To ask friend to childproof her house

[Jakarty]

Best friend is 30. Never married, no kids ando lives on her own. Her flat is absolutely gorgeous- beautiful furniture, fancy candles, ornaments, lamps.

Problem: I pop over about once a week (she also comes to mine) with 2.5yo DD. DD naturally goes to pick up items out on display. DF never gets annoyed or tells her off but I can feel her tensing whenever DD touches a candle or ornament and I feel constantly on edge in case she breaks something! Plus there is also the choking hazard which I don't think she has considered. Also she had one of those adult colouring books which DD spotted the other day and wanted to use. Friend said no as it's 'for adults ' and DD had a massive tantrum! She can't understand why a colouring book is not for her.

I was thinking that I could ask her if she can just put all these things away if we are coming over so that a) her things don't get ruined and b) DD is safe and happy and I can relax with my coffee. Is that U? It's only for a few hours once a week.
Friend is lovely in other ways, not usually inconsiderate

Lol.

How about controlling your child?

And people wonder why friends without children drift away...

Choking hazard?! thats hilarious. You need to calm down, how do you ever leave the house with all these choking hazards everywhere?

YABVVVU. I can't believe you want her to babyproof her home because you and your DD visit her once a week. She's not being inconsiderate in any way - YOU are being inconsiderate.

Your DD will need to learn that she cannot have everything she wants, and that not everything is for her. It's your job to teach her that. It's not your friend's job to hide everything so your DD doesn't have a tantrum.

Nope. I'm not biting.
But I am placemarking.

I'm placemarking too.

But on the off chance that this is real yabvu.

Just me then, I don't think I've asked anyone to move their ornaments out of the way of my toddler yet, but I can't imagine any of my friends would mind at all. Just hoping they aren't any of the others posting on this thread

Hahahaha 😂😂

Is this a joke? Reverse?

Either way it is the worst kind of pfb behaviour and I'm cringing 😭

2.5 is way too old for a play pen. Mine is the same age, I'd expect to say no and remove him from temptation. I wouldn't expect proper he visits to childproof unless he was going there without me and they weren't going to supervise closely.

Yanbu, it's her house and I might suggest parenting your dc?

I take this thread as a joke. Noone can be this stupid.

Another who thinks this is a reverse. On the off chance that it's not then just say to your friend you'd rather meet in a cafe in future because you don't want your child breaking your friends things.

Got to be reverse! Surely you're not parenting a 2.5yo to think everything is there's??

Goodness me. YABVU. And I hate the neo-authoritarian attitude of 'kids must know their place and give way to adults at all times' that currently seems to be fashionable on here.

It's someone else's house! Either meet elsewhere or do as some PP have suggested and give your friend a basket of things to keep at hers that can occupy your dd. They'll become part of the routine od visiting her, and kids love routines.

I don't think it's a reverse, precisely because of the multitude of threads we get on here where people expect the rest of the world to stop revolving because- stop the press- they had a baby!!!

If childproofing is a matter of a minutes work lifting a few things out of reach then I can't see the harm in asking, I'd be more than happy to do that for a friend. If it's more a matter of her redesigning how her living area is all the time, then that's a bit much for a few hours a week and I think you'd risk really alienating her.

I agree with the advice to try to distract her with other things. Perhaps you could provide a few toys (and a colouring book!) for your friend to keep at her house if she would, so that there are interesting things for your DD that she only sees there.

I don't think it's unreasonable to want to be able to relax a bit with your friend, but to do that you need to be a bit more proactive about providing something "safe" for your DD to do.

Yabu - sort your kid out.

Yes, YABU. It is your friends house and she has a right to have it how she wants it. It is your responsibility to make sure your DD doesn’t touch her things and to bring her toys etc to keep her occupied.

I fucking hate reverses.

Yabvvvvu. And a bit of a numpty to be honest.

It's her house and she doesn't have kids. It's your job to supervise your child and frankly teaching her not to touch things she shouldn't. Yes it might make the visit less enjoyable for you but that's your tough luck!!

Yabu you teach your child not to touch. I have had three and never moved such things in my own house as they have to learn they cant go round touching everything. You just have to keep an eye on them.

Really???? Well, ok, op yabvvvvu.

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