To think, No, i don't have to let them try on my expensive shoes?

[ClothEaredBint]

I have a collection of expensive shoes, Irregular choice, they're upward of £80 a pair and most of them are sparkly as i like the glitter.

Obviously kids tend to gravitate to the glitter, and as i have them on display in my house, when i have a couple of friends over, the little girls like to ask to look and try them on.

I always say no, but my friend told me i'm being a bit mean, because "they're only shoes."

AIBU to think that not toys and they aren't going to like it if their kid manages to damage them and i ask them to replace them if they get scuffed or scratched? ITs not like it can be polished out or hidden, it'd spoil the look of the shoe.

I don't even let my own 8yo put them on as she'd fall flat on her face.

I remember a few years ago I was wandering around a small town in Cumbria with DD. We came across a tiny boutique that had a massive closing down sale on. I spotted a pair of very unusual shoes. Shop owner said if you like them, go on upstairs... there's loads more up there.

Me and DD went up.... Only a BLOODY ATTIC ROOM FULL OF IC SHOES!!!

We were in there 2 hours trying on every single shoe in the place.

I was bloody gutted, gutted I tell you when I could not find one pair that I could have worn for more than 5 mins without being in agony .

There must have been close on 200 pairs up in that attic.

Supermoon I thought you were talking about shoe collections in general and I just explained about mine and my reasoning (which would be different to the majority of people's reasons).
I think it goes back to different strokes for different folks, life would be boring if everyone liked the same thing.

I definitely agree that they should be worn (and that goes for every item be it shoes, handbags, jewellery, clothes etc) if you keep things "for best" they rarely get used, and things are made to be used/worn/enjoyed and loved

Am I the only one who thinks that stuff shouldn't have to be hidden? Surely telling the kids no should be enough? If it's not yours, don't touch...

My wardrobe is stuffed with irregular choice boxes but lots of them do look like fancy dress shoes do I can understand kids wanting to try them on.

I have a shoe display shelf
YANBU, kids need to learn to accept a no. I wouldn't let kids try any of my ICs etc on. My cheaper shoes, yes, and my nieces often do, along with jewellery and makeup. They wouldn't throw a tantrum if told no though.

Nightsky noooooo

SteppingOnToes have you not read any of the thread?

I thought this thread was about OP's rude friends wanting to allow their children free reign over OP's treasured possessions. Who knew it was an invitation to slag off her taste in shoes and storage?!

Everyone saying they are ugly, odfo, not everybody follows trends
We personally think they are lovely.
I do still have a pair of iron fist shoes that i should could not be parted from!
it's why should the op have to let them the shoes on? How about her friend just tells her kids no!

I love irregular choice shoes. These are the only pair I own so fair, quite tame really.

I forgot: I have other shoes on display. These are utterly crippling but very pretty

I've never been able to get excited about shoes as I have wide feet and a high instep so I have a pair each of trainers, walking boots, black boots, silver shoes, May Janes, and fit flops. But I I had an impressive shoe collection nobody would be allowed near them😈
YANBU

Middleclass they are pairs but as only three fit on each row i decided to mix them up :)

I just gave some irregular choice shoes to the charity shop as I can't walk in heels. I wear missLfire now if i want funky shoes as they do more flats

Psst... Where's your charity shop then? -shifty eyes-

Of course ynbu to not want to have your shoes touched or tried on! And for those saying put them away, why should you?! I'm baffled sometimes that the advice on MN is if you have a problem it's your problem and you should therefore put things away, move, do anything that doesn't inconvenience the person who's creating the issue!

Child needs to understand no and mum needs to learn a little respect for others.

These are my booooootiful jimmy choos.
They were a 20th birthday present and they are my only pair of shoes over about £50 and these were 10x that so I keep them in the top of my closet where they won't get damaged & only wear them for weddings and celebrations.
Your not being mean, would the child also want to play with your ornaments if they were on display?

That's meant to be 30th not 20th, lol!

Ooh ADay they're beautiful. I'm not keen on IC as they're generally a bit chunky and heavy looking. I prefer thin heels like yours.

Ooh I love this thread. I have never heard of irregular choice shoes but I think I might need some.
YADNBU to not let the kids try them on. Those are the rules in your house, no arguments.
More pics of lovely shoes needed though. Sadly I haven't got any to add.

MiddleClass please tell me the name of those black shoes. I have to have them in my life. Thank you.

Irregular choice flick flack. They come in all different colours and fabrics x

Thank you!!

Aw, you made me want to put on my high heels, I haven't worn them since I fell pg with DS2 over a year ago no way I can walk in them now. YANBU for not wanting to let the kids wear them, I wouldn't either and I don't own any that cost more than £50 (I think - have one pair that was a gift from SIL and I have no idea how much they cost.) In fact, I'd be hard pressed to even let another adult borrow mine, they fit just right and I don't want someone else's feet in them!

I think IC shoes are beautiful, not sure I would have the guts to wear them though. Don't hide them away just because your friend refuses to actually parent her children - this is her problem, not yours.

Well, actually, kids do try to play with my ornaments too, but only because I have a collection of Marvel "Dorbz" which DO look like toys, but they're not!