A 27 year old woman dating an 18 year old man

[user1488318718]

What would you make of this situation?

Woman has known man since he was born. Their parents are best friends and so for years we're practically brought up together.

Then aged 9, they went to different schools and had ceased to see each other at all. Aged 27, woman meets the mans sister and they become close. She introduces woman to her brother and after several months there seems to be an attraction from both.

Woman is in a similar profession to the university course man has just started.

Only problem is, while man is very mature, he's only 18. She is 27 and 28 in a few weeks.

Wrong on many different levels and an absolute no go?

Aibu, to say it is.

Why would anyone use 'icky', 'yucky' or other puerile terms to describe a relationship like that?

Not nice terms, but probably people are associating with their own RL experiences of 18 yo's.

I remember my BF dated our friend's kid brother and it was cringeworthy. Not least of all because he was several inches shorter than her. It was indeed wrong on so many levels .

I was relieved when they split up, it was only a summer fling. I didn't express my opinion (which is why we are still great friends, no point in sticking my beak in where it wasn't wanted!). But I did take her out afterwards, to cheer her up!

It's a non issue. If you don't like it, put your attention elsewhere.

This is a little bit mad, I started seeing DP when I was 19 and he 31, 3 years later and it's delightful. But that's ok. B/c I was a teenage girl and dp was an older man

Can't see the problem. If they like each other along then good luck to them.

Woman has known man since he was born. Their parents are best friends and so for years we're practically brought up together.
Then aged 9, they went to different schools and had ceased to see each other at all.

Er... well to the age of 9. People change massively between the ages of 9 and 27. These two people (who are not the potential couple in the story) are NOT like brother and sister. They are two kids who knew each other years ago and have had no significant relationship. A nine year old will barely remember anything really. It's no big deal.

This background is irrelevant

Aged 27, woman meets the mans sister and they become close. She introduces woman to her brother and after several months there seems to be an attraction from both.

How on earth if they were "practically brought up together" has this women never met the man's sister before? Either because (a) this is a crock of shit or (b) the man's sister was born afterwards ergo making the background above EVEN more irrelevant

Woman is in a similar profession to the university course man has just started.

So what? Again seems irrelevant unless she is teaching him.

Only problem is, while man is very mature, he's only 18. She is 27 and 28 in a few weeks.

Wrong on many different levels and an absolute no go?

So user1488318718 what are the many different levels you are thinking of?

Seems to me there is only one possible one which is the age gap. Whether it is "wrong" depends on whether it is wrong between these two people.

If he wants to sew his wild oats, and she want a husband and children = wrong.

If they are both just having fun and attracted no strings attached = not wrong.

If he is seriously mature for his age and they are compatible and both want a serious relationship = not wrong.

Just depends on who they are and what they each want and how compatible they are.

I don't get how the backstory waffle is relevant here at all or what the "many levels" are.

Still here?

At 25, I tried the whole being with an 18 year old.....we both fucked Up contraception wise & he cried like a child telling me how he's too young to be a dad! And about how he was going to explain it to his Mum & dad!!

That was enough for me to cut it out & find someone older.

Although I went for someone 29 years old & when an accident happened his words were "I'd rather you tell me you had HIV than tell me you were pregnant, il be off to Thailand if that's the case".

Took two people 1 young & 1 older for me to bloody learn my lesson!

Goes to show age means nothing!

Nah - my aunt and uncle married with that age gap in the '60s. Old hat. All been done before. He became step father to two children he was too young to father, at 22. Seems to have worked out fine

terrylene ah! But did your aunt know your uncle's next door neighbour'a cousin's grandchild?

I can do better! On my 30th I had two amazing nights with my work colleague who had literally just turned 18 he spent his uni grant on a hotel for us (bless)

I swear I didn't know and he looked older! Rugby player and absolutely beautiful - alas when I found out his age I said it could happen again 🙈

Still good friends!

Probably - it is a village where everyone used to know everyone or went to school or church with them. Or were related Ditto the neighbouring villages.

To be honest you ABU. They're both adults and so long as theyre not hurting anyone, then who cares about the age gap? Its what some people want and its what others don't. If it works it works, if it doesnt well theyve had fun. Just mind your own business.