Dh spending when we are trying to save!!!!!

[Nkelly1]

I realise I probably won't get many sympathies here because our income is high but this is really a problem.

So dh earns £60,000 I earn anything from £20,000 to £30,000 depending on what projects go through and am part time.

We are trying to save for two holidays this year our two week summer holiday and a Caribbean cruise for the family to celebrate an anniversary.

Both these holidays we cost £5000 grand plus and the first one is paid for but we have only saved a grand for the second.

So me and dh have decided to cut back and reduce spending.

So we have reduced eating out (used to eat out once a week) and we also reduced the amount we spend on groceries buying things from Sainsbury's rather than buying everything from Marks or Waitrose. Also the amount we spend buying clothes we are quite fond of a label as a family particularly dh and dss.

So yesterday dh took the teens into London and spent £600 on them eating out and buying things. We have the money but we are supposed to be saving.

When I hear other people on here talk about there expenses it makes me feel so ashamed. I spend hundreds of pounds of food shopping the amount of food we get through. Dh won't step foot in any supermarket below Sainsbury's. I don't have a figure on food but even if I did I would be ashamed to post it.

Aibu

Do you regularly look at your bank accts to see where you're spending?

I'd sit down and have a little chat
Bless

I don't even thing the problem is with the supermarket. It won't make that much of a difference in generic groceries.
It will be the gourmet stuff, probably.

Yes, unless they're eating enormous amounts of food, and who knows they may well be, then it's gourmet luxuries and booze.

Why was thisthingcalled's post deleted. She only said something about 4/10 for goadery I think fair enough

When we spent huge amounts in the supermarket (before cutting back as we realised it was silly money) it mainly went on nice wine/stuff from the deli counter/expensive cuts of meat.

I don't know why but I love this thread!

Just caught up with this thread, which,quite frankly is getting ridiculous. All the well meaning suggestions of how to sort out the money problem, and OP only wants pp to look at how difficult it is because she can't control her oh...

No one has addressed that I can't control dh spending since he has his own account

Bar cutting up someone's cards/denying them access to money etc, no one can control their partners spending, can they? We have a joint account but I can't (and wouldn't) physically control what DH spends money on. All we can do is talk to each other about priorities/budgets/necessary outgoing etc. Which is what you can do too.