To consider escorting?

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I'm so sick of being poor, I can't even save money to put in to a pension let alone for new and much needed clothes.

I'm (almost) 25 with a 1 year old DD studying at uni and if it wasn't for DD then I would work in the evenings and on weekends but with no family nearby I have no options.

Plus I plan to move back to London when I finish my degree and as there is no room at my mums I think that this will be the best way to survive in London.

Anyone got any suggestions? Help or advice?

Thanks

This is your career plan then? Prostitution? Woah... You may be educated ("and pretty", whatev) but how about some personal ambition, hard work and pride? At 24 you should be looking at kick starting your career through a grad scheme & work your way up to where you want to be. If you choose the quick buck option, you'll be wasting time that could have been spent on this.
Otherwise drug dealing is also a quick buck profession I hear. If we start a thread on this, we may also read from people who loved it while they "chose" to do it, have now left and moved on to "prestigious professions" too...

I worked as an escort for nine years and five of those were in London.

I was independent and worked from my own flat.

London is saturated with escorts and it is not the hugely lucrative job people think it is. I did OK in the sense that in some weeks I earned a grand +, but there's also the weeks where the bookings don't come in and you're shitting yourself about paying the rent!

It isn't true that you will have to do anal sex or offer services you don't want. A lot of men out there are looking for a none kinky, girlfriend type experience. The type that they tediously moan about not getting at home! The worst part of the job for me wasn't the sex. It was having to pretend to be fascinated and wildly attracted to some dull man for hours at a time. The fawning and play acting I had to employ drove me to the edge of sanity. You have to have a persona that you wear at all times and be a very good actress!

It's also quite time consuming admin wise. I spent hours on my website every week, updating my blog, keeping everything fresh so clients would stay interested. Plus there's the self employment aspect to consider. You really need to register and pay your taxes like everyone else!

Danger wise I was never attacked in all the years I worked nor ever came close. Ymmvt.

I left escorting without a penny though. It totally fucked with my head and I thought my life was over anyway, so what was the point of saving? I thought nobody would every love me, I would never have a relationship etc. Now I'm getting married in the Soring and can't believe my luck quite frankly. I really did think I would die alone.

Career wise I really struggle now cos of the gaps on my CV. That is a big regret.

Escorting gave me the chance to come to London and now have a life here, for which I will always be greatful. However I am scarred for life by it. I know more about how the male psyche works than I ever wanted to. The number of men who think nothing of casually cheating on their wives is staggering. I read posts on here where women claim their husband doesn't mind they've not had sex for ten months cos of new baby etc and just think The number of men I saw paying for sex for reasons like that was utterly horrendous. I even had a man drop in on the way to his wedding once. That was a low day. Also the guy who's wife was dying of cancer who would come and see me on way to and from hospital. Honoury mention also to my client who's job was working with women who were trying to exit the sex industry. He saw daily how fucked up this work can make you but still slept with escorts.

It stays with you and colours your feelings ever after. Be aware of that.

This is really interesting. Japanese andbrazillian I totally get what you are saying but sometimes you have to be careful especially if you are in the profession I think you are as certain things you do in the past can come back to haunt you and can affect career progression.

Hhelenadove she's not homeless though. She hasn't considered her options, other than 'cleaning toilets for minimum wage'. As if that and prostitution are the only two options that are open to her.
Yes probably more women will consider it as benefit cuts take effect, which will increase competition which will make it an even worse option.
I've never worked as a prostitute/escort myself, but from doing a bit of research it quickly becomes clear that most don't make that much money and may even be financially better off doing minimum wage work, with benefit top ups.

Escorting gave me the chance to come to London and now have a life here, for which I will always be greatful.

I'm a Londoner and I don't understand why everyone thinks it's so great. The very fact that it's saturated with escorts and sex workers who can't live here otherwise suggests the streets are not lined with gold.

Well, actually I am from London but now live in Hertfordshire and commute. Because I'd have to sell my body to live in London, even Greater London. And it's not worth it!

I don't disagree with you now PoorYorick The London novelty has long worn off for me.

At the time though I was desperate to get away from a shitty situation back home and reinvent myself. Escorting allowed me to do that. I'm not saying it was the wisest way to go about it, but for me it did give me the opportunity.

I've left the profession. I worked for a high class agency and my stretch marks would mean I could never work at the class I could before I had a child.

The only thing I will admit is you are obsessed with sex forever. It took me years to not talk about sex constantly in conversation.

altiara

I'm doing a Bsc Psychology degree. I enjoy statistics and methods of research the most and have always attained high marks in those modules so would like to do something with those skills.

But I have very low confidence, suffer from anxiety and depression. On top of that my brother committed suicide in November. I found his body and my ex was abusive towards me so yeah, I hate life at the moment.

Escorting just seems like an easy way to make a lot of money for less hours so I can get life together without worrying about rent and bills.

And to the person who thinks I want to do this as a career I dont. I don't want to gain experience in escorting I meant I want to escort part time to pay rent whilst also working in a proper job to gain experience as that job as I may not be making enough to make ends meet. Yet also moving up the career ladder faster. Does that make sense.

Reading the linked sites has put me off but I feel I would only do it for the money.

Not literally. I'd never talk about sex with children or at work. But with friends I would a lot, and sometimes say inappropriate things at work.

Now that's gone but it took years.

But I have very low confidence, suffer from anxiety and depression. On top of that my brother committed suicide in November. I found his body and my ex was abusive towards me so yeah, I hate life at the moment.

Dear God, don't go anywhere near this line of work. You are much too vulnerable.

But I'm not surprised you're thinking about it. Vulnerable people in bad need of money are the bedrock.

The streets definitely aren't lined with gold. I had to put in a lot of graft to become even a moderately successful hooker. It wasn't all eating in fancy restaurants and shopping at Chanel. In fact absolutely none of the latter and only very rarely the former.

I made £3000 a week minimum!

But I was beautiful.

Now I'm anything but! 😂

I could never earn much money now as although my face is still pretty I have stretch marks.

Low confidence, anxiety and depression will make you a target for every horrible bastard client out there op.

You have to be tough, confident and endlessly assertive to do this job. It is mentally exhausting and will destroy you if you're already mentally in a dark place.

Please don't do it. I speak from experience here.

Listening to what you enjoy at uni: you could have a look for research assistant or trial admin jobs at universities in London. Ask them what else you'd need to make yourself competitive. Keep going if that's what you really want. Better to be on the bottom rung of the ladder you want to climb than halfway up a ladder you hate.

£3000 a week every week? Were you an agency girl?

I didn't know any independents consistently making that. Not even the most well known ones. Everyone had lean weeks.

OP I am single parent, I work full time and travel. You can have a career and a child.

My child is really grounded and secure. She is almost 8.

Have you got control of your financials? Have you spoke with gingerbread the single parent charity and worked out what maintenance you will get from the father? Get your head focussed on building your career.

It was about £3000 a week. Only 20
women worked for our agency which was known as being one of the best in the country.

We got a lot of work.

I've bought a house so secured a future for my son. But I haven't any spare money now. But it enabled me to do that.

If you're asking on here though you're clearly not sure enough so I'd recommend not doing it.

If you were sure you wouldn't need to ask.

I suggest you get in touch with student support services at your University and see if you can access some Counselling which will be free.

You are incredibly vulnerable right now op and not thinking straight. I know your taking psychology but honestly one of my best friends studied this at University and when we were students she made more messed up decisions than any of my other friends.

Depression and anxiety and a history of being abused? Please OP don't do this to yourself. You will be a prime target for even more abuse and nastiness from horrible bastards and it will shatter you to pieces. You deserve much much better than that and so does your daughter.

You can find lots of research jobs at www.jobs.ac.uk, they don't all require further qualifications than undergrad psychology.

Escorting just seems like an easy way to make a lot of money for less hours so I can get life together without worrying about rent and bills

No doubt the sanitisation makes some of the posters on here think they are/ were just doing a job like any other but the "job" you were considering is being a prostitute.

You're grieving & are very vulnerable. Escorting is the last thing you should be doing. It'll just mess up your life even more.

I was going to suggest office temp work, as it's flexible , reasonably well paid and you can get references from it for future jobs. This is what I did when I was a poor student. You certainly have more choice than cleaning toilets or selling your body.

You could quite possibly be depressed. Please get help for this before making any life changing decisions. Your university should have support services available. Go talk to them.

Talk about blow your own trumpet brazilian .

I was beautiful . High End work .

YOUR experience is not the norm for many I wouldn't have thought !

Back in 2000/early 2001 i was signing on and applying for all sorts of jobs including cleaning toilets. And care work. Id done care work previously in the early 90s.

But no one would give me a job. No i will correct that. People were willing to give me jobs if they didnt come with a wage attatched. Its called workfare.

After 3 month stint of this i was transferred back to the JC and they wanted me to do a second 3 month stint at a soup factory for my JSA. This was under New Labours New Deal.

I had still been applying for many jobs and then saw one in the local paper for an office job which turned out to be an adult telephone service. I applied for it and got it. I was so happy.

The job was in an office and paid twice as much as the jobs id been applying for ......£6.00 an hour. While i was there i could afford to go to Slimming World and lose the extra ten stone i was carrying.

They were willing to employ me in a PAID job. And treat me with respect Something the employers taking part in workfare wernt willing to do. I was there for just over two years from 2001 to 2003.
So its not always straightforward Yes you can apply for cleaning toilets but you cant make them give you the job.
And back in the late 90s there were no working tax credits for those without kids.
Now its even worse because under Universal Credit rules you have to do a set no. of hours. How possible do you think this is with zero hours contracts.

And before you leap in and say "get two part time jobs then" one of the stipulations of these "contracts" is that you need to keep yourself available just in case you are needed. So its not always possible to get another job because when it does overlap you are likely to lose the first job for not being available.

I dont think the OP should do it either as it is dangerous but saying that there are loads of jobs out there without looking at the whole picture tells me that either you arent paying full attention to whats happening today.

I would advise against it tbh. My FILs current partner used to be an escort. Much the same reasons you give, young child, didnt want to miss out on her growing up, easy money etc. Also thought it was just going out with guys, not prostitution. Soon found out sleeping with them WAS expected almost every time, not conventional sex either, not even kinky but some outright disgusting stuff. Almost always degrading (unless you are into that) and had a fair bit of violence and non-payers too. Ended up on heroin...lost her daughter through drug addiction, and now, 15 years later is still on methadone to try and lose the addiction to heroin. So yeah..

Obviously all stories won't end that badly. But its not all sunshine and roses...