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Dinner at 9pm.

194 replies

LookAtTheFlowersKerry · 11/03/2017 14:53

We are going out for dinner tonight as it's my sister's birthday.

The table is booked for 8.45pm. I'll be chewing my own arm off by then! We're meeting at 7.30 for drinks. So I'll be starving and probably pissed by the time we sit down to eat.

Am I just really out of touch? Is this how the world works now? Bearing in mind I'm usually in bed by ten.

Am I just an old fuddy duddy? Dsis is a hip young thing despite only being a year younger who has a vibrant social life. She says it's normal to eat that late and that I'm weird for always booking tables for 7pm ish.

Aibu?

OP posts:
sonyaya · 11/03/2017 14:55

YANBU. I am starving by the as well and usually scoff doughnuts before I go out

It's not uncommon to book for this time though. It's just not my personal preference.

Vagabond · 11/03/2017 14:55

Just go with it. And yes, you are a fuddy duddy. Join the club. :)

Kiroro · 11/03/2017 14:56

Totally normal... sorry!

If you have a lie in , breakfast at 11.... lunch at 3.... dinner at 9 :)

Also after work - leave work at 19.30ish, table at 20.20.

Not so ideal if you got up at 6am with a child and had lunch at 12.

Pinkheart5915 · 11/03/2017 14:56

If going out child free dinner table is never booked before 8:30pm, me & dh don't like eating early.
However if the babies are coming with us we go about 6pm but I don't like eating then

2014newme · 11/03/2017 14:56

We eat that time every night.

MrsDc7 · 11/03/2017 14:56

Dinner at 9PM?? Confused that would give me indigestion and I'd be pissed by then too ha

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LookAtTheFlowersKerry · 11/03/2017 14:59

I've planned for it, we had a big cooked lunch at 12pm. I'll probably have some cereal at tea time and then be able to hold out until 9ish.

But I'm humphy about it. It's not the natural order of things.

OP posts:
KellyElly · 11/03/2017 15:01

Normal in Spain, not here though Grin

Alice212 · 11/03/2017 15:01

I don't think there's a normal

this is fine for a lot of people I know

I'd hate it and tbh I would discuss with it whoever had invited me and maybe just go for drinks because I have other health issues and could only eat a bite at 9pm or frankly I'd be up till 3am just trying to digest it (not kidding).

but my sister is the also the "dinner at 9" type and we go out a lot, so we compromise on stuff like this.

SEsofty · 11/03/2017 15:02

Normal, but I'm so used to eating with the kids that I'm starving by half six.

Think it might be a two dinner day

alltoomuchrightnow · 11/03/2017 15:02

normal to me. DP and I both work till late most days. On Valentines Day we booked a table (our first for that day actually as always worked eves then) for 10pm.
Most nights at home we eat about 9 or 10, often later.
No indigestion, we tend not to go to bed early

TheOnlyLivingToyInNewYork · 11/03/2017 15:02

Perfectly normal time to eat dinner.

alltoomuchrightnow · 11/03/2017 15:03

oh we are in our 40s and 50s, not young things.

OfaFrenchmind2 · 11/03/2017 15:03

It's a bit late, but maybe you could have a quick boiled egg and a bit of bread to tide you over around 6.45pm so you are not starving until diner? It helps also with the drinks.

Gwenhwyfar · 11/03/2017 15:11

" leave work at 19.30ish"

What???

Alice212 · 11/03/2017 15:12

Gwen - why what? I used to finish work at 8. Now I finish at 5ish. People live all kinds of different lives.

Lauraw1989 · 11/03/2017 15:12

I hate this as well Angry The in laws always insist on eating at this time.

OP maybe if you start to feel drunk you could have a break and have a soft drink? This is what I usually do.

yellow6 · 11/03/2017 15:18

9 seems really late to me we normally eat at 5ish

TheOnlyLivingToyInNewYork · 11/03/2017 15:20

I'm always amazed by how early people eat. 5 o'clock is for babies and people in hospital, in my book!

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 11/03/2017 15:22

Nah, it's far too late for me, even when I was a youngster (a long while ago now).
8pm at the latest and if we had to wait til 8;30 for food to arrive, I'd be chewing the tablecloth - 9 is too late and would probably give me indigestion issues later.

We mostly eat between 6:30 and 7:30pm now, usually before 7 in the week but later at the weekend. DH is in bed by 9 most days so we couldn't eat much later!

MajesticWhine · 11/03/2017 15:23

It's pretty late. I'd be scoffing toast at 5pm to get me through.

April241 · 11/03/2017 15:25

Since I started working I've never been able to have tea before 7/8pm, any earlier and I can't face it although as a kid we always had it at 5/5:30pm.

Anywhere between 7 & 9pm is normal for us at home now as we have young babies and thats when we get time but if we're going out its normally booked for 6:30ish so we can go and have drinks and eat around 7.

diddl · 11/03/2017 15:25

I prefer lunch out!Grin

Then I can eat or not for the rest of the day.

I wouldn't be able to eat much at that time of night as it would feel uncomfortable.

9pm I'm usually taking the dog for his last walk & them coming back to settle down for the evening!

honeylulu · 11/03/2017 15:25

9 is normal dinner time in our house for adults and our secondary school aged child. We don't get in from work until 7 and have to supervise homework and get our youngest bathed and put to bed. The earliest time I start cooking is 8.
The rest Europe scoffs at Brits with their 6pm dinners. If I ate that early (if it were possible) I'd go to bed starving.
Have a late lunch to keep you going. The pre dinner drinks will take the edge of your appetite anyway.

yellow6 · 11/03/2017 15:25

i accept 5 is early but my uni age ds does most of the cooking for that time

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