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AIBU?

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Aibu to be so upset about this?

196 replies

Iwantausername · 26/02/2017 20:44

Hi,
I had a trip away for myself booked, just a cheap trip within europe. I'm supposed to be going with a family member I've not seen properly in a very long time.
I have never held a passport of any kind, So 13 weeks before my trip was booked (My flight leaves 10.04.2017) I wrote up the application and gave 'D'P the money for it so he could post it for me en route to work, as it was on his way anyway. He said he had, then a week later said he'd received a text saying it had been received and would now be processed, I didn't think to question this or ask to see the text etc. Looked online and its normal for them to text you so thought nothing of it. Then 3 weeks later (bringing total application time to around 4 weeks) I started to get a bit worried as my interview letter hadn't arrived. every first adult passport requires an interview apparently, and according to some info I've read it should only be 5 weeks maximum for this.I waited another week and got really worried by this point. So I tried to ring the passport office and couldn't get through, then 'd'p got home from work and I got a bit upset and told him I was very upset it was taking so long and did he think it would all come through ok (just looking for some reassurance really) he then laughed at me and told me he hadn't actually sent it off and I was stupid to believe he had then he threw £85 at me (the money I'd given him to cover the cost of application and everything). He's also lost my birth certificate yeah right so I've applied for that and paid an extra 15 pounds to get that fast tracked. I finally sent off my complete form and certificates a few days ago. I'm so upset as now my passport probably won't be back in time.
AIBU to be so upset he has done this to me? :( he seems to think so as ''I told you in enough time for you to still have 6 weeks between now and april 10th'' (which is the minimum time as dictated by the passport office, that one will wait for their first passport)

OP posts:
Smurfy23 · 26/02/2017 20:53

Really weird and nasty behaviour...if its part of a pattern it does dound like its time to LTB...

Trills · 26/02/2017 20:53

You were stupid to believe he had?

What?

iremembericod · 26/02/2017 20:54

YANBU at all

You seem to have partnered with a mean, lying scumbag though. It happens, but you don't have to continue like this and I would seriously consider your future with someone who is so nasty about basic life stuff because he won't ever be supportive on the big stuff.

allchattedout · 26/02/2017 20:54

What? I can't believe I am reading this correctly. Leave him! What an abusive piece of shit. What reason does he possibly have for lying to you about sending your passport application? On no planet is that even remotely amusing.

PetalMettle · 26/02/2017 20:54

That is horrible. I thought you were going to say he'd forgotten and then panicked so said that about the text, but this is vile.

RitaConnors · 26/02/2017 20:54

You absolutely have to leave him. What a bastard. That is not a normal way to carry on or to behave towards another person, let alone the person who you are supposed to care about more than anyone.

Smitff · 26/02/2017 20:54

Wtf? Don't let anyone ever treat you like this. He actually went online to see that you'd normally get a text, then told you he'd got it. He deliberately misled you and laughed at you.

Please op, leave. You're worth much more than this.

AllTheLight · 26/02/2017 20:54

Wtf? What an absolute wanker.

SmokingGun · 26/02/2017 20:55

Walk away now OP, his behaviour is not going to change. He's fundamentally a prick, and whilst he may be able to try and work his way out of this one with fake tears and telling you he would miss you so much and that's why he did it, this will not be the last time he does something like this to you.

He has laid all his cards on the table, it's time for you to show your hand Flowers

tinglyfing · 26/02/2017 20:55

I can't believe you're even asking if you're bu to be upset about this?? Of course you should be upset! What an absolute arsehole he is!!
Had he even said why he did this?!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans · 26/02/2017 20:56

Please say you don't have children with this poor excuse for a human being?!

bigbluebus · 26/02/2017 20:57

Why would they text him about your Passport application? Do you not have your own mobile phone number?
He sounds like a complete a*se and you'd be better off without him.

myoriginal3 · 26/02/2017 20:57

prickhead.

RebelRogue · 26/02/2017 20:58

What an absolute prickshit! He did a horrible,stupid and mean thing,but it's your fault for being so "stupid" as to believe him he did something he said he did? What the actual fuck?
Considering he has form,and violence ...run,run as fast and far as you can!

YetAnotherUser · 26/02/2017 20:58

Exterminate your relationship with this cunt.

EXTERMINATE WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE.

Whocansay · 26/02/2017 20:59

WTF!!! What an utter cunt.
Such spite for no reason. Wow. I really don't understand why you would stay with someone so nasty. I think I will actually go with LTB for this one. I am a complete loss how anyone could be so horrible.

ScarlettFreestone · 26/02/2017 21:00

Sweetheart - he's violent, he's cruel.

You know what you need to do.

Flowers
Bunniesncats · 26/02/2017 21:00

I would be making plans to leave him, this is abusive behaviour and as you say he has got form AND been violent! He will never change and you will never change him. Don't make the same mistake I and many other women have made and stay until something drastic happens. Get out now on your own terms.

JazzFunk · 26/02/2017 21:01

He's violent. Don't wait around for the next time - leave him.

SemiNormal · 26/02/2017 21:02

What a horrible piece of shit!

Also this Why would they text him about your Passport application? Do you not have your own mobile phone number? They would only text him if it was HIS number on the form, was it his number? if so are you not allowed your own OP or did you just not think too much about it when he said they text him?

Either way leave him, I never say that on here but seriously he's just plain nasty.

SaucyJack · 26/02/2017 21:02

Mate. You only one go on this Earth. Do you want to waste any more of it than you already have being made miserable by that horrible man.

Please want better for yourself xx

WateryTart · 26/02/2017 21:02

Leave and don't go back. Please.

weebarra · 26/02/2017 21:02

What a truly horrible thing to do. Just really malicious and nasty. I hope you leave him, and that your passport arrives in time.

NavyandWhite · 26/02/2017 21:02

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 26/02/2017 21:02

Prick Shock Angry