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My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

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giraffewithalongneck · 22/02/2017 17:36

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

OP posts:
kissingJustForPractice · 22/02/2017 20:27

There's 10 months between my sister and I, I think we were pretty hard work for my mum when we were tiny (but we have some really cute baby pictures). When we got to our late teens we started to get much closer - we were as thick as thieves before then but fought like wild things (I think this was more to do with being left on our own in the house far too young though). I really liked having a sister who grew up alongside me, we are very different, but really understood each other. I am really glad we were in separate school years, mind you!

mathanxiety · 22/02/2017 20:29

Oh and many congratulations, OP Flowers

Chirrup5 · 22/02/2017 20:30

Huge congratulations you will be fine. For the record there is 6 minutes between my two (yep twins) and it wasn't easy in that first year or so but I honestly would not have had it any different.

LaurieMarlow · 22/02/2017 20:32

Congrats. It'll be great. My brothers are 12 months apart and while I think it was tough on my mum in the early days, it's a great way to build the family quickly Grin

PollyPerky · 22/02/2017 20:32

Congrats OP!

Being offended about the Irish is just silly and pc gone mad. I suppose we won't be allowed to mention Irish builders or mean Scots if this carries on. Or even breeding like rabbits for fear of offending them or animal cruelty.

bigearsthethird · 22/02/2017 20:32

Congratulations! Exactly same as me, 3 years fertility treatment and then when dc 10 weeks I was pregnant again.

Honestly you'll cope absolutely fine, the first 6 months are a bit tricky but after that it gets easier!

Beware though, I thought number 2 was a one in a million shot in the dark. Not so. A year later there was baby number 3 on the way!

DianaMemorialJam · 22/02/2017 20:32

Shiny why be so rude to me? The op said on the first page that abortion was not an option and people persisted. I meant this new mother specifically, especially as she has been through the hell of infertility treatment. God help your patients you insensitive person.

fabulousfun · 22/02/2017 20:34

Mine are just over 12 months apart.....it's a tricky ride at the start but fun as they are into the same things at the same time. x

OneWithTheForce · 22/02/2017 20:35

I suppose we won't be allowed to mention Irish builders

Mention what about Irish builders?

Sweets101 · 22/02/2017 20:35

Congrats!! My first 2 were close together, it was hard at times but fab overall!

CurlsandCurves · 22/02/2017 20:36

Congrats OP!

It'll be tough at first but you'll be fine. Friend of mine in a similar family set up said there's no getting away from the fact that it's hard work but once the youngest turned 2 she really felt she'd turned a corner and it all got a heck of a lot easier.

Here's to a healthy and happy pregnancy xx

LaurieMarlow · 22/02/2017 20:36

I'm Irish and I don't find the Irish twins thing offensive.

It's a reflection of actual Irish behaviour. My best friend from primary school came from a family of 14.

When I was struggling to cope with DS through the night as a baby, I thought of my friends mother and how looking after just one baby would have felt like a complete holiday to her. Grin

DianaMemorialJam · 22/02/2017 20:37

One just ignore all that crap, don't let it wind you up its not worth it Flowers

Dragongirl10 · 22/02/2017 20:39

Congratulations, I fell pregnant after being told there was no chance when my DD was 6 months...

It has been so much easier having them so close in age, don't let people scare you,
benefits are, they are usually at the same stage so no carrying a tired baby to toddler playspaces, or older childrens parties,
once the youngest can crawl they are fascinated with each other and entertain each other constantly, mine are now 9 and 10 and l would do it again in a heartbeat, they still play together all the time, so little pressure for endless organising of playdates.
They want to play the same sorts of things as they are at the same stage.

Advice, Get first one into a good sleep routine fast! I found Gina Ford brilliant for my premie DD, she was sleeping 10.30 till 5.30 at 4 and a half months, and with totally predictable daytime naps.....that was a lifesaver when l came out of hospital with another c-section.

Be really organised before number two arrives, freezer full of food, cleaner if possible, online food/nappy deliveries, call in favours from friends family if you can.

Enjoy you family, those early years were the best for me..

RoboticSealpup · 22/02/2017 20:40

Congratulations!! Flowers My DD is 2.5 and I sometimes wish I'd done it like that, just gotten the hardest bit all over with quickly. Wink We think we want two but the thought of starting over again is a bit scary.

Tabbylady · 22/02/2017 20:48

How lovely! Ours are 7 and 8 now and there's 11 months between them. I too got a shock, but it was totally fine and the baby clothes never made it up to the attic!

There was a tough period when they were both toddlers but now it's fab. They're in different school years which I think helps- if you're in England I imagine yours would be too?

I'll not refer you to the Irish twins thread... (though Irish DH refers to ours very affectionately as his awesome Irish twins and I only found out via that thread that it's offensive to some! Shock )

sussexman · 22/02/2017 20:51

Congratulations! It'll be OK!.

They'll be close and have loads of shared experiences that you don't get even with a 2-3 year age gap.

Italiangreyhound · 22/02/2017 20:53

Congratulations. It will be fine.

They are likely to be in different years all being well so not that dissimilar to my sister and I, who had 18 months (and 14 days between us), we are pretty close thanks to some shared interests in our teens and travelling in our 20s. as children we were quite close but also did sight a bit/ a lot and had separate friends. We were not too dissimilar to my own kids who have almost 6 years between them.

It will be fine.

(BUT next time remember to take more precautions!!) Thanks

Italiangreyhound · 22/02/2017 20:54

school years but same calendar year, I mean.

Italiangreyhound · 22/02/2017 20:54

fight a bit!!

Therealloislane · 22/02/2017 20:56

I'd love to know the % of those finding it offensive who are actually Irish.

I don't find it offensive, it's a phrase used in an affectionate way here (Ireland!!!)

There are tworking sets of Irish twins in my family & a set of 'real' ones Grin we never had to play with neighbours or look for friends, we had ready made playmates.

Congratulations op, your babies will always have each other Smile

Mrs9C · 22/02/2017 20:57

This exact thing happened to my friend. Yes, it was hard, but now it's just amazing. Her two kids are so close and the very best of friends. One plus is the baby years are done together, and that can be easier than to keep going back with a wide age gap (which is what I did, and it's not always easier). Congratulations, embrace the miracle.

Princesspinkgirl · 22/02/2017 20:59

Congratulations op ill have a wine to celebrate for you my dd is 7 weeks now

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 22/02/2017 21:02

I'd love to know the % of those finding it offensive who are actually Irish.

Advance search the threads about it. There were Irish that found it offensive.

My BIL and friend are Irish. One finds it offensive, one doesn't so 50/50 Grin

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 22/02/2017 21:02

No, you don't. I think two babies almost a year apart would be much much easier than twins

guess that gives you the award for most suffering parent then.

Who said anything about suffering? Shock. I love my girls and I love belonging to the 'twins' club. I wouldn't change them for the world. But twins are hard work, no sugarcoating it. Smile