My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

[giraffewithalongneck]

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

I nkow a lot of Irish people and I doubt many would be worried about the phrase Irish twins particularly as the Irish being Catholic would tend to have more children than the English so it's probably factually accurate anyway.

[Rugbyplayersarehot]

Op my oldest two are 16 months apart then a gap of 8 years and then 2 more 16 months apart.

All are very very close and we survived youngest now 17.

Fwiw I don't think Irish twins was meant in any other way other than a joke and sorry but there are plenty of women who choose abortion as a valid legal and sensible choice and reading the ops first post it was quite sensible and supportive to point this out.

Not every pregnant woman is thrilled at the prospect.

[ElvishArchdruid]

Congratulations OP, I know it must be a shock, Mother Nature likes to rear her head for us infertile folk when you least expect it. Once the shock has abated you'll get used to it. I have siblings close together, we all get on well, but growing up very different personalities.

If you have a boy, Morrisons are selling 'I'm the BIG brother' t-shirts.

[Rugbyplayersarehot]

potted actually it's not harder per se it totally depends on the individual children. You don't need a nanny although who wouldn't if you could afford to.

[CoffeeDiamonds]

My friend, in her teens, had 2 pregnancies, 11 months apart.

Both were twin pregnancies. One of each set of twins was registered disabled: one with cerebral palsy; one with Downs.

She was an awesome teen mum.

She coped fine because, she said, I do what needs to be done!

[Countrygirl38]

Of course you will be fine. It will be hard work for a while but I think that your children will have a great bond.

[OneWithTheForce]

I don't think Irish twins was meant in any other way other than a joke

Umm, thats the problem!

[tabithakitty]

My neice and nephew have 13 months between them. They are teenagers now and lovely young people. Good luck and enjoy yourself

[Flowerydems]

Actually batteries did say this

Oh wow. If it was me I'd have an abortion.

So yeah termination was mentioned and not reported

[Batteriesallgone]

Flower that is not the same as telling the OP to have an abortion. Please don't misrepresent me.

[Flowerydems]

No but when someone's looking for advice saying if it was you you'd have an abortion how is that appropriate? Especially when the op pointed out she'd struggled to conceive the first. There's no way that's better then calling two together Irish twins

Two close together is easier than one I found. You can juggle it easier. Two in nappies, both of mine toilet trained at the same time will only be a year apart in school. Congratulations op, sure you'll be great with them both, it's honestly easy as, plus a double buggy is a godsend for exercise

[oblada]

Good luck OP! Definitely wouldn't be for me but you must be thrilled in the circumstances!
Out of curiosity: who got pregnant very quickly after a child: did any of you breastfeed? Just curious as my understanding is that with bf it's very unlikely to happen but of course there may be anecdotal evidence that this isn't quite true! I just want to be prepared, expecting 3rd child now and definitely not wanting a 4th one so may need to think early what to do to make sure LOL

[oblada]

I meant to write 'to those who got pregnant' etc.. Anyway!

[Screwinthetuna]

As long as you didn't have a c section, you will be just fine. Congratulations

[SquidgeyMidgey]

I will admit to the cardinal sin of not RTFT but I'm short on time and just wanted to say you'll be ok OP.

There is less than a year between my 2 and tbh if you're already knackered and up to your eyes in milk, nappies and baby crap anyway it makes no odds. You just do one more nappy, one more feed, one more wash... don't stress and don't let people hoick their judgey pants at you because some will- all women in my experience- and some people will give you smutty comments- all men in my experience- about being some special kind of harlot having sex after having a baby, shock and horror.

Breathe, enjoy your pregnancy, and grab every nap you can!

[SquidgeyMidgey]

oblada, I was mixed feeding when I fell pregnant the second time.

[Batteriesallgone]

Because she might have been looking for support for all possible choices? If my post had chimed with her it might have helped. It didn't and she can just ignore it, there are plenty of other voices here.

I have a family member who had an abortion in similar circumstances (baby was a result of 3 IVF attempts, pregnancy conceived a couple of months after birth). Just because someone struggled to have the first it doesn't follow they necessarily want two close together. Or another child at all.

[Nicky42]

I had the same...it was a huge shock, ano the pain of birth hadn't had time to fade haha. BUT mine are 10 & 11 now and although it was hard work for the first few years, I'm always so glad I had two really close together. They are like best friends, and have always kept each other amused.

[NeedMoreSleepOrSugar]

Oblada I fell pregnant while still exclusively bf. Big surprise as periods hadn't returned, no feeds had been dropped etc.

[ElornaElephant]

My aunt has two boys 13 months apart, they are aged 14 months and 2 now and so very sweet, it's lovely to see them playing together. My aunt would be the first to say that it is hard work with two so little but pays off the older they get. My LO is 4 and I had him very young so there will be a large age gap when I potentially go on to have more children in the future, and I think that's often to the detriment of the children's sibling relationships! Best of luck and I hope everything goes well with the pregnancy

[Dilligaf81]

Congratulations.
Mine are 11, 10, 9 and 6 and to be honest the older 3 together were a lot easier than the youngest one.
Im sure youll look back and winder how you did it but at the time its your normal.

[stoptalkingaboutminecraft]

Onewiththe, just saying no and walking off is a bit rude for me as it's generally well meaning older ladies, so I find saying Irish twins with a smile is a more pleasant response!

[Rugbyplayersarehot]

one don't be so pompous.

[Snowflakesandsparkle]

Congratulations OP, at times it will be really hard but, you have hard times in life regardless of how many children you have or don't have and you get through them. You will manage because you have too and given everything that you went through to have your first DC, this pregnancy is definitely meant to be

[Willyoujustbequiet]

Actually I've revised my opinion on the term irish twins slightly. The more I think about it the more I think it's endearing if anything. I've only ever heard it used in a warm or affectionate way.