To consider escorting?

[MakeItRainOnMe]

NC'd.

I'm so sick of being poor, I can't even save money to put in to a pension let alone for new and much needed clothes.

I'm (almost) 25 with a 1 year old DD studying at uni and if it wasn't for DD then I would work in the evenings and on weekends but with no family nearby I have no options.

Plus I plan to move back to London when I finish my degree and as there is no room at my mums I think that this will be the best way to survive in London.

Anyone got any suggestions? Help or advice?

Thanks

Tell your friends and family what you are planning to do, see what they say

"I'm not willing to have anal sex"
Then you don't understand what your clients will be like.
I used to work in an industry where the very well paid men were often handsome, well-presented and personable. A depressing number of them used prostitutes, mostly for anal or anything else that their wife/fiancee didn't want to do.
They saw escorts as less than nothing, just available fuckholes who were so desperate for money they would take it really hard up the arse or copy whatever porno fantasy turned them on.
Don't underestimate the effects on your physical and mental health. Or even think that it will pay well, like pp's have said.

Escort is a synonym that allows prostitutes to work.

I doubt the previous poster cares what you call her, but she is using the phrase she will use in her working life.

Also, as an addendum - London has an especially bad reputation among prostitutes. When I worked in the industry (in another country) the common wisdom passed around among women looking for a change of scene was to avoid the London industry at all costs.

www.toynbeehall.org.uk/data/files/Statistics_on_prostitution.pdf

This is a good link for statistics on prostitution in London. It states that three quarters of prostitutes have been sexually assaulted, half raped.3 quarters in the last year.

Good link here. Professional escorting is available but you'll need to do your research.

www.uknationalescortsassociation.co.uk/articles/how_to_become_an_escort_in_the_uk_151.html

Also states that sex workers have 12x the mortality rate of other women in the same age bracket.

Quotes from punternet, showing the absolute cold contempt punters have for prostituted women:
nordicmodelnow.org/myths-about-prostitution/myth-punters-care-about-the-women-they-buy/

Escorting isn't another word for prostitute actually. there are professional agencies in London where the escort meets their client at the venue and leaves with their driver. No sex or dodgy off the table dealings. But you have to be truly truly exceptional to get a job there - usually have to be a model type, min degree educated, who can speak multiple languages.

Astoria how about we try to encourage women not to work in any area of the 'sex industry'?
Agree with Joystir, I've been desperately poor at times, with young children who rely on me, I just couldn't contemplate prostitution. And I used to do homework for around £1 an hour for hours on end. I never once thought that prostitution was my only option, or that it would be easy money. I sort of guessed it wouldn't be.
There are benefits, there are charities and funds that sometimetimes give out grants, especially for families with young children, there are food banks, part time jobs, even an extra tenner a week can make a difference.

Oh just seen your other posts, astoria. Yeah, pull the other one. It's like the scam myth that rich women pay men for sex.

Belle Du Jour scenarios are really a myth- I don't understand why any woman would encourage another woman towards any kind of prostitution.
Anyone remember the film 'Personal Services' about the life of Cynthia Payne, in which she was presented as a strong and merry character? The truth from her own lips is that she hated every minute of her life in prostitution.

*Cynthia Payne
“I really hated it… I didn’t go into the business happily. It was to pay my son’s private school fees, his dad didn’t help… All the prostitutes I’ve ever known have got children and that’s why they do it. Marriage is just a form of prostitution.
There is a problem now with the women and girls who are hooked on drugs. Also I am horrified at the kind of pornography freely handed around at the moment – children, animals, violence, snuff films, women being killed in front of the cameras. …
My mum died when I was 6 and I was sexually abused by my father and verbally abused by all the men in my family. It was love I wanted, not sex. I had unwanted pregnancies – several abortion, one adoption and the one son I kept.”

This is an excerpt taken from an interview by Barbara Rogers in Everywoman magazine, December 1988. You can find this in the periodicals room in the Feminist Library.*

Actually, the more I read these links the more I'm disgusted by the idea of any woman considering this industry by choice. And I was pretty flabbergasted before.
There are so many jobs out there, and choices. You have so many choices op, to even consider this is downright greedy, lazy and dangerous. The idea of making money in this way when you have choices and a child depending on you is gross.

Joystir59 that's really shocked me and I'm not normally easily shocked. The way these men talk about women is tragic.

As you can see, OP, if you do decide to do it, you are advised to keep it to yourself!

It's not worth it, I'd rather scrub bogs, which I have done.

astoria my brother was married (she wasn't doing it by then) to an exotic dancer.

She was one fucked up woman, with a coke and alcohol addiction who certainly kept her work private. She had a "boyfriend" before my brother who paid her a monthly salary. Her DC had an au pair because she worked nights.

She had also been sexually abused and brought a claim for damages as a child (not saying anymore as could be identifying).

The vast majority of women who are mothers I highly doubt they publicise their work as their kids get abuse over what they do. The three women I know who have been in this industry (don't count the maid but that is almost as bad) have been "fucked up" for some reason or another. They all tend to have or develop addictions or mental health problems, maybe they had this already who knows?

But there is rarely a "Happy Hooker" scenario as far as I know.

I did care work for the elderly in their own homes. It pays little but other rewards are huge and I had a great laugh with them.
I also made beds, cleaned bogs, peeled potatoes, picked strawberries, pulled pints (I washed my hands in between), there are just so many choices! You can get a sense of self worth from the other options too.

I absolutely can't believe you think your daughter wouldn't ever forgive you for working 7-7 at a proper job to support her. How would she feel about discovering you'd become a prostitute? The guilt she'd feel if she realised you'd done it "for her"?

Not to mention that all manner of doctors, nurses, carers, hotel and restaurant staff routinely work long shifts to support their family. I'm sure they don't think to themselves "I probably should become a prostitute so I can see the kids a bit more".

OP, I'm sorry you're short of cash but buying new clothes isn't a reason to sell your body. Charity shops are busy for a reason. Respect yourself. Respect your daughter.

Astoria also comes from a country/culture where Eve shaming goes on - Google it guys. If that isn't sexually shaming women I don't know what is.

Ugh, that Invisible Man thing makes me want to throw up.

According to the previous link I posted 65% of the prostitutes with children didn't have those children living with them

That invisible men website has made me feel a bit sick. I've had to stop reading, those poor poor women they are writing about.

The myth is that men use prostitution because they want to buy sex. That's not what they're buying. The product here is the opportunity to hurt women, mentally, physically and emotionally.
If you are going to do this, that is what you are selling. I don't see that ending well for you or your kid.

Please don't.
It will make you feel bad about yourself