I know that people will say "it's only words on a page" or "you will never see them again" but when you feel low it's hard to see that.

What a disaster of a thread. OP, what about asking for the thread to be deleted. Now that you know that being told you look like BJ was probably a compliment is there anything more to be gained from carrying on with the thread.

Ill take bladders btw!

Quite appropriate given the state of my pelvic floor! 😖😀