The cafe guy called me FAT

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I was having a lovely day to my self shopping and decided to grab a coffee. I ordered a skinny latte and the guy said 'you know there is so much sugar in skinny milk, you shouldn't drink it and that is why you are Fat. I was so shocked 😳 and embarrassed and mumbled something like... I like being Fat and walked off.
I wish I had the guts to say something! What would you do?

And thie is relevant how?

I was addressing Cara

Sorry..it was just a reason to goad..my bad.

You missed where I said I'm skinny and think the barista was bloody rude (and frankly odd), then, Cara.

I would find somewhere else to go.

I clearly should have been clearer. This was what a barista told me, not what I think that someone calling the OP fat meant.

Just made no sense until you said that and then, Aha! of course he spends all his days making coffee so people order skinny drinks, they piss him off!

We were horrible about our customers somedays when we were especially tired - he dropped the filter, silly boy!

Ive lost ten stone Cara.

Im also sorry to spoil your fun.

Fun? Why fun?
The OP picked this guy up wrongly and many of you are having fun insulting him with the most delightful MN specials.
Such hypocrisy.

Helena you are AWESOME! ! 10 Stone? ? ive managed to loose a stone and want to drop another four but am struggling now although the healthy eating has become a habit so its just the fact that the weight loss has slowed.

Have ditched the booze since i nearly killed myself with alcohol poisoning last year - ok so it was more like a bad hangover but it scared the shit out of me.

I read somewhere yesterday about the fat milk in porridge making you feel fuller for longer then saw this thread so thought id ask.

cara you can only insult someone directly, i doubt he is reading this. I would have told him to go fuck himself but im a belligerent mare!

From the OP:
"'you know there is so much sugar in skinny milk, you shouldn't drink it and that is why you are Fat."

Yep, everyone's picked the guy up wrongly. He wasn't calling the OP fat at all. He wasn't telling her what to do. He probably says that to all his customers, including 6 foot muscular blokes. And anyway it was all just misspeaking for "skimmed milk doesn't froth as easily".

Of course you can insult someone in his absence.

As if cara gives a shiny shite about the cafe owner

LEM It does slow down after a while. Took me a lot longer to get the last 4 stone off than it did the first 7.

Cara I thought you'd come back to admit your lecture on spelling had been wrong misguided for a moment then. No? Just to put everybody straight again I see.

And no, I'm not fat. And I only drink skimmed milk as I find semi and full fat tastes too creamy. In case you were wondering.

Oops. I apologise. That was on anther thread. Ignore me. Nothing to see here.

Enormous You might be better to have no breakfast and just eat at lunch and dinner time actually.

Are you insane? This is the best way to end up starving and stuffing a cake in your face at around 10-11 am. And having an afternoon fatigue slump. What on earth happened to eating sensibly, in moderation, in a way that is sustainable..?

This whole thread is bizarre, frankly. It's trying very hard to be a proper bunfight but we can't decide which direction that fight should take... fat shaming, rude foreigners, weird victim-blamig psychobabble...

I have a BMI of 20, which is at the lower end of a normal weight, but nonetheless can sympathise with overweight people, amazingly.

fat shaming, rude foreigners, weird victim-blaming psychobabble... sounds like a typical afternoon at Starbucks to me.

I wish I had the guts to say something! What would you do?

Told him to piss off and then ordered the most calorific thing on the menu to eat and cry into simultaneously. Then complained about him.

Gou should have also told him low fat stuff actually has a lot more crap in it too to still make it taste nice so his point was moot.

Hospital the old advice was nideed never miss breakfast, most important meal of the day. The latest research turns that completely on its head. The fewer meals you eat the less you eat all day and intermittent fasting is realyl good for people. I expect it will take a generation before the NHS takes that on board and that good fats are the way to lose weight however as the opposite has been drummed into people over 40 years (exactly the period over which we got fat and sick when we were told fat is bad so we upped all those sugars and carbs to such ill effect)

Skimmed milk froths way better than full fat - the fat weighs it down I reckon. In home machines, anyway, dunno about the big coffee-dalek things.

And no, I doubt it was a general point. I think there's a big difference between 'that's why you are fat' and 'that's what makes you fat'. But the fact he was commenting at all says it all.

Whether he meant "you personally" or "fat people", he was directing the comment at the OP so of course she took it personally.

He was directing at the OP, because she ordered a skinny latte. He was directing it at people who buy skinny drinks, I suspect, because he thinks they are labouring under some sort of misapprehension (no personal opinion on the veracity of this, by the way!), rather than directing it at the OP because he thinks that she, personally, is fat.

Enormous the old advice was nideed never miss breakfast, most important meal of the day. The latest research turns that completely on its head. The fewer meals you eat the less you eat all day and intermittent fasting is realyl good for people.

Really? I've found the opposite personally. It doesn't automatically follow that eating less frequently means eating less overall - in fact I find I tend to eat more if I miss meals as I'm so hungry. Also find I need to spread out what I eat or I get tired and dozy. Then eating a large meal after fasting sends me to sleep! Is this weird then?!
I thought the fats vs "low fat"/sugar thing had been known about for years though, but that is different to intermittent fasting...

Animal fat tends to keep people full for hours so intermittent fasting then is easier and you eat less over all.

However people can eat how they like. My only piont was that for anyone trying to lose weight porridge with milk is not a great comination - it's basically carbs which will yank up your blood sugars before a big crash. Nothing or eggs would work better.