Do you expect to pay for our own drinks at he evening do of a wedding?

[WhistlingBetty]

I am getting married in six weeks and we need to let he venue know what we want to do about the bar.

We have 100 day guests and as well as canapes and a three course meal alcohol included is:

3 X glasses of champagne
Half a bottle of wine

We have an additional 30 guests for the evening and are doing a hot buffet. How much alcohol would you expect to be covered as an evening guest or a day guest going to the evening party? We can't afford a free bar.

I would expect to pay and have fingers crossed it wasn't an expensive hotel bar!

I would expect to pay for my own drinks. You're being rather generous really; there's no way I would have paid anything towards getting my guests drunk! A Buck's Fizz on arrival was all they got.

I would expect to pay for all my drinks as an evening guest

Expect wine on the table for the wedding breakfast as a day guest. Expect to pay for all drinks as an evening guest (but do expect a buffet). Your proposal sounds great.

Whatever you do will be fine. Have a lovely day

I expect to pay for all my drinks as an evening guest. Most weddings I've attended as day guest have had a drink on arrival plus wine on table for reception, but I wouldn't miss it if it wasn't provided either

We did have a free bar as our parents very generously paid for it. However I don't think I've ever been to another one that had a free bar. I would fully expect to pay for all drink beyond the meal.

Some have done a token per person that you can exchange at the bar for your 1st drink free which is a nice bonus but I wouldn't go expecting it.

I expect to pay. I also expect there to be decent and affordable soft drinks available as I'm a non drinker.

I'd expect a welcome drink and a glass of champagne/prosecco for the toasts whether a full day or evening guest.

Whether I'd be offended at not getting one would depend on the type of wedding. If it was one that was having a reception in a hall where everything was on a budget and/or you could bring your own drinks if you wanted to, then it wouldn't be a problem for me if nothing was provided. If it was a wedding in a posh venue with sky high bar prices, then I'd think it was really rude to expect guests to pay for their own drinks without any being provided.

I think that is very reasonable. I wouldn't expect free booze all night at all.

I've been to many weddings and have only once had someone put anything behind the bar. It's certainly not expected but if you can afford it definitely go for it!

I think it's nice for everyone (or at least everyone who isn't coming to the main meal) to get a drink or two for free beyond that a free bar is appreciated but by no means expected. I've been to weddings where you get a token or two for drinks at the bar which was nice. Or just have someone passing round champagne/sparkling wine. Unless you're super rich I wouldn't do a free bar to be honest.

Hi Op, I have never been to a wedding that you paid for your drinks (not sure if it's because we are Irish or just have very generous family & friends 😃) when dd got married we had a welcome drink, half bottle of wine pp on the table & free bar in the evening total number of guest was about a hundred bar bill came to about £1700.
No one made a pig of themselves & have never experienced at other weddings guests taking the piss.

Sorry😳 Forgot to say congratulations & obviously do whatever suits you & your circumstances.

I'd expect to pay for my own drinks.

I also would expect to pay for my drinks in the evening.

I'd expect to pay for my own drinks. Wouldn't ever even occur to me to expect otherwise.

I expect there to be some cash behind the bar or a dirn kon arrival at least.

I hate it when weddings are at stupidly expensive hotels where it is £12 a G&T / £10 glass of wine.

In the U.K., yes. Anywhere else, no, absolutely not.

there's no way I would have paid anything towards getting my guests drunk

How lovely [not]

Evening guests get one free drink eg bubbly then a cash bar. That seems fair.

I would expect to pay for my own drinks, although I have now been to one or two where that wasn't the case, or at least not all evening (must be moving in a more wealthy circle!). Until a few years ago though I had never been to a wedding with a free bar. You can usually nick a fullish wine bottle from Great Auntie Mabel's table though, the table wine never gets finished (I am very classy).

Oh if I was a day and evening guest combined I wouldn't expect an extra drink come evening.

I might expect a glass or two provided as a day guest.

As an evening guest I wouldn't expect anything. I'd be more than happy to pay for my own drinks.

You are being more than generous with the meal drinks, would have thought that would be enough for anyone, hope you have a lovelly day.